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Post by Chris on May 9, 2011 18:05:14 GMT -5
Paigesmom, I am not ready for puberty!!! We are still trying to get her potty trained. I have no clue why she refuses to use the potty. Very, very frustrating. I also have no clue as to why she hits, spits, pulls hair, etc. She isn't angry when she does it to other kids. She just seems to like the reaction. Honestly, I wish we could rewind a few years. Chris
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Post by rickismom on May 26, 2011 17:03:08 GMT -5
My daughter Ricki, now 16, was integrated in a regular classroom until two years ago. (Here in Israel integration after eighth grade is VERY difficult). Because she has ADHD, and is smart enough to try and get out of work,we had a significant amount of behavior problems over the years. suggestions and points: 1)If a child is showing a significant amount of impulsivity, and certainly if they are having aggressive behavior, medication can sometimes be a big help. HOWEVER: a)first try decreasing sugar, checking that the child is getting enough sleep (including ruling out sleep apnea) b)make sure that hearing is OK, and eyes checked as well c)medication will not necessarily change the behavior, they are not magic "behavior pills". But they can let you get to a point where you can more successfully work with a behavior modification program 2) a lot of this is being a teen, so teaching your child skills to make him more independent is helpfull. Sometimes if you can link the schoolwork to his real life in a way that he realizes that it will make him more independent. (For example, he needs to learn math so that he can go to the supermarket alone when he will be older....) 3) If a behavior plan is not working, USUALLY it needs to be changed. (SOMETIMES you can have an older aggressicve child and all the behavior plans in the world don't help. Then sometimes the addition of a medication will do the trick) my article on DS and ADHD: www.down-syndrome.org/practice/363/?page=1a post (from my blog)on behavior plans: beneaththewings.blogspot.com/2009/09/effecting-lasting-change-in-ourselves.htmlan excellent book on behavior plans using positive behavior support: www.brookespublishing.com/store/books/hieneman-8655/index.htm
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Post by rickismom on May 26, 2011 17:04:53 GMT -5
Chris, try using POSITIVE behavior support. Be sure you are NOT ging a lot of negative attention.
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Post by JennaK on Feb 8, 2013 22:56:10 GMT -5
Our daughter Jenna who is 10 is and has been having behavior problems primarily at school towards her aides - kicking, spitting and hitting. These behaviors seem to come in cycles then we have our good weeks then the behaviors start again. I am quite sure these behaviors stem from wanting to be the boss and not wanting to do the work. Lately, we have to contribute these behaviors to puberty since she started her period last month. That's another story!! She is so beautiful, smart and fun but these behaviors are taking time away from her school work. We feel like her learning support team and behavior team are doing everything possible to help her through these behaviors and we at home are reinforcing to Jenna that she needs to make good choices plus a whole lot of Barbies have gone missing!!!! Jenna is very smart and knows that these behaviors are wrong and knows that any time she needs a break from work that all she has to do is ask but she's not quite there. We know she'll get through this and thank goodness for the good weeks!!!
I have a question. Do any of your children have numerous aides during their school day? Jenna has numerous ones which we feel is great so she doesn't become dependent on one person bu tI wonder if maybe ther are too many cooks in the kitchen? Any advice on that would be great on this also!
Thanks!
Suzanne
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Post by Chris on Feb 10, 2013 20:36:15 GMT -5
Suzanne ~ I wish I had some advice. Thank the Lord, Sarah has had a pretty good year this year. She does have bad days every now and then but she hasn't been hitting, spitting, pushing, etc. We have had serious issues with her behavior in the past. We do have her own Intuniv and Zoloft. Believe it or not, the Zoloft has really helped. I think she is a lot less grumpy and able to control her emotions better. God bless. It is never easy to see our kids unhappy and out of control. By the way, Sarah only has one aide in her classroom.
Chris
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Post by jennaskye on Feb 12, 2013 20:27:19 GMT -5
Thanks Chris! We are so happy when she does have good days at school then soooo bummed when she has bad days!! We know that she will get through this cycle of behavior but boy does it ache!!! On Monday, we threatened to take away her Special Olympics swimming practice Tuesday night if she didn't start making better choices and she didn't do the greatest job today at keeping her feet to herself so she lost it. I hate it for her!! Jenna is a great kid but she just needs to use her language skills when she gets into situations and involve her aide more if there is an issue I will try to post when she is having some good weeks!
Some good things are that she seems to be learning very well!! She is really doing well with subtraction, moved up a level in math, and is writing A LOT of sentences to reinforce that she is to use nice hands and feet so definitely improving her handwriting.
Thanks again!!
Suzanne
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