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Post by Renee' on Sept 4, 2004 17:07:21 GMT -5
I am only writing because I really need some help, advice, prayers and thoughts...
We think Lauren has been abused sexually by a teachers aide. We have filed charges against him along with another family of a 5 year old with Autism. I am afraid this man is going to walk away with no charges because the other girl is nonverbal and because Lauren has Down Syndrome. The other girls behavior has changed just as Laurens. A change in sleeping pattern. No more potty training. Being afraid. Lauren told me this guy hurt her and pointed to her genital and her behind area.But because they can't say he has been alone with either of them I think they are not going to charge him. I don't know what to do. I need to know if there is an advocacy program for our children. Just because they can't talk like normal children their actions should not be ignored.
Anyone have any thoughts???
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Post by ourangelalicia on Sept 4, 2004 19:05:32 GMT -5
Okay, my DH is a Sex crimes detective, so I have a few questions...
First of all, has Lauren been examined by a Dr to determine if there is any obvious signs of abuse??? This would be valuable evidence to go with her testimony.
Second of all, if she can tell YOU what happened then can she tell the police what happened??? The child gets the benefit of the doubt, so if she can tell them what happened that would also be great. And a lot of times they won't make kids testify in court.
Has the other child been examined to see if there is obvious signs of abuse???
Isn't there someone else who can prove that this person was alone with them?
Where are you located? If you feel more comfortable emailing me then please do, my DH might know someone in your area and he could make a call for you.
Mommy_To_Ali@Yahoo.com
I am sorry you are going through this, I've seen what it does to kids and family...and it just makes me never want to let my kids out of my sight.....
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Post by Pat on Sept 4, 2004 19:12:29 GMT -5
I am so sorry you're going through this. Know you're in our prayers. Pat
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Post by Sherri on Sept 4, 2004 21:08:17 GMT -5
Omg Renee, My heart goes out to Miss Lauren & to the other child that has been abused. I don't have any words of wisdom for you, but did want to share the following link with you. I'm hoping that you'll be able to get in touch with someone listed & that they will be able to help you guys through this horrible ordeal. www.yellowpagesforkids.com/help/ca.htmHang in there sweetie!! I can only imagine how hard this is to deal with.......please know that Lauren & your family are close in my thoughts & prayers. ((Hugs)) Sherri
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Post by Cathy on Sept 4, 2004 22:08:25 GMT -5
Renee,
Hugs to you all. We are going thru a similar situation with Katie and her aide...all though I am pretty sure nothing sexual happened, but she was being targeted. We called the state police and they are investigating.,
I know how awful you must feel. I was sick for weeks ! Hugs Hugs and more hugs.
you are all in our prayers,
Cathy and the Princess Katie and Emily too!
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Post by christie on Sept 5, 2004 19:41:24 GMT -5
WOW RENEE, a ghost from the past ;D GREAT to see you posting back here again girl, although wish this recent problem was not what you were posting about I was sooooo sad to read your post YIKES did LAUREN just come and tell you this guy hurt her??
I have no advise as THANKFULLY have never had to experience such a thing. BUT God forbid I did I would go straight to the police and see what they reccomend the next step be.
HUGS to you guys
CC from New Jersey
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Post by MaggiesMom on Sept 5, 2004 20:06:42 GMT -5
Renee,
I'm so sorry to hear that this has happened. I think you've gotten good advice about seeking professional help with the police and maybe some counselors. Documentation will be vitally important.
Here in VA, we have a state run organization that has lawyers and other professionals who's sole purpose is to defend the rights of those who are disabled. Maybe your state has such an organization. It's worth a look.
I pray that it's all a big mistake, but if it isn't, I pray that the person will be punished to the fullest extent possible.
Keep us posted. We'll be praying for you all.
Robin M - Maggie's mom
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Post by MB on Sept 5, 2004 21:03:28 GMT -5
I am absolutely heartbroken for you. It sounds like you are getting excellent advice. I can offer prayers at this very difficult time.
One question, has the aide been fingerprinted?
MB
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Post by Staci on Sept 5, 2004 23:21:29 GMT -5
Renee, I am so sorry for you and Lauren I hope that it is not true, and I agree that if it is true...I hope this person gets punished big time! How scary My heart hurts for you...I can't even imagine what you must be feeling. I'm sorry that I don't have any advice. Hugs and prayers to you. Your girls are beautiful, by the way.
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Post by momoftwo on Sept 5, 2004 23:44:29 GMT -5
Do I have any thoughts??? OH MAN!! Our children ARE targets...for so many reasons. This is ANY parent's biggest fear. My sincere thoughts and prayers go out to you all of you through this. You've gotten some good advice so far, but keep us posted. HOPEFULLY the next post will be that saying she is fine and unharmed in ANY way. Again, prayers are being sent your way!!
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Post by Stan and Harry's Dad on Sept 6, 2004 7:16:44 GMT -5
RENEE - dont' mention the name or point us in the direction of the school it's in. while you are trying to pin one on him, he could sue for defamation.
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Post by rickismom on Sept 6, 2004 17:18:14 GMT -5
Gee, how terrible. Sexual abuse of our kids is often very hard to prove. That is one reason why our kids need pracice (like when at the doctors) saying "This hurts." etc., and we have to teach them a specific word for genitals. In such cases, they are more likely to be believed. Was the suspect at least taken out of the school?
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Post by shellk on Sept 6, 2004 17:26:37 GMT -5
Renee,
OMG !!! I am not going to say that I am speechless, because I could run my mouth forever, but this happened to a great firend of mine only it was her 17 year old next door nieghbor that did it to her 6 year old..And that was pure H#@@ to go through with her. I would advise to have her thouroughly checked over from head to toe by a doctor. I am going to put you and Miss Lauren on the top of my prayer list. If this did happen to her, I really hope they bury this man. I wish you all the luck in the world with this.
Hugs to you and your family
Michele
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Post by updowns on Sept 6, 2004 17:54:02 GMT -5
OMG Renee - my heart goes out to you - I think that is any parent's worst nightmare. I can't add to the great advice already given and I would def. follow thru with a medical check-up and police.
Just wanted to send hugs to you and dear little Lauren (who is a beauty) and let you know you are in my thoughts and prayers.
hugs
Stella
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Post by Claire on Sept 6, 2004 20:09:03 GMT -5
That is terrible and my heart goes out to all of you. You are getting good advice from others here, nothing I can add but a few prayers that this gets solved and you can get peace of mind. Hugs!
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