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Post by Chester on Mar 1, 2007 16:19:59 GMT -5
Written by "school" in JT's notebook
"Good day especially when he did not want to hang his coat up after playground and I just said firmly go hang up your coat or NO CENTERS and NOW and sure enough he smiled at me and hung up his coat! He does know when you are not kidding with him."
Pardon me, but Freakin' Finally!! He has manipulated this whole set of teachers this entire year.
Dawn
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Post by Emilysmom on Mar 1, 2007 19:42:44 GMT -5
At last! Hey.....sometimes it takes our kids a while to learn a certain thing, but JT has obviously learned what to do when the teacher means business!
Susan
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Post by lespring on Mar 1, 2007 22:37:10 GMT -5
HA! Yeah, Angela has learned to throw a fit when it's time for Art. She HATES Art with a passion! So...you know...start throwing stuff and you get out of the class, right? I said, "Over my dead body will we be pulling her out of art. She's gonna have to figure out she can sit there like everyone else!"
As it is her art time is shortened by 20 minutes becuase they didn't think she could sit there the whole time. (yes she can...she's being a brat about it) and they are modifying everything. She's just very smart and knows what she can get away with.
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Post by Chester on Mar 1, 2007 22:45:14 GMT -5
The frustrating part is that this is the FIRST time all year the teacher has meant business. He has gotten away with NOT hanging up his coat all year?! AUGH! Ummm, no, he's perfectly capable, but if you're going to pick it up....hey he just won!
All year I've been telling this group of teachers that they need to be firm with JT. He is a huge game player/manipulator/whatever you may want to call it. Any time he meets someone new he throws something and smiles his most precious smile, just to test them out to see how far he can push them, seriously.
I think these teachers thought I was delusional when I would tell them "well he's potty trained at home, at home he doesn't throw, at home he eats lunch, at home he talks, at home he knows his colors, etc." At an IEP meeting last week JT sat on my lap and counted, the teachers just about all fell off their chairs and now want to redo all his testing. I'm not going there. I just can't wait until Kindergarten to start fresh!
The crazy thing is that I see his teachers twice a day, I help out in his class on occasion, I'm there, I'm active. But the teachers philosphy is "rose colored glasses". She thinks it's just great that JT is there....but I know he can be more than just there.... He can be a part of the class. There are 16 in his class, 2 have DS, the rest are typical. His teacher is a special ed teacher!
I'm officially ranting! Dawn
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Post by chasesmom on Mar 3, 2007 11:47:56 GMT -5
Girl....you just rant away!!!! Having been in those shoes you are wearing now and feeling that rage you feel.....I felt your emotions when you said " JT is just there and he can do so much more than just be there" It is so frustrating especially when you are a part of the classroom at times and you tell them what he can do and now they saw it and want to retest him? Grrrrrrr! The year is almost over, so you just keep looking forward for JT...... because you know how smart that little stinker with the adorable smile is What stinks for me is that Chase is 14 now and I so badly wish I could turn back the clock and redo things, I would NOT have let the school get away with all the bull$$$$ they got away with. They let Chase be the monster he was in school, they let him push all the buttons and stood back and said see he cant do it...they set him up for failure and yet at home he did everything they couldnt get him to do, and they didnt listen to what I had to say, they just pushed him in a corner with an aide so he wouldnt ever be a real part of the class, he was JUST THERE and they never really tried. Oh yes, I wish I could take time back. But they say live and learn and this mom has learned and things are finally great and after 11 years of arguing and fighting and finally screaming and a hearing and mediation and knowing I wasnt going to sit back one more second, that I said enough was enough and I d**n well meant it..... we have made a program for Chase, but it took every last bit of strength I had at the worst time in my life ( it figures)and I know it is going to be a never ending fight that I am going to need to continue to monitor until he is out of school because this program is very costly but then so is a hearing and they knew they had no leg to stand on, they had failed my son. Our children deserve better...oh man, sorry, off my soapbox........ Dawn JT is lucky, he has you...and you go girl,because no one better knows JT and what he needs hugs, Robin, Chases mom
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Post by Chester on Mar 5, 2007 22:53:21 GMT -5
Thanks Robin, I'm glad you posted. I should have pushed harder from the very beginning, but I knew that it wouldn't get me far, the head of the public school preschool is as out dated and wishy washy as the teacher. I'll be on my toes and ready to go for kindergarten though.
What is Chase's program like?
Dawn
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Post by victoriasdad on Jul 28, 2007 15:27:31 GMT -5
this story reminds me of the ring im going to design , in silver and gold, it simply says DADDY it fits on any lil girls finger ....... proof that she has daddy wrapped around her little finger
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Post by rickismom on Aug 26, 2007 9:45:44 GMT -5
Devil's advocate here--- I saw how I THOUGHT I was being strict with Ricki, but really she still got away with a lot. Once I started recording incidents, I realized that I was not really doing things regularly enough. :oNot at all. So maybe they need a little bit of record-keeping (you can say its to try and see how behavior problems play out etc., in order to correct.)
But if its an attitude that "poor thing" can't learn to behave, try and get a different placement for next year, training, or whatever. The main thing is to see if they think that the behavior CAN be worked on or not.... Good luck!
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