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Post by amyzimoski on Jun 3, 2004 9:49:13 GMT -5
I wanted to thank all of you for the replies on my question about diagnosis. I have really enjoyed everyone's story. I was talking with my husband the other day about it and one thing that came to my mind was that when I had my daughter everyone had a different response to her birth. Usually you get a congratulations when you have child....I got this response " oh...I'm sorry". I got this response when they found out my daughter has Down Syndrome. I guess they just didn't know what to say. Of course my response to them was " it's ok...I'm not sorry". Any whoooo I am rambling now. Thanks again for sharing!!
God Bless-
Amy
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Post by jennanne on Jun 3, 2004 12:31:05 GMT -5
:)Matthew was diagnosed halfway through my pregnancy and we were surprised as were our families(I was 26, first preg). My husband and I considered terminating the pregnancy but we both decided for different reasons to have Matthew. I have realized through this board that we have been very blessed to have had very supportive family, friends and doctors through the pregnancy and after.
I know it's hard for people to know what to say but I think that you should celebrate a new life, not feel remorse.
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Post by momofrussell on Jun 4, 2004 13:42:22 GMT -5
You guys made me think of a neighbor that walks her dog around here regularly. We just moved in a year ago so we say hello but don't know each other well. She knows my name but I have forgotten hers LOL. Anyway, she stops to talk to me if I am out and we were talking about the kids being out of school for the summer. She was always THRILLED when her kids were home for the summer and asked if I was too.... heehee... yeah, sometimes LMAO!
She then said, "Your boy, he has DS right?" And I said yes. She then asked if he was challenging for me. I always smile, sometimes giggle, and reply, NOPE.. he is the easy one, the two girls are my challenges!!! LOL
I have had LOTS of people appologize. I think most is out of not knowing what to say. And it's usually ones who have not been around someone with a disability. I suppose to the outside world, a child with a disability looks challenging. And they are at times... but, then we look at those other times.. those TONS of wonderful times!!!!
A.
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Post by Alice on Jun 4, 2004 13:59:47 GMT -5
I do not think so the we should be upset when people say "sorry". They do not know what to say. Probably they should not say anything... I remember myself not having Luke and I was sorry for people who had children with disabilities. Actually I am still sorry... Also I am very sorry for my son that he is very delayed in his speech and other areas. I am so sorry for him when younger kids call him "a baby". I am also sorry that the things my older kids did with out teaching them, Luke can not do even with our very hard work. Please do not be upset on that people who are sorry for us, they know that our lives are harder than their with out disabled kids. We know that too, but we just do not want to be remind about that. Alice
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