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Post by Chester on Aug 1, 2007 12:10:44 GMT -5
I was wondering why I was starting to feel like things were coasting along too easy....they were!
School starts in a week and a 1/2. Thought I should call and find out why I hadn't heard who JT"s teacher is, or the bus schedule, etc, etc.
We went through a HUGE ARC last spring. Decided that JT would not attend our neighborhood school, but would attend another school so that he could go to kindy 1/2 the day and a special ed the other half.
The principal told me that there is no way that JT is going to kindy 1/2 a day, because "we don't do that". WHAT?!?! I informed her that she wasn't at the IEP meeting, and yes he's starting Kindy the first day with everyone else. She said, "oh no, we've got lots of aides and they'll take him to kindy when they think he's ready."
NO, no, no, no, no...........Someone please pinch me. Here we go again.
Dawn
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Post by momofrussell on Aug 1, 2007 12:22:50 GMT -5
YIKES!!! Dawn.. what is WITH these cowboy principals??? GRRR!!!! They don't get to ride in and dictate!!!! I'd suggest you stick with the IEP team.. and IF that principal pulls something like that AFTER it's already been decided... it has right? then ask her to explain why she was contradicting and IEP TEAM DECISION in WRITING TO YOU!!!!!!!!
Was this already decided? Seriously.... she has NO weigh in at this point if it's been a WRITTEN DECISION.. SHE'D have to call some IEP team meeting to TRY to change it...
Keep getting things in writing.. don't back down... I'll be right out!! LOL
A.
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Post by laurasmom on Aug 1, 2007 14:01:35 GMT -5
Yes, I have heard that one. Many times.
Hmmm, you mean you don't follow the IEP that has been written and signed. Which means you are condoning breaking the law. Hmmmmmmm, such a rebel.
Seriously, is it written in the IEP? Then the principal doesn't have a choice, unless the reconvene the IEP. Then you stand firm and refuse to sign any changes.
Geezzz, I don't understand the nerve of some people.
Stay strong! Sharon
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Post by Chris too on Aug 1, 2007 16:23:21 GMT -5
I'm biting my nail, sitting on the edge of my seat waiting to hear what's going to happen with this one. Principal is doomed, I'm sure, to eat her words: "We don't do that" Sound like bitter, gritty, nasty-tasting words too Chris, too
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Post by victoriasdad on Aug 1, 2007 19:48:33 GMT -5
well is it a matter of principle or just a madder principal?
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Post by ALLISA on Aug 2, 2007 10:06:13 GMT -5
well is it a matter of principle or just a madder principal? I am so saving that one to use !! That is quite funny !
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Post by Emilysmom on Aug 2, 2007 10:17:28 GMT -5
How frustrating is that Dawn? I would request another IEP meeting (in writing), and ask the TEAM why the current IEP can not be followed. "We don't that" is NOT the correct answer. That principal needs to expand his horizons and try new things!!! Susan
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Post by Chester on Aug 3, 2007 12:30:50 GMT -5
4 working days before school is to begin. Still no word from the special ed director. I did call the prinicpal back and asked her to put "we don't do that" in writing. She toned her words down and said that's not necessary...........Whatever.
I've been in contact with two advocates, the state, and an attorney. I just sent an email to the special ed. director who has not yet returned a phone call, and the superintendent of schools that if I don't hear back from them today, I will be sitting outstide the school board office Monday morning waiting for them.
I'm guessing once they hear who I've been talking to, they'll find some time to give me a call. OH, how I dislike having to go this route!
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Post by victoriasdad on Aug 3, 2007 20:11:58 GMT -5
REMEMBER NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU WANT TO DONT I REPEAT DONT!! HIT THEM IN THE NOSE!!............................ always hit them in the stomach ... it doesnt leave anymarks
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Post by Chester on Aug 4, 2007 15:03:14 GMT -5
Thanks for the advice Victoriasdad, LOL!
I'll let your advice float around in the back of my head while the ARC is happening. I already have bad vibes. I got the ARC notice in the mail today, with a different time and place than where we had discussed.........Sigh.
Dawn
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Post by Jodi on Aug 5, 2007 17:50:55 GMT -5
Hi Dawn: The good news is that the IEP dictates what happens. Yes, there is bad news... you have to make sure the IEP dictates what happens. Put on your best smile, and calmly move forward. Let the principal make an @$$ out of herself. They can not change what you have signed (you kept a copy, right?). Good luck - hang in there!! Jodi
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Post by stefaniedwn on Aug 5, 2007 19:09:06 GMT -5
My son is soon to be 7 and he went to 1/2 day Kindergarten and 1/2 day MMI class last year. We had IEP meeting June 6, and I requested all day Kindergarten with an aide as needed. I was just flat out told - not happening, that he would be going to first grade for Gym,Music, and the rest of the day MMI Class. I refused this and met with an advocate and I filed an OCR complaint. Has anyone had to go this far? Stefanie
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Post by momofrussell on Aug 6, 2007 11:51:48 GMT -5
Where is the IEP going to be held then Dawn? Stick to your guns my dear! You want me there to hold your hand? And then hold whomever down for the stomach punch? LOL I do believe kindness and preserverance is a better "punch" in the long run though I suggest you already start documenting what was offered and when, in writing.. and then put another request in writing for when they claim the 1st time never happened... and put EVERYTHING in writing.. I can't stress that enough. If you go in with educated ammo, it helps. And it lets them know you won't be pushed over and around! Stefanie...we personally have never had this happen to us... but it does happen more then it should on the inclusion side of things. My suggestion is like what I told Dawn here, put it all in writing your requests and that it is appropriate placement... and let them deny you in writing and they need to say WHY... and then go from there if it gets to due process. If you requested things verbally... do the request again in writing (it really needs to be documented before heading to due process) and go from there. Don't let them tell you "not happening".. because that really isn't in the interest of the child and your son is it? Good luck to all of you..... Tis the season for IEP's and placements... hang in there! A.
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Post by stefaniedwn on Aug 6, 2007 18:59:32 GMT -5
Thanks, I am going to type one up tonight.
I sent my son to a summer enrichment program that Marshall Univ. held. He did really well, so I told the teachers and doctors the problems that I was having with his school, so a few of them met with me and they wrote a really nice letter to the school board explaining how well he did in an inclusion classroom setting and that he participated.
We had a really bad year with his school last year. I didn't have a problem with him being in the MMI class as long as he was being taught, but I found out he was not being worked with like the IEP stated. They wouldn't even have him write any letters or name on a daily basis. I found out he was playing the Play station and with blocks and even the pre school was coming in on his one on one time, so he would play with them. It got to where I was always at the school making copies or something so I could just pop in and make sure he wasn't playing all the time. I stayed upset alot last school year. I am trying to find another school for him this year. I'm just afraid if I send him back to the other school he will just keeping getting further behind or they will take it out on him where I filed the OCR complaint.
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Post by Chester on Aug 8, 2007 11:08:32 GMT -5
Ummmmm.......I GUESS YOU DO, DO THAT!
ARC meeting today, smoothest thing in the world. New prinicpal and special ed director didn't say a word! New special ed teacher is a godsend! She's full speed a head inclusion, so is the brand new kindy teacher. The prinicpal and the special ed director didn't stand a chance today.
I guess having an attorney say they'll take on the case makes people act differently.....they even went a bit too far. I know they shouldn't have done this, but I'm taking it. THEY even suggested/offered/made it happen for our family to stay together. JT is being open enrolled to a school not in our neighborhood. I made a huge deal out of keeping my elementary aged kids together. "They" worked it out so that Gracie can ride the special ed bus. (She shouldn't receive any bussing because of open enrollment). I know that there are laws against that, but it works wonders for our family. I didn't push for it, it was their suggestion. They're writing it off as Gracie being JT's emotional support....whatever. We did talk to Gracie to make sure she was okay. She's thrilled. She really liked the new school. She's glad to be in the same school with her brother. She's sad not to be with her friends, but she's such an outgoing thing she can't wait to make more friends.
Vicoriasdad you'll be happy to know that I didn't even think about punching anyone, anywhere once.!
It's the same IEP we had worked out last spring, so who the heck knows why we had to go through all the stress of the last two weeks?!
School starts Friday. Dawn
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