Ok friends...dilema for me with my grandson (non ds).
Jordan is 9 and staying the week with me...and he asked me point blank last night "JJ...is there really a tooth fairy...or do your parents give you the money".?
Not wanting to interfer with whatever his parents would tell him I pondered this a minute...and asked him what he thought....he said...."my parents". Then I asked him what two of his best friends thought...and he said..."the same thing...the parents"....so....I felt caught between a rock and a hard place because he really is old enough (going into fourth grade) to learn the truth. But...didnt want it to be from his grandparents...thought his mom and dad were the best to inform him...so....I said...."Well why dont you look it up on the internet tomorrow".....LOL...so my guess is he will soon be asking for my seat here...and I had better go and check out what he will be finding....
How did you all tell your kids? Frankly I cant remember back that far....LOL
Post by meghans_mom on Jul 7, 2004 10:40:02 GMT -5
Jackie - funny the same thing happened at our house a few months ago between my neice and my mom...except it was the Easter bunny. My mom said basically the same thing (what do you think and what do your friends think and ask you parents when they get home). My mom didn't want my SIL to think she went and spilled the beans because they already have a precarious relationship, know what I mean? But my mom, too, thought Julia was old enough to know the truth (although I think her parents didn't want her to ruin it for her little sister - that's why they kept the truth from her for so long). I, for one, was really really upset when i found out there was no Easter Bunny when they had that conversation LOL!! I think you handled it really well....laurie
My son is almost 14 (not DS) and he has one or two teeth to come out. He knows that there is no any tooth fairy, but he loves to find money under his pillow even at his age now. When he was little and though that he needs money, he tried so hard to take his baby tooth out, and he told us to remind the tooth fairy to take the teeth and put money. That was so funny. I do not know who told him about the truth, probably his friends... Jackie, I like the way you respect your grandson's parents. Alice
Mom of 3 boys (27, 19, and 10) and a grandma to 2 very beautiful baby girls.
Thanks for sharing the site you found. It came in really handy this afternoon when Sarah ( 7 yrs old ) started questioning me about the Tooth Fairy, Santa, & the Easter Bunny!!! After telling her that if she really believes they exist then they must be real, at least for as long as she believes, she was thrilled to read that little poem. I also told her that the Tooth Fairy had to collect her baby teeth so that they could be recycled for another baby who was just starting to get teeth - like her sister Alison who has broken a tooth with in a week or so of Sarah loosing one!!! I'm sure she'll spend hours on some psychologist or psycho-analyst's couch in years to come but.... hey, it seemed right at the time!!! Thanks again! Barb
Barb, mom to Alison (DS - 3/22/03) and her sisters Caitlin and Sarah "Children are likely to live up to what you believe of them." - Lady Bird Johnson
Barb...nawwwwwww couches in Sarahs future...LOL...Dont you think 'fantasy' is a part of growing up. After all I am the one with fairies in my garden to this very day! My grandmother had them too...and when there was a ring around the moon ...they danced ....and in the morning around her trees were the lovliest white powder rings (sugar?) and sometimes even a tiny jeweled fairy shoe....it was wonderful.
I have to admit we have always been honest about Easter bunny, Santa(I told them about a man called St Nick who gave presents years ago), but when it came to the Tooth Fairy, Victoria asked in such a way I let her believe it. Then she asked in a couple of days "Is the tooth fairy real or is it you?" I told her the truth and I paid for that. Boy was she mad that I lied to her. Although we still put the tooth under the pillow. ;D I always made sure my kids never ruined it for others, even if they knew the truth. Once a man said something about Santa to Laura (about 4 at the time). She told him he died a long time ago & he's with Jesus now. What a preachers kid. LOL
Pat...I remember as a child...the oldest of four...discovering at about age 8...the truth about Santa because my dad went into a closet and got some parts out of a box to show me about how to separate dolly bunkbeds and make them into twin beds...totally forgetting that Santa had brought them. I quickly put two and two together....and then asked about the E Bunny...and tooth fairy..and was told...No...they arent real...but dont tell the others. For me it was like someone had died in my life....I remember moping around for almost a week. My parents had gone to the extreme to make it real...covering their tracks....sleighbells ringing Christmas eve...looking for Roudolfs red nose...etc.
So..when I had my four I decided to be a bit more lax and causal in dealing with these things...not covering my tracks so well...making it more like a fun myth than an actual real live person...but...LOL...my kids believed just as strongly as I did and were just as upset when they figured it out...LOL...so guess its just a right of passage that we all have to go thru.
What a totally strange coincidence!! John lost his first tooth today!!!! He is 5 1/2 and I was so suprised! I didn't even know it was loose. He came over to me with a funny look, and promptly swallowed the tooth!! Thankfully it did not bleed one bit, so it was ready to come out. He was a little upset about the new space in his teeth, but I gave him a mirror and he looks in it and feels much better. I can't believe my baby is growing up!!!
Carolyn- Pete (DH)Elizabeth 16, Bridget 15, Peter 12, John 9(DS)
**Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off the goal. **
Jackie, I told my son that there definitely is a tooth fairy & easter Bunny and Santa, but they are all VERY BUSY.... and as a parent, we can never be sure when they are going to be in this neck of the woods.... and therefore I am ready as a "backup" if need be.
I explained that I would check under his pillow in the middle of the night... very close to wee morning hours & if she wasn't able to make it yet, I'd put it there myself... but of course, sometimes I do look under the pillow & she has already visited
Mom to Connor (20) Ty (16) and Erin (13 with DS & Autism dx)
Jackie... With the Tooth fairy, Santa, and the Easter Bunny, My girls came to me about 2 years ago now, after talking with thier friends, and asked me straight up... Are they real or is it just the parents??
I was kinda put on the spot, not at all prepared for such a BIG question... I think I believed they would be children forever...
So I told them it is up to them to believe what they believe... If they truly believe they are real, then they are real and will continue to visit, If they dont believe, then they will no longer visit.
That satisfied them. I know they really know the truth... but no one dares say anything...mostly to keep ME happy... I LOVE Santa and the Tooth Fairy, and I too have fairies in my garden and in my house...
I am not a stranger, just a friend you havn't met yet...
Post by justinsmom on Jul 17, 2004 11:42:01 GMT -5
I'm with you CC ;D. Alyssa still even though 12 still insists she seen Santa laying on our couch one year, now how can I even begin to explain that one cause it certainly wasn't any of us. We still sprinkle the reindeer food on the front lawn.