Post by Jackie on Oct 13, 2004 14:50:42 GMT -5
Ok...debated on whether or not to pass this along and decided I would. I heard about Anne yesterday from our president of the DS guild here. Anne is the woman I posted about last year...asking for some support for her when she went to Cincinatti to have her baby to be close to the pediatric cardiac surgeon. It is a real situation and Anne is a very real person...She lived here in Amarillo until this summer.....maybe someone on this list lives near her and can help. Anne is a woman of very strong religous faith.
Jackie
Dear Family and Friends,
This is a very difficult letter to write, but I am at the point of desperation. I'm not sure where to start or what to say. Please take time to read this and then please forward it to people in your email address book. This is not a hoax or a joke--unfortunately, this is my real life. I've tried to edit it down so it doesn't sound like a "Jerry Springer" episode....
In June of this year my husband moved us from Texas to Kansas City for a chance at his 'dream job'. I left friends and family behind to give him this opportunity.
On September 15th my husband informed me that he no longer loved me and he wanted a divorce. This was a complete shock to me. Just the week before he had told me I was the best wife ever and he loved me more than anything. We were actually planning our next child!
After much denial he has finally admitted to an affair. He is involved with another teacher at the high school where he works.
The last month has been hell. I have had to go to the police for a restraining order, but was afraid to sign it because they would serve him at the school and I don't want him to lose his job (he carries our daughter's insurance). I have had to go to his friends, fellow coaches and finally his boss to get him to stop harassing me.
He has overdrawn our joint bank account and has now set up his own account somewhere else. His next paycheck will go to him alone, and he will decide what to give us.
I have stayed home with our children for the entire marriage. Both children have Down syndrome. Our son, Cael, died in 2002 when he was only 16 months old. Emeline was also born with Down syndrome and has a severe heart defect and chronic lung disease. Emeline is more than a full time job. She has had open heart surgery and is very medically fragile. She needs to be isolated from possible exposures to germs and goes to a special school for therapy 2 days a week.
He has told me that none of this matters, he wants out and he's not paying for me to 'maintain my lifestyle' (remember that we live on a teacher's salary). This is crazy! He is asking me to put Emeline in daycare and go back to work so that he can have his freedom. She would not survive. This is not a typical child and this is not a typical situation. We have already lost one child and I'm not willing to risk the one I have left.
I have no guarantees that I will be able to pay for rent, utilities and food. We are trapped far away from home in a bad situation. I need to divorce this man as soon as possible and make sure my daughter is taken care of. As a Christian I do not take divorce lightly. This is not an easy decision for me. But I have run out of options.
I need a great lawyer who can make sure I can get everything my daughter will need--please understand this is not a child who will be on her own at 18. The parental commitment to Emeline is for life and there are many considerations that need to be addressed.
I am not some lazy person who doesn't want to go back to work---there are days I fantasize about getting up, going to an office and talking to adults all day. At some point I will go back to work, but my child needs me at home with her full time right now.
That is why I am sending this out. I am asking everyone who reads this to please send me one dollar ($1). I have set up a post office box because I didn't want to give out my address on the internet. I know this is a crazy idea. But as Emeline's mom, I am willing to try anything to protect her. If everyone who reads this would send just $1 and then forward this email I could get us out of this mess. Here's our address:
Anne & Emeline
P.O. Box 135
Platte City, MO 64079
Please pray for us--for safety, peace, for Emeline's health and for me that I not let this situation make me bitter. And please pray for my husband, he needs it. Thank you and God Bless You.
Jackie
Dear Family and Friends,
This is a very difficult letter to write, but I am at the point of desperation. I'm not sure where to start or what to say. Please take time to read this and then please forward it to people in your email address book. This is not a hoax or a joke--unfortunately, this is my real life. I've tried to edit it down so it doesn't sound like a "Jerry Springer" episode....
In June of this year my husband moved us from Texas to Kansas City for a chance at his 'dream job'. I left friends and family behind to give him this opportunity.
On September 15th my husband informed me that he no longer loved me and he wanted a divorce. This was a complete shock to me. Just the week before he had told me I was the best wife ever and he loved me more than anything. We were actually planning our next child!
After much denial he has finally admitted to an affair. He is involved with another teacher at the high school where he works.
The last month has been hell. I have had to go to the police for a restraining order, but was afraid to sign it because they would serve him at the school and I don't want him to lose his job (he carries our daughter's insurance). I have had to go to his friends, fellow coaches and finally his boss to get him to stop harassing me.
He has overdrawn our joint bank account and has now set up his own account somewhere else. His next paycheck will go to him alone, and he will decide what to give us.
I have stayed home with our children for the entire marriage. Both children have Down syndrome. Our son, Cael, died in 2002 when he was only 16 months old. Emeline was also born with Down syndrome and has a severe heart defect and chronic lung disease. Emeline is more than a full time job. She has had open heart surgery and is very medically fragile. She needs to be isolated from possible exposures to germs and goes to a special school for therapy 2 days a week.
He has told me that none of this matters, he wants out and he's not paying for me to 'maintain my lifestyle' (remember that we live on a teacher's salary). This is crazy! He is asking me to put Emeline in daycare and go back to work so that he can have his freedom. She would not survive. This is not a typical child and this is not a typical situation. We have already lost one child and I'm not willing to risk the one I have left.
I have no guarantees that I will be able to pay for rent, utilities and food. We are trapped far away from home in a bad situation. I need to divorce this man as soon as possible and make sure my daughter is taken care of. As a Christian I do not take divorce lightly. This is not an easy decision for me. But I have run out of options.
I need a great lawyer who can make sure I can get everything my daughter will need--please understand this is not a child who will be on her own at 18. The parental commitment to Emeline is for life and there are many considerations that need to be addressed.
I am not some lazy person who doesn't want to go back to work---there are days I fantasize about getting up, going to an office and talking to adults all day. At some point I will go back to work, but my child needs me at home with her full time right now.
That is why I am sending this out. I am asking everyone who reads this to please send me one dollar ($1). I have set up a post office box because I didn't want to give out my address on the internet. I know this is a crazy idea. But as Emeline's mom, I am willing to try anything to protect her. If everyone who reads this would send just $1 and then forward this email I could get us out of this mess. Here's our address:
Anne & Emeline
P.O. Box 135
Platte City, MO 64079
Please pray for us--for safety, peace, for Emeline's health and for me that I not let this situation make me bitter. And please pray for my husband, he needs it. Thank you and God Bless You.
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Susan, Proud mom of Michael (32), Justin (25) Emily (22ds), and Jordan (20).
If anything, I will try to give a donation. What a horrible situation.