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Post by Jodi on Apr 14, 2005 11:06:33 GMT -5
Okay, now I'm curious. If some of you don't mind me asking, how old were you when you had your child? I was 29.
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Post by Kristen on Apr 14, 2005 11:19:04 GMT -5
ITA Kristin! So many times I wish that the first time I held him could have been tears of joy and not anguish. The first thing I said when I saw him is how can you say those things - I don't see it! Awful, absolutely awful. UGH! can't hit the rewind!
Jodi - I was 25 when I got pregnant and gave birth to Carter. Somtimes the emphasis put on my age by everyone in the hospital really got me stuck on how the hell can this happen to me now? I seriously cannot even win a 1 out of 3 free coke on a lid, but I managed that one WITH a negative AFP and level 2 u/s (for other reasons but the still do the check as long as they have you there). I used to think of it negatively in those terms, but now I think of it like, I won my one in 30,000 (one of the stats trhown at me at the time) so I won when it counted and he got here!
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Post by Jodi on Apr 14, 2005 11:25:27 GMT -5
Kristin #2 - about the Birth Day... I am on the other side of that coin. I had a difficult pregnancy and as a result I found out about Ryan's condition ahead of time. I'm not sure how to explain it, but when I had Ryan, we had a HUGE celebration. My doctor was on vacation and came in just for the delivery - he didn't want to miss meeting Ryan!! I do feel very fortunate that it was a very positive event.
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Post by Staci on Apr 14, 2005 11:27:37 GMT -5
A, I did ask "WHY" and I still wonder "WHY"...about every other day. But in MY situation, I wonder WHY because I have 2 kiddos with medical problems, one with Down syndrome...my husband and myself were YOUNG when we conceived them both...and both very healthy with healthy family members. I was 22 and 25 when I conceived my kids...my husband is a year older than I. So, my WHY questions...to God and my questions regarding enviromental hazards (this is a reason I feel in my heart with the area I live in, don't know why I feel that way, but I do) can probably be regarded as a totally different situation as ya'lls. I don't know. But yes...I still wonder why...all of the time! But that's just me Staci
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Post by kristin on Apr 14, 2005 11:36:27 GMT -5
I was 34, and had absolutely NO signs of DS on many ultrasounds (done for a condition that made me susceptible to premature shortening of the cervix, but never happened), as well as a "normal" AFP test. (Not that uncommon...!!) All of which makes me believe now, that everyone finds out about the DS exactly when they are "supposed" to (i.e. I would have been a nervous WRECK all of my pregnancy had I know about the DS and the atrioventricular canal defect, BUT some people really "need" to know before hand to prepare themselves, etc.) It was the only "Lottery" odds I have ever won, and I have to say, I'd rather have Cole than any prize or millions of dollars!! And I really mean that!
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Post by Kristen on Apr 14, 2005 11:45:27 GMT -5
I know what you mean Kristin! I found out at the right time, too. Even after he was born a lot of "they have" junk was throw at us which wond up being all WRONG! There is no way to definatively know those medical things beforehand and I think waiting a day to have them provven wrong and know he was okay is much preferable to filling my head with worry for another 4 or 5 months!
Staci - I KWYM. I just found out a few months back that my old house where we lived when Ihad Carter is in a zip code known for bad water. I didn't know then. But then the neighbor across the street had a perfecty typical girl and she was in her 30's as well as our friends who lived about a mile closer to the "danger zone" also in her early 30's so I say well, might not be so much after all!
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Post by Cbean on Apr 14, 2005 13:46:58 GMT -5
I was 37 when I conceived and gave birth to Princess Em. Then less than two weeks later turned 38. Ain't that sweet! LOL! Right now, my body feels 80!
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Post by momofrussell on Apr 14, 2005 14:54:02 GMT -5
Well, Cbean... you still aren't THAT old... you and I are the same age... and if Kevin wouldn't have gotten "fixed" after my 3rd child, I would have been lying next to you delivering another LMAO!
I also agree with the fact that we find out when we need to... or when God wanted us to know... what ever way you want to look at it. I found out before. I have met plenty of parents IRL and online that would have been a nervous wreck finding out before, I was not a nervous wreck through my pregnancy. I am a total planner... I start planning things in my head months in advance for certain things and enjoy doing it... just the way I tick... but ironically, I did NOT have an amnio nor did I care or worry with my pregnancy with Reece, after Russell.
A.
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Post by Jodi on Apr 14, 2005 15:07:33 GMT -5
I think I've said before that I am a control freak. Although I was able to actually celebrate Ryan's birth, finding out ahead of time gave me the false sense that I could control the situation. I guess I went from asking "why" to asking "how". Like A, I'm a planner. I planned to cure Ryan! LOL!! It was all out of love - and I thought if he had enough therapy, he could be great. Sometimes I laugh at myself for how I handled it all, but what the heck... I handled it the best I could.
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Post by Chris on Apr 14, 2005 16:54:19 GMT -5
When I got pregnant with Sarah it was a complete surprise. When I was trying to get pregnant in my early 30's, I had infertility problems and finally ended up getting pregnant after having surgery and taking clomid. My ob/gyn warned me that I needed to get pregnant soon after having the first or I probably wouldn't be able to due to endometriosis. Shortly after my first anniversary (2nd marriage), I found out I was pregnant. I was 42 and hubby was 45. This was my second child and his first. I felt it was a miracle that I got pregnant, especially since we planning on getting pregnant - EVER! When I found out she would have Ds at 18 weeks, I thought God had played a cruel joke on me. Although I got over it rather quickly, I do remember asking God why me. The geneticist explained about sticky chromosomes and I simply accepted the fact. I never have wasted any time wondering if I had done something to cause it. I remember reading a thread a couple of years ago about dental x-rays causing the eggs to be defective. There were a lot of replies and I thought it was odd that so many people wondered why or what had caused their child to have Ds. I am sure that God created Sarah with Ds and He did so for a reason. She is simply love personified. When Sarah was born I was 43 and DH was 46. We were thrilled to have our little girl and relieved that she survived birth and appeared to be healthy. The bonus was that she was also beautiful! If you ever saw my DH with his little girl, there would be no question as to why God gave her to us. I have never seen a daddy love his child as much as my DH loves Sarah. We feel that we have been blessed abundantly. Chris
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Post by christie on Apr 14, 2005 19:04:26 GMT -5
Awwww Chris loved reading your post to this We too are blessed with the BEST Dad ever, HONESTLY, Colin and Chris are just the BEST of Pals and its the purest Love I have truly seen between two people As to the ? of age I was 36 and 1/2 when I gave birth to my little Character CC ~
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Post by Valerie on Apr 14, 2005 19:19:07 GMT -5
I was 2 wks short of being 33 when we had Nicholas. Even though I was in my 30's, it never even occured to me that we might have a child with Ds, or a heart defect for that matter. We didn't know about either one until after he was born, but it would not have made a difference to us. As I said before, it took us 14 years to have another child. For some reason, THIS child was meant to be, and we're truly blessed!!!
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