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Post by momofrussell on Jun 13, 2007 7:59:54 GMT -5
Karen, I think the same thing applies for the most part. He needs to do it when he is ready. I was a single mom from the time Regan was born until she was 2 1/2 (when I met Kevin). I am a "full disclosure" kinda personality so I always told guys that I had a daughter. Alot would say "oh that's cool" or "that doesn't matter/bother" but what that really meant is that they were just looking for some "fun" and nothing long term What does happen is that it really puts you in this different "pool" so to speak. It truly weeds out certain prospects because you do have a child. I was actually in a very serious relationship prior to meeting my husband now and this guy ADORED Regan. Regan was the center of both of our lives. As well as my husband now. Another thing for dating a guy, especially because I was still in my 20's... is that it's hard for the boys to run to mommy to say "oh, I found THE ONE... but she has a child" LOL Mom's sometimes don't want to hear it So, it's nice when you really really like/love a guy and his parents are good too! Ok.. so I might be digressing a bit... but I still say depending on who is doing dating, what the purpose of the date is... go from there for the disclosure... or if you are like me.. say it on the first date and see how that goes too! LOL A.
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Post by Jessie on Jun 13, 2007 10:29:31 GMT -5
Well, first and foremost - CONGRATS Miss Robin on jumping into the cesspool of dating! LOL Better you than me.
I am coming from the perspective of the one being dated and not having any kids of my own at the time. I suppose it was a little different because I was friends with Brian's sister before he and I ever met. I had heard everything about Jason before I met them . . . I will never get the vision out of my head seeing my future SIL (not knowing she would be my SIL) working that treadmill at the gym at 5:00 in the morning completely ticked off at Brian's soon-to-be ex wife. She wanted to fly to Florida and kick her butt.
But, I digress. Personally, I think it's something that should be told right away - only because it would just be weird to figure out later on when is the right time, KWIM? However, sounds like you are just having fun and enjoying hanging out with this guy on a not-so-serious basis, so it's probably not that big of a deal. I bet once the right guy comes along you will feel it's not even a question anymore about when the right time to tell him is.
I have a different scenario to share. One of my cousins had gastric-bypass surgery a few years ago. She was dating this guy (after she lost a ton of weight) that she really, really liked and she thought they had gotten to a serious point in their relationship. When she told him about the surgery and she used to be overweight, he completely bailed out. He was rather shallow anyway, so good riddance. The next guy she dated she decided to just be up front about it and if he didn't like it then he could hit the road - but it would be before she got too emotionally involved with him. Well, they just celebrated their one year anniversary and are expecting their first child in November.
Guess you just never know!
KEEP US POSTED ON YOUR LOVE LIFE!! All of us married people will be living vicariously through you! LOL
Jessie
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Post by chasesmom on Jun 13, 2007 19:46:35 GMT -5
Rickismom....LOLOLOL...!!!!!! You must have me confused with Susan or A!!! You know I am the most normal one here, ROFLOLPMP!!!! Okay everyone pick up your feet, its getting deep! And yes you guys, I am thinking Greg and I are just having too much fun to get serious and I dont think he is the type I would get serious with, meaning he is not husband material. We love to have fun but we both draw this invisible line and agree to not cross it, I think he was hurt once as deeply as I, we dont talk serious stuff and I perfer to keep it that way. About Chase.... I hope every one understands, and I fear alot don't, not everyone here knows Chase anymore....he doesnt just have your regular garden type variety of DS...he comes with a whole slew of other disabilities to go along with the deal and his behaviors leave MUCH to be desired. I love him dearly, I am soooo sooo proud of the progress he has made and how smart he is, and I do mean he is super smart! he can be such a charmer and he has the best smile and twinkle in his eye. However...that is in a good moment. And only half the time...it is the other half that is shocking and scary and I dont want to have to explain, the hitting kicking swearing spitting...nope, I guess I am NOT ready, LOL answered myself again. HUGE hugs to all of you guys! Robin
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