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Post by carolyn on Jan 4, 2005 16:32:26 GMT -5
I have been offline for the past week or so, my father had cancer and died last week. I am exhausted and sad, both for myself, my mother and the rest of my family. The whole experience has been wonderful in many ways and so sorrowful in others. I have 4 brothers and 5 sisters, my parents have 25 grandchildren and 2 great grandchildren. As a family we were awesome together- so much support to each other, but in the end, now that the whole thing is over I am just sad. I am the youngest, and the only one who lives in the same town as my parents. I saw a lot of my dad, and even though he had cancer and we knew he was going to die, he ended up dying much quicker than we expected. He was able to die at home and because of the timing, so many of my siblings were off of work for the holidays, we all were around for his final days. Hospice did a wonderful job helping to keep him comfortable. He was a wonderful man- he had 10 children and was an elementary school principal and teacher, so patience and kindness were his gifts.
My heart is heavy-
carolyn
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Post by victday on Jan 4, 2005 17:19:32 GMT -5
I am sorry for your great loss. We had our own loss here; a friend who was my husband's best friend, closer to him than his family is, like a brother to him as he has no brothers.... different loss, different circumstances (unforeseen illness, dashed hopes for what looked like recovery), so while it was totally different, I have an idea what it is like to have the Christmas season spent with these issues, and I extend my sympathies to you and I hope you are able to find some comfort soon.
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Post by Becky on Jan 4, 2005 18:14:50 GMT -5
My prayres are with you and your family at this hard time, my mom passed away in Jan so this is my 1st Christmas with out her so Im here for you. Prayres to you Becky & Family
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Post by Debi on Jan 4, 2005 18:15:25 GMT -5
I am so sorry Carolyn
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Post by updowns on Jan 4, 2005 19:02:30 GMT -5
Oh Carolyn, I am so sorry for your loss. Having lost my own father in September, I know how you feel. Your Dad sounds like a wonderful man and you have a wonderful family and I am sure he is very proud of each and every one of you. I am glad you all got to spend time with him at the end, that will be a help to you in the days ahead. Thinking of you and your family and remembering you in my prayers.
Hugs to you,
Stella
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Post by Chris on Jan 4, 2005 19:05:18 GMT -5
Carolyn,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You were so blessed to have a wonderful dad.
Chris
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Post by Claire on Jan 4, 2005 20:30:38 GMT -5
You are both in my prayers. Sorry you had to have to lose someone so dear.
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Post by momofrussell on Jan 4, 2005 21:12:49 GMT -5
Oh Carolyn, I am truly sorry for the loss of your father. That is wonderful that the siblings were around to be with your father but what a sad time for you and your family.
Just take it easy. We are here if you need us.
Hugs and prayers for you and your family,
A.
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Post by samanthajosmom_12 on Jan 5, 2005 3:37:55 GMT -5
i am very sorry for your loss.my prayers are coming your way. love sue
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Post by snickers71801 on Jan 5, 2005 6:00:47 GMT -5
Carolyn, I just want to send my sympathy and to let you know that I know what you are going through. I lost my mother (48) to cancer on the 10th on Nov. I am an only child and my mother was my best friend. She lived me until the end. She was in the hospital more than anything. I tried to be there for her, but I didn't want to face anything. I hated the hospital, I hated the doctors. Not because they were bad or anything, because I didn't want to face the fact that my mother, my best friend, had been sentenced to death more or less. The last few days were the hardest. I was alone in the hospital room with her day in and day out and she didn't even know who I was. I was there when she went and still don't believe it to this day. I think that is my way of coping. But if you would like to talk. Let me know. Again, I am so sorry for your loss.
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Post by laurasnowbird on Jan 5, 2005 9:24:12 GMT -5
Carolyn,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss, but happy for you that your family was able to be there. What a blessing that must have been for him!
It sounds like he was a wonderful man, and that you are very fortunate to have had a father like him. My grandmother was the special person in my life, and although she has been gone for ten years, I think of her all the time, and have many times smiled to myself when I realize that when faced with a tough situation I ask myself what my grandmother would have suggested. I'm sure you'll find yourself doing the same! Hugs to you and your family. Laura
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Post by Staci on Jan 5, 2005 9:30:25 GMT -5
Carolyn, I'm so sorry about your loss I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Staci
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Post by Mary_L. on Jan 5, 2005 9:41:10 GMT -5
I'm so sorry Carolyn. You and your family are in my prayers. Mary
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Post by meghans_mom on Jan 5, 2005 11:46:41 GMT -5
Carolyn - please let me add my condolences...I am so very sorry for you & your family's loss. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers - hugs - laurie
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Post by MB on Jan 5, 2005 14:19:07 GMT -5
Carolyn,
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad this time last year under similar circumstances. I too have a large family and we were all there for the end.
I am glad you were able to be supportive of each other. I think it is a final gift from your dad.
I hope you will be able to get some rest.
MB
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