I saw Chase today finally :-(

[chasesmom]

I swore I wouldn't come here and whine and cry but man oh man you guys, I can't stand it it any more. The boys have been with their disgusting father for a week and a half and don't come home until Sunday and he hasn't let me see them or even talk on the phone to them! When I call I either get his voice mail or he laughs and hangs up the phone.
So today I snuck over to Chase's school (I did it last week one day for an hour too) and it's been a full week today. His teacher didn't tell him I was coming to surprise him. Oh my oh my oh my,
he walked into the office talking with his teacher and looked up and saw me standing on the other side of the door and whispered mmmmmommmm and ran for the door as fast as he could and yanked it open and grabbed me and hugged me as hard as he could and didnt let go, for a long long long time. Of course I cried then and we just stood there hugging forever. I kept whispering I love you and he would whisper I love you too back and I would whisper I miss you and he would whisper it back and then he said when I come home? So while we were hugging his teacher started counting the dys for us so we could both see how soon he would be home with me. I asked him why Zach and he hadnt called and he said "dad say no" So I changed the subject to happier things before I said anything bad. I simply do not understand why friend of the court thinks it is a good thing to make custodial parents let non custodial parents take your children away from you for a month in the summer with no contact. I have to let them go again for two weeks the second and third week in August again and I know there will once again be no contact and this time Chase wont have school that last week he has them so I wont even be able to sneak and see him.
Oh how good it was to wrap my arms around my sweet son and hold him. Please keep him and Zach in your prayers that God watches over them closely while they are with that #%^^#^ and his @#$&$ and keeps them safe from harm. Party at my house Sunday at 3:15 because that's the time I should be pulling in the driveway from picking them up from the police station!!!!! ;D
Thank you for just letting me vent and cry
hugs, Robin

[Renee']

Ahhww Robin
That just plain and simple sucks. I wish you were not dealing with that. When I lay down tonight I will pray for you. I can't imagine how hard this must be not only for you but for Chase.
You hang in there. And you come here and vent, cry, scream...whatever you need to do to get through this.

Hugs
Renee'

[Chris too]

I'm so glad you got to see him and hug him. Had to do your heart good. It has to be hard not getting to see Zach at all, though. My prayers will include you and your boys. I want to tell you something hard though: try to pray for their dad - the Bible says it's like heaping burning coals on his head. Surely you can stand to heap burning coals on his head? Might make you feel better. Let me know if it does. Meanwhile, hang in there & know you are being lifted up in prayer.

Chris, too

[Pat]

(((HUGS))) I'm so sorry he is like that, not only for you but the kids too. At least Chase has school most of the time so you can see him. It's a shame sibs don't go too. I'll be praying for you all.
Pat

[CC]

OMG Robin you have me here in tears hearing this

Hmmm K, I know you didn't ask for advise girl

BUT

you said

"I simply do not understand why friend of the court thinks it is a good thing to make custodial parents let non custodial parents take your children away from you for a month in the summer with no contact."

K, was that how the order was written?? I can understand the Dad getting weeks over the summer but with no contact to you Hmmmm Me thinks that is just BS and I would contact my attorney pronto on that one.

Prayers going out for the boys and you girl from Jersey.

Hang in there

CC ~

[Valerie]

That is terrible!!! I can't believe you have to sneak around to see your son! And I'm sure he doesn't understand why he can't see you! I don't know what to say, except I'm truly sorry you have to deal with this, and I hope their dad decides to be more reasonable.

[ALLISA]

Yes, I agree with CC....waht kind of order is that ? Makes no sense especailly with a child with special needs who needs consistency, etc in his life....I'm PM ing you now sweetei

[lorraine]

I'm really sad for you that you're having to go through this
Who ever made the no contact rule must defiantly not be a parent themselves.

I hope the next few days go really quickly and you get your boys back where they
should be ......... home with you

Hugs
Lorraine

[Emilysmom]

Just heartbreaking Robin!!! I can't imagine how hard this has been for you and the boys. As I've said before, I firmly believe that many years from now, the boys will look back on experiences like these and will see that you did everything you could in their best interest..........and just the opposite is true for the person who stubbornly insisted on taking them from you for weeks on end. It does seem odd that their dad gets visitation during the middle of EACH week with no long periods of separation, but you have to go two full weeks with none.......NUTS!!
Please know that we are here for you and you can vent to us! I wish I could be at that big party at your house on Sunday. I know there will be some happy boys there!!!
Susan

[laurasmom]

Robin

So sorry you are having to deal with this. I am with CC, I would have my attorney look that order over, seems to me at least phone contact every so often could be mandated.

Sunday is coming, slowly but surely. Have fun celebrating!

Sharon

[momofrussell]

OH man.. Makes me sad for you. I am glad you got to sneak in and see Chase... I think that's great!

I'll leave my comments about your ex for another time LOL Kevin has a few choice words for him! LMAO

And yes.. maybe a re look at the court order might be the right thing to do?!

HUGS!

A.

[Chester]

Oh my heart breaks for you......A Momma needs to know her babies are ok.

It sure wouldn't hurt to re-look at the court order!

Another sentence I can't get out of my head "drive away from picking them up at the police station." Even those words feel stressful to me.

Glad you're on the home stretch for this round! Enjoy your boys on Sunday!

Dawn

[Jodi]

(((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))) Robin!!!!!

I can't post what I think about your ex.........

Jodi

[Renee']

Yea, I can't imagine ANY court setting a rule that a child with Special needs can't speak to his mother for that amount of time. I would look into that.

[chasesmom]

HUGS to you guys, you are all the best!
LOLOL to heaping burning coals on my X's head, as much as I would LOVE to do that, I havent gotten to the point where I can pray for him..in a positive way anyhow if you get my drift. Some day perhaps I will find a way to get rid of my anger and find a way to forgive but try as I might (no that's a lie, I dont even want to forgive him moldy ass) I cant find it in me to do that right now.
I did contact my attorney the second I heard I had to give him the boys for all this time and not have any physical contact with them. She did assure me he had to let me speak to them on the phone but as you see, he does what he wants when he wants with no repercussions it appears as usual. We again will file a contempt of court order against him but it akes a few weeks and costs 250.00 plus 125.00 to file and it will be all done and over with by the time we get to court and I am sure he will have some outragish reason for the boys not being able to speak to me. We go for the last (hopefully) trial date on Aug7th which is before he gets the boys again for two weeks so I am hoping the judge will address his not letting me ave any contact with themor I will simply pull one of his stunts and choose to disobey court order. It seems here you can do that and recieve no repercussions if your name is Dave Humble so let me try it.
I just want my babies back and to hug them and tuck them into bed and watch them sleep!!!! Soooo ok Sunday night they are sleeping with me!!!!! (I get the middle:D ) Come on Sunday!
hugs,
Robin..one lonely mom