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Post by Jackie on Jul 5, 2007 15:01:42 GMT -5
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Post by Jessie on Jul 5, 2007 15:07:44 GMT -5
She did an excellent job in writing that.
I hear that word all the time and I pick my battles, I guess depending on my mood at the time. I feel like it's a massive uphill battle that I just don't feel like fighting it sometimes.
What really grinds me is when family members say it. Funny because they all love and accept Jason, but as what was pointed out in the article, it's become so acceptable that they don't even realize that it hurts.
Jessie
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Post by Jackie on Jul 5, 2007 15:11:28 GMT -5
Yes Jessie...with you there...people in my extended family use it too...well one that I know of does. But my very best friend also does and her kids too...of course I am going to send her this link..and ask her to pass it on.
Jackie
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Post by mollysmomma on Jul 6, 2007 1:03:57 GMT -5
I'm one of those that just keeps pluggin at it....and believe it needs to go the way of all the OTHER un-PC words....it DOES hurt when distastefully used, and is OFFENSIVE TO ME!!
With my family, i'm understanding, but keep on...I tell them to plug another r-starting word in, and just move over to it...like ridiculous, and also explain that is SO 'high-school' to continue to use it...as well as "you might as well be wearing a sign that says yer ignorant and rude"
It will take awhile...but we have had some good press...not as much as the bad...but some good.
A summer intern used it the other day..and my RPH kinda gives me a 'shoulder shrugging' apologetic look....i was on my way out, and say..."no problem, it's just 'bucky', and...well...you KNOW!!' (implying that he was too arrogant and stupid, which he is, to know better.)
and it was said loud enough for him to hear....and he's not used it since! Although im SURE he PONTIFICATED for HOURS on how he can! JJeeeeeeez that jack ass is gonna be my boss one day!! AUGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!
:-) different lessons, for different people....and we CAN accomplish it...one at a time.
Keep up the good fight!
e
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Post by mollysmomma on Jul 6, 2007 1:05:09 GMT -5
oh yea...the good press is katie courick....if you link to myspace...and go to my 'one true media acct...i have it saved there!! GO KATIE!
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Post by chinadoll on Jul 6, 2007 3:36:23 GMT -5
Thanks for posting this story. Wow, it's really well written. I'm going to be forwarding the link to lots of folks I know! Some of our friends "joke" using the "r" word all the time and think it should be no big deal to us, but actually, it's really offensive! When we confront them they blow us off and always say "we just don't think of your son like that" But whether it's our son, or someone else's child, gimme a break...it's just plain rude!
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Post by ALLISA on Jul 6, 2007 7:34:42 GMT -5
That was a great article...thanks for sharing....
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Post by CC on Jul 6, 2007 22:18:24 GMT -5
Haven't seen it till just now THANKS for sharing. I just passed it on to lots  CC ~ |
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Post by chasesmom on Jul 7, 2007 12:29:51 GMT -5
Ahhh Jackie, until the day I die I will never allow someone near me to use that word without my telling them it offends me. My family I simply put in their place, they are all educated and know better than to insult us like that! My friends I remind I do appreciate the use of that word. Strangers I simply say excuse me that is offensive to me. My students...seeing as they have some degree of it and use that word the most always get my famous lecture but I have to say that every fall when school starts I stand back and smile as I listen to my old students catch the new ones using the r-word and quickly telling them to never say it in front of Ms Humble cause she will "tear your head off cause she don't accept that word" LOLOL and then they proceed to explain my view point on it. I feel such pride in them....they have been forced to listen to being called retard their whole school years and they learn quickly to use it as defense on others until they come to my school and find out no one is a retard and you will not get away with the word without repercussions from me. If we all did that, if everyone here stepped up to the plate and did not allow anyone they know to use the word, it would be a huge start. I have never thought it ok to sit back and ignore it...because I wouldnt ignore it if someone called me a filthy name. We can correct people and stop the use of that word and do it with tact....I am never rude about it....well almost never, but I am direct and to the point and I can do it with a smile. Ok, I'm off the band wagon, thanks for posting that link Jackie, I am sending it to everyone I know!!!!!
hugs, Robin
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Post by Debbie on Jul 7, 2007 12:36:34 GMT -5
I don't hear that word much to be honest. I think it is because I am not always out in public much. Steve, my boy-friend, says he hears all kinds of words at work and at the mall. He works at Dillards. When I do hear it though, I do give a dirty look at that person. I have only heard it from the younger folks such as teenagers and those in their twenties and thirties. They don't think of it as bad until someone corrects them. It seems to be what people say these days. I don't like it. It does bother me but I try to not go ballistic. I just stare. You can really communicate by not saying something sometimes. I don't always think of what to say right away. It is sad that a word like that is so acceptable in our society.  I did enjoy reading the article. She really hit it on the nail! So true. I hope alot of people read that. |
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Post by Emilysmom on Jul 7, 2007 19:18:48 GMT -5
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Post by Chris too on Jul 7, 2007 23:13:01 GMT -5
It is chosen ignorance that irks me the most. We live in a society that has ample opportunity for education. Why do so many choose to live in ignorance? I agree with Robin that we all are responsible for educating everyone in our own sphere about the offensiveness of this type of language, and not letting it be used knowingly in our presence. What to do about those NOT in our sphere, like in Susan's example, I do not know.
Chris
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Post by SuziF on Jul 9, 2007 11:42:16 GMT -5
I probably would have said something in that situation Susan...I'm way braver when I don't know the people.I think that's one of those Sagatarius traits...speak 1st & worry about it later, LOL!
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Post by jessjetland on Jul 9, 2007 16:24:45 GMT -5
I completely agree with educating people within our own sphere. Someday if enough of us educate our spheres will over lap, I heard that in the next ten years the number of people with down syndrome is expected to double. I know in our area there are very few people with down syndrome and people just don't get it. I have a lady I work with that insisted on calling other employees retards and we are both managers and when I would address it she would blow me off and say I was to sensitive. I went to our boss and nothing happened and to his boss and I finally had to call the vice president who made a special trip to take care of it. The worst part of the situation is we work with a young man who is disabled. I still don't think she gets it and I know she says it just not around me but some people are just ignorant jerks and I feel sorry for them. I thank god that growing up I had my cousin who is disabled I was one of those kids who volunteered with special ed and when Sam was born my family wasn't surprised at all. Sorry I am going on and on its just nice to know that I am not alone on this subject.
Thank
JJ
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Post by Jodi on Jul 9, 2007 19:39:48 GMT -5
My sister-in-law recently shared that my MIL said something was "r" recently, and so my SIL corrected her - but not sure if she got it. Thanks for posting this... I copied the info and pasted it into an email to my entire family. What is interesting is that some in my family don't see Ryan as having mental retardation. They don't "think" about it that way. And what is weired is that sometimes they will act like a person who has a mental disability and think nothing of it. When I point it out, they think I'm overreacting - oh well... I will just have to keep pointing it out Jodi |
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