Post by ladybugsc on Jul 18, 2007 20:33:56 GMT -5
Let me give you a little background....
My son has been attending a daycare 2 afternoons and 1 full day a week since he was two. He is 3, almost 4 now. He also attends a charter school for children with special needs 4 days a week. So, back in February the daycare, which is at a church, asked if our son would like to attend their pre-k program this fall. I was so exicted and proud that I said yes without hesitation. See, he'd be the first child with DS to ever attend the program.
Well, back in June I decided to reduce the number of days he attends the pre-school for special needs because I wanted to concentrate on potty training and spend more time with him and his 8 month old sister. We have been together practically everyday since that time.
OH BOY!! WOW!! You know what? My son has issues. Now, please, don't get me wrong. I haven't been in denial about his delays, and behaviors, it's just that I haven't had to deal with them all day, everyday. So, now I am second guessing pre-school at the church. I know I have a natural amount of anxiety, but I can't help but wonder how they are going deal with him. He is such a bright child and is doing great in so many ways, but if he doesn't want to do something he will look at you and wag his finger at you while saying, "no, no, no" and if he is pressed he may pitch a fit. No, an out and out tantrum. I also have concerns about him staying put. I can see him wondering around the room picking up everything and either ignoring the teacher when he is asked to return to his seat or if she tries to guide him turning into a wet noodle and screaming, "No, this way."
I think you guys can understand where I am coming from without giving you a hundreds of examples. Oh, but I also want to add that my son can also be a dream. Sweet. Compliant. You know a model student.
Can you give me suggestions to help make this situation a success?
Should I have a meeting with the pre-school teacher or director and express my concerns? Let them come to me?
I know one other family that is doing this and her daughter attends a church pre-school. She ended up hiring an aide to shadow her daughter. (at $15.00 an hour I might add)
I also can't help but wonder if at about this time, say age 3-4, you had a difficult time dealing with all the Down syndrome stuff. I have found myself in a funk for several months now. I adore my son, but it's just been hard lately. Part of me feels it is all the transitions that are ahead of us. The other part feels it is because the disparity between my son's skills and those of his typical developing peers are becoming more and more apparent. I beleive I read an essay once called something like "the end of cute" That describes how I feel sometimes. My little boy is growing up and his delays are seperating him. Our neighbor's child is only 8 months older than my son and it's like he's 3 or 4 years older and I guess developmentally he is. And to top it off this little boy often treats my son like he's a baby. He's not being mean or teasing or anything like that, but in his eyes my son is baby-like. And people that don't know him will say, "What, he's two?" And I'll respond, "No, he'll be 4 in October." They then take a second look. I don't know how many realize he has DS, but they know something is up.
I could continue this, but I must go check on my daughter....
Thanks
My son has been attending a daycare 2 afternoons and 1 full day a week since he was two. He is 3, almost 4 now. He also attends a charter school for children with special needs 4 days a week. So, back in February the daycare, which is at a church, asked if our son would like to attend their pre-k program this fall. I was so exicted and proud that I said yes without hesitation. See, he'd be the first child with DS to ever attend the program.
Well, back in June I decided to reduce the number of days he attends the pre-school for special needs because I wanted to concentrate on potty training and spend more time with him and his 8 month old sister. We have been together practically everyday since that time.
OH BOY!! WOW!! You know what? My son has issues. Now, please, don't get me wrong. I haven't been in denial about his delays, and behaviors, it's just that I haven't had to deal with them all day, everyday. So, now I am second guessing pre-school at the church. I know I have a natural amount of anxiety, but I can't help but wonder how they are going deal with him. He is such a bright child and is doing great in so many ways, but if he doesn't want to do something he will look at you and wag his finger at you while saying, "no, no, no" and if he is pressed he may pitch a fit. No, an out and out tantrum. I also have concerns about him staying put. I can see him wondering around the room picking up everything and either ignoring the teacher when he is asked to return to his seat or if she tries to guide him turning into a wet noodle and screaming, "No, this way."
I think you guys can understand where I am coming from without giving you a hundreds of examples. Oh, but I also want to add that my son can also be a dream. Sweet. Compliant. You know a model student.
Can you give me suggestions to help make this situation a success?
Should I have a meeting with the pre-school teacher or director and express my concerns? Let them come to me?
I know one other family that is doing this and her daughter attends a church pre-school. She ended up hiring an aide to shadow her daughter. (at $15.00 an hour I might add)
I also can't help but wonder if at about this time, say age 3-4, you had a difficult time dealing with all the Down syndrome stuff. I have found myself in a funk for several months now. I adore my son, but it's just been hard lately. Part of me feels it is all the transitions that are ahead of us. The other part feels it is because the disparity between my son's skills and those of his typical developing peers are becoming more and more apparent. I beleive I read an essay once called something like "the end of cute" That describes how I feel sometimes. My little boy is growing up and his delays are seperating him. Our neighbor's child is only 8 months older than my son and it's like he's 3 or 4 years older and I guess developmentally he is. And to top it off this little boy often treats my son like he's a baby. He's not being mean or teasing or anything like that, but in his eyes my son is baby-like. And people that don't know him will say, "What, he's two?" And I'll respond, "No, he'll be 4 in October." They then take a second look. I don't know how many realize he has DS, but they know something is up.
I could continue this, but I must go check on my daughter....
Thanks