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Post by Renee' on Sept 7, 2004 0:22:37 GMT -5
We did have Lauren checked out and we do believe she has been hurt. We are waiting for the DA to make the move on Wed and tell us if he is going to charge him or not. The city police have been dragging their feet because if they do arrest him they are admitting our children were hurt in their schools. I am just heartbroken. I am mostly looking for someone/orginization that would stand next to us on TV and defend the right of our children. Basically what they are saying is your child is mentally handicapped so we are not going to take her word.
I will keep you all updated. Tomorrow is her first day at school here and she is not wanting to go.
Thank you all for your prayers and thoughs.
Renee'
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Post by Renee' on Sept 7, 2004 2:51:32 GMT -5
I also want to say:
PLEASE KNOW WHO WILL BE WORKING WITH YOUR CHILDREN IN SCHOOL!! IT IS YOUR RIGHT TO KNOW EVERY PERSONS NAME AND WHAT THEY WILL BE DOING FOR/WITH YOUR CHILD
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Post by Emilysmom on Sept 7, 2004 6:22:19 GMT -5
Renee~
I really am at a loss for words. I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this. I wish I knew of an organization to support you. Not only would this help Lauren and the other little girl, but you are so right........there needs to be a precendent set that shows that simply having speech limitations is NO reason to discredit what kids say happened to them. For a young child, Lauren seems to have verbalized and showed you pretty clearly. Please know that your family is in my thoughts and prayers during this really hard time.
Susan
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Post by Alice on Sept 7, 2004 8:30:53 GMT -5
OMG....
It is so terrible. I am so upset of know what had happened to Lauren and what you are going thru.
How some one could do such things to small children? Are they humans?
How they (school) hire people with out any special tests or so?
Why they do not have hidden cameras at schools? What if you call TV by yourself?
I have so many whys and I am very angry on that system where every one is trying to cover his/her own ass, but not taking the honors side.
Sorry for you Renee', hugs, prayers, and best wishes to your family. You were lately upset about Lauren's sudden behavior change and now I can see why.
I am heartbroken....
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Post by momofrussell on Sept 7, 2004 9:00:47 GMT -5
"We did have Lauren checked out and we do believe she has been hurt" you say "do believe".. as in you and your husband, or the docs? I only am questioning it because it sounds iffy, KWIM? The docs should know if there is "evidence" or sexual abuse. They know what they are looking for. SO, if there IS evidence of it on Lauren's body, then how could they NOT go forward with the investigation and charge this person??? IF there is evidence, I would start documenting EVERYTHING, take Lauren to more docs, find a good lawyer, (there are ones that will do it pro bono, you just gotta find one) and keep going foward. IF there is no physical evidence on Lauren, your case will be hard to prove and may be a mute point... so get your ducks in a row and go foward that way! I SURE hope Lauren is ok through all of this.. AND you too! I am very sorry you are having to go through this... yes, a mother's worst nightmare  Sorry Renee!!! A. |
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Post by Robin on Sept 7, 2004 9:35:47 GMT -5
Renee, I am home for only a short time til I have to run back to work, home for a huge "Chase meeting" but i had to stop her before I go post about it to say, I havent read your whole pst but Kristi told me some of it and then Susan did at our Ohio trip. Please know I will be back later to read the whole thing and Renee, my heart is crying for Lauren and what she has been thru, I cant even begin to start here or I will be crying all over the place. Love to you, I'll be back to read.
Robin
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Post by Kristen on Sept 7, 2004 12:16:23 GMT -5
I am SO SORRY! This is horrendous! I agree, getting her checked out is the first and probably best thing to do. I woudl think because hse is so young it would be pretty obvious, KWIM? What was the reaction to this by the school or the teacher's aide? I am praying for you. I am just so sorry!
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Post by Renee' on Sept 7, 2004 13:45:48 GMT -5
Lauren was checked by 2 specialist. They both believe she has been abused but because it was 6 months ago there is no tearing etc. The other child has OBVIOUS scars and tears and they are NOT taking her case because she can't talk and they can't place her or Lauren alone with the man. I say BS because they said he was not with the other girl because he was with L on that day. It is a huge mess. They did not report it to the state at first. And they never told us.
She started school today and cowered in her corner telling me she hated school and did not want to go. I had to tell her that bastard was not there and would NEVER hurt her again.
I am just sick. Please pray that tomorrow we get some good news that they are taking this case.
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Post by Mary_L. on Sept 7, 2004 15:27:53 GMT -5
Renee~I am so sorry Lauren has had to go through this. I cant imagine how heartbreaking it must be for you. I will definitely keep Lauren and your family in my prayers and hopefully we'll hear that they are taking your case.
Mary L.
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Post by momofrussell on Sept 7, 2004 17:19:35 GMT -5
Oh how SAD for Lauren that she was afraid at school! I don't know if I could send my baby to school knowing they felt like that I am truly sorry Renee!!! I hope something becomes of it... In light of your post about Lauren's behaviors lately, it all makes SO much sense on why she is having issues. I really think a good therapist might really help ease the pain for ALL of you  Sounds like Lauren needs some good TLC from some outside sources to comfort her along with mommy and daddy's comforts....  Hugs Renee A. |
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Post by Cathy on Sept 7, 2004 18:50:45 GMT -5
Renee,
I cannot hold back my tears and anger any longer. How can they say they will not take the case just because the other child cannot talk? There are ways to get the information from a non communicative child. There are experts that specialize is this. They would rather leave a possible sex abuser out there to hurt other kids?
That really sucks. I hope you know that you are in my prayers daily and give that precious angel a great big hug from all of us here at Uno Mas!
We are still awaiting the results of the investigation involving Katie and I know how "sick" it is makin me, I can only imagine the feelings you are experiencing. Thank God your husband is there to be with you!
Keep us posted.
Cathy
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Post by christie on Sept 7, 2004 20:51:05 GMT -5
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Post by rickismom on Sept 8, 2004 7:01:56 GMT -5
Gee, I am still very upset about this... our worst nightmare, and you have to deal with this! I agree- I would get your daughter to therapy (play therapy can be very usefull) is she is scared of school.
Saddest thing is, that if they DON'T charge him, he can't be labelled, and will probably just go get a job in a school elsewhere in your state.....
Also, don't kid yourselves, this is not only due to non-verbalization, but also due to the "R" label. In order to get a conviction, I should think that they would have to show that he had opportunity to be alone with them. It is almost impossible to get convictions, so don't be surprised if the police don't charge him. How grossly sickening and I suspect that all of us could scream from the frustration of knowing that our kids are so vulnerable.
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Post by Alice on Sept 8, 2004 8:54:23 GMT -5
I thought about this a lot lately and it seems to me that some people (aids or others) which have serious problems (sick people) made a decision to work with disabled kids to get the easy access to them.
I could be wrong, but when I see a big guy working with small kids, it makes me think that something is not right is going here. He seems to me not on his place.
Why school system do not do an evaluation test to check whom they put to work with children.
Hugs to both of you Renee' and Cathy...
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Post by Renee' on Sept 8, 2004 10:30:12 GMT -5
In my heart I know he is going to get away. The paper said she was a mentally retarded child. Never put she had Down Syndrome. We are hopeful that in our civil case it will come out. Then they can still charge him. Again, thank you for your support. As I hear things I will keep you updated. Today was a better school day. She told me to go home and gave me a kiss |
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Sorry Renee!!!
Sounds like Lauren needs some good TLC from some outside sources to comfort her along with mommy and daddy's comforts.... 
