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Post by Jackie on Oct 17, 2004 9:15:13 GMT -5
Keep Emily in your thoughts...I had to tell her yesterday on the phone that a friend of hers from high school and SO was found dead on the floor of his apartment....apparently from a seizure. He was her age and had not shown up for work for several days when they went looking for him.
Ruben had come to all of Emilys parties for years and was a really nice guy. I could tell she was pretty upset when I told her. I had called earlier and clued in Norine that I would be calling....and she suggested calling back in the evening because they would all be home.
This is her third friend to pass away since she graduated.....I guess having friends with disabilities means she has a group of people in her life that are a bit more fragile. I am sure we will have several conversations about it all....but at least Elvis is not a part of her life anymore. He used to "talk to the dead"....and was convinced some of them lived as 'zombies' in his attic....which often made for some interesting discussions when he came over....to say the least.
I am sorry, though, that she wont have the closure of going to the services....but I will just have to tell her about it all.
Jackie
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Post by SuziF on Oct 17, 2004 10:39:05 GMT -5
Oh WOW! Big hugs going out to Emily & you.
I was wondering what had become of Elvis. Prayers for Ruben's family.
Suzi
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Post by MB on Oct 17, 2004 11:39:16 GMT -5
I am so sorry to hear about Elvis. My thoughts are with you, Emily and Elvis' family.
MB
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Post by Emilysmom on Oct 17, 2004 12:49:06 GMT -5
Jackie~ I know this has to be hard on Emily...especially since she is far away and won't be able to attend the funeral with her friends. I'll keep Reuben's parents in my prayers. Can't imagine anything worse.
Susan#nosmileys
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Post by MB on Oct 17, 2004 14:08:05 GMT -5
Jackie,
I am confused. I will keep Reuben and Elvis in my prayers along with Emily.
MB
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Post by Ericsmomma on Oct 17, 2004 16:48:55 GMT -5
Jackie,
Thats so sad....Rueben's family will be in my prayers..
and Emily too...it must be so sad for her...these are
young people...makes you remember how fragile life is.
Dolly
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Post by briarsmom on Oct 17, 2004 17:50:51 GMT -5
So sorry !! You are in my thoughts.
Lori
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Post by Jackie on Oct 18, 2004 7:24:35 GMT -5
No....it wasnt Elvis who passed away...he is still very much alive...although not in our lives anymore. He developed some pretty serious emotional problems after a visit a year and a half ago to relatives in the South. There was some talk about some of his cousins friends giving him some mind altering drugs possibly that caused all this...anyhow....he is on such heavy doses of meds that he cant focus very well and make him pretty hyper. He just drops in every now and then.
The young man who died was another friend of Emily's.
But thanks for your concern.
Jackie
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Post by rickismom on Oct 18, 2004 15:18:02 GMT -5
In the book DIFFERENCES IN COMMON, the author describes her son's dealling with the death of a close friend... I quess it is inevitable, when friends have disabillities. But that doesn't make it any easier...
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Post by Cbean on Oct 18, 2004 15:53:04 GMT -5
Will definately keep Emily and Rueben's family in my thoughts and prayers.
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Post by Alice on Oct 18, 2004 15:58:34 GMT -5
My prayers are sent too...
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Post by vicki c on Oct 19, 2004 22:46:32 GMT -5
OH WOW JACKIE, THAT'S SAD!!!! WAS HE INVOLVED IN SPECIAL OLYMPICS? I DON'T THINK THAT I EVER MET HIM. I HOPE EMILY IS HANDLING THE NEWS OK...........
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Post by Jackie on Oct 20, 2004 7:39:58 GMT -5
Yes he was in SO but these past few years was more dedicated to his jobs than his sports.
I guess Emily is taking it ok...I cant seem to get her to turn on her cell phone so we can chat. Apparently she keeps forgetting to recharge.
Jackie
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Post by christie on Oct 20, 2004 20:27:41 GMT -5
Awwww JACKIE, I am sooo sad to read this news bout Emily's friend, Ruben  Hope you don't mind me asking, BUT you posted that "had not shown up for work for several days when they went looking for him." Did I miss something, did Ruben also have a disability?? Just seem sooo sad that several days went by till they went to look for him Was he completly liveing on his own?? Hope you don't mind the ?'s, this is just one of my greatest fears as Chris gets older Many Blessings going out to his family, they must be devastated (sp?) CC ~ |
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Post by Jackie on Oct 21, 2004 8:31:17 GMT -5
Thats ok....CC....Ruben was disabled....not sure exactly what the nature was...fairly high ability level. He lived under the auspices of our local TPMHMR agency in a large apartment complex and had a roommate not as able as he was.
He worked at Walmart but had recently changed to the local chain of do nut Stops here.
He was a good employee and it was not like him to miss a day.
I guess the first day they phoned when he didnt show up and got no answer.
The second day....the woman who owns these and has recently started employing more people with disabilities...got concerned and went over to his apt herself (dont know if she tried to go thru TPMHMR and got no help or what).
They found him on the floor and discoved he had died two days earlier.
I cant tell you about the roommate....he did tell HIS parents on the phone that his roommate was sick and wouldnt wake up....but not sure of the rest of the story.
But just think about this ...in terms of letting go....this could happen to anyone of us or our other kids.....
One of my daughters lives far away and I often wonder if something happened to her...how long it might be before I knew anything .....
Life is not without risk ....for any of us. Everytime Emily flies alone my heart pounds....but she always makes it....and then I beam......We all have to let go at some point in time or we willl end up making a reality of that terrible MYTH........Perpetual Children.
Jackie
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