Post by momofrussell on Mar 10, 2005 11:57:34 GMT -5
I haven't been on much lately (too much going on here and a pretty crabby girl right now LOL) but I have been trying to read this thread. I too have had this conversation about what CC's initial post was about. I will TRY to not let my crabby new attitude get too much in the way of what I am trying to say LOL, but I will appoligize in advance if I seem curt or insensitve. This very subject hits a sore nerve with me at times though.
First off... if this board were JUST some parents type of board where we just came here to talk about parenting, good and bad, our kids, ect... NOT about DS, we wouldn't even be HAVING this discussion. That is what parenting is about. The Good, the Bad and the Ugly! LOL So, I look at this board as just that... a parenting board. Just an extension of a typical parenting board.
Now, I came here when Russell was 2 yrs old. I wasn't looking for support or needed answers on things, I was really enjoying "Google" when it came out and googled DS and this was the first place I found. I loved it. When I came some MAJOR things were just going down here, I just wadded through it all and here i am today. I found out Russell had DS in utero so reading books is where I get most of my support. Whether it be in a book or on some website reading abstracts, ect.... so I was comfy where I was when Russell was 2. But I loved coming here and having a common bond.
I felt out a place though by the time Russell was 4 because when you bragged about your kids, I could not relate. Didn't know why at the time, but I couldn't. (I now know why.) But I NEVER didn't like the "not so good" posts. I mean, that is parenting. For me, it's not about the DS sometimes. It's just needing to gab with some friends and share about our kids.
Then I heard that since this is an open board, some new parents may NOT like some of the posts we do and MAY get scared.... I say... "BULL S.H.I.T." ;D ;D (Oh, yeah, I was trying not to be curt LOL) I will not stop posting what I do. Some of you may not like how I post or what I say. And IF I scare some "newly pregnant just found out baby has DS" or some new mom or dad with a new baby, well, I personally think those fears were there well before my post.
I do not wan't some place like Laura said "Pollyanna" to come to. I would rather people brag and post positive things like that then complain about everyday life in general... but if you have some issue that isn't pretty or plesant and you NEED support, that is what this site is all about. Being positive helps the next guy feel and be positive. But if you are in need of support, and you complain, cry , kick and scream and tell some horrid yucky story about your child w/DS, then you should be able to and then the responses can help and can be positive support. (if that makes sense).
I will not come to a site that expects less then that. I love the debates and love the fireryness we endure from time to time, and I love the support and love I get here. I personally wouldn't want to HAVE to post in a certain "way". And I think only posting positive, rosey, wonderul only things about our chilren w/DS for the sake of new or going to be new parents in fear of their fears is actually causing a disservince to what this board is all about and could actually do more harm then good. JMO
Again, I am sorry I don't sound too happy in this post. My head is swimming with stuff at home here and have been consumed.
A.
First off... if this board were JUST some parents type of board where we just came here to talk about parenting, good and bad, our kids, ect... NOT about DS, we wouldn't even be HAVING this discussion. That is what parenting is about. The Good, the Bad and the Ugly! LOL So, I look at this board as just that... a parenting board. Just an extension of a typical parenting board.
Now, I came here when Russell was 2 yrs old. I wasn't looking for support or needed answers on things, I was really enjoying "Google" when it came out and googled DS and this was the first place I found. I loved it. When I came some MAJOR things were just going down here, I just wadded through it all and here i am today. I found out Russell had DS in utero so reading books is where I get most of my support. Whether it be in a book or on some website reading abstracts, ect.... so I was comfy where I was when Russell was 2. But I loved coming here and having a common bond.
I felt out a place though by the time Russell was 4 because when you bragged about your kids, I could not relate. Didn't know why at the time, but I couldn't. (I now know why.) But I NEVER didn't like the "not so good" posts. I mean, that is parenting. For me, it's not about the DS sometimes. It's just needing to gab with some friends and share about our kids.
Then I heard that since this is an open board, some new parents may NOT like some of the posts we do and MAY get scared.... I say... "BULL S.H.I.T." ;D ;D (Oh, yeah, I was trying not to be curt LOL) I will not stop posting what I do. Some of you may not like how I post or what I say. And IF I scare some "newly pregnant just found out baby has DS" or some new mom or dad with a new baby, well, I personally think those fears were there well before my post.
I do not wan't some place like Laura said "Pollyanna" to come to. I would rather people brag and post positive things like that then complain about everyday life in general... but if you have some issue that isn't pretty or plesant and you NEED support, that is what this site is all about. Being positive helps the next guy feel and be positive. But if you are in need of support, and you complain, cry , kick and scream and tell some horrid yucky story about your child w/DS, then you should be able to and then the responses can help and can be positive support. (if that makes sense).
I will not come to a site that expects less then that. I love the debates and love the fireryness we endure from time to time, and I love the support and love I get here. I personally wouldn't want to HAVE to post in a certain "way". And I think only posting positive, rosey, wonderul only things about our chilren w/DS for the sake of new or going to be new parents in fear of their fears is actually causing a disservince to what this board is all about and could actually do more harm then good. JMO
Again, I am sorry I don't sound too happy in this post. My head is swimming with stuff at home here and have been consumed.
A.