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Post by Renee' on Jul 5, 2008 11:28:09 GMT -5
When Lauren was a baby she slept in her own bed but it was in our room for almost 2 years. I finally moved her to a room of her own. She never really slept in our bed. From time to time she will come in late and slip next to us. I always worried about her leaving the house because she has twice. I had alarms installed so I will know when the door is opened. I can now sleep at night. I think it is up to each person how they want to arrange things. I personally like to sleep without them because I get kicked all night
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Post by elizabethsmom on Jul 5, 2008 12:46:17 GMT -5
Elizabeth sleeps in our bed most nights. She has a crib not 5 feet from my bed, but she sleeps longer, better in my bed. That said, she's only 15 months old. However, my 16 year old daughter sleeps in my bed when Joby is out of town during the week. She likes to come in, watch a little "john and kate + 8" with me, talk to E, then go to sleep. (once when I watched a REALLY scary movie and had a nightmare I actually woke my 19 yr old son to come sleep in my room because I was scared to death! haha.
I've had this discussion with the Pediatricians I work with at the hospital...they all said the same thing! Unless theres a reason you wouldn't feel/hear them (a sensory issue), they don't see a problem with it! Elizabeths pedi told me, "Nobody ever goes off to Harvard still sleeping with their mom! No biggie!
But I agree, it's what YOU want.
Sheryl
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Post by rickismom on Jul 6, 2008 2:33:43 GMT -5
I'm going to be the odd one one out here. I have a friend who started like so many of you with their kids in her bed, and now at 23 her daughter is still there! It got a "bit" crowded in the meantime, but if you think that little kids with DS can be stubborn, wait till you have a teen! At the age you would kick any "normal" child out of the bed, the kid with DS should go too. Besides the inconvienience that an older child can pose if you are married (or similar), I suspect that at a certain point it is good for the child's normal perception of "self" to see themselves as grownup enough to sleep on their own.
Tools to help the child move: -relaxing music in the room -give them a flashlight (t6hey have control over it) to chase all the monsters away with....
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Post by andrewsmom on Jul 6, 2008 11:22:28 GMT -5
So funny this should be on here today. I always lie down with Andrew in my bed just until he falls asleep, then I put him in his bed. He gets up in the middle of the night and crawls back in with us again. He has been in a toddler bed until yesterday. We finally got him a "big boy" bed. And guess what? He slept in his own bed ALL NIGHT LONG!!!!!!!!! ;D ;D I was awake before him this morning!!! LOL! Now I'm just keeping my fingers crossed that it wasn't just a fluke and he stays in his own bed every night form now on. Think I'm doing too much possitive thinking??? LOL! -Trisha
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Post by kellyds on Jul 6, 2008 16:16:58 GMT -5
My HUSBAND doesn't even share MY bed. We share a bedroom, but we have two double beds in there. With six kids, obviously we "visit" in each other's beds, but when it comes to the serious business of SLEEPING, I don't want anyone near me. ;D My kids are welcome to come in and snuggle for awhile in the morning. Joshie has always been a really good sleeper. He asks to go night-night when he's tired, or just goes and gets in bed. I took him out of a crib and put him in a toddler bed when he was about 18 months old, because he learned to crawl out of his crib in the morning and would just hurl himself to the floor. I was afraid he'd hurt himself. His room is as child-proof as I can make it, so I just tuck him in there at night and put his lullabye songs on CD for him. I have had to put two baby gates on the doorway to keep him from climbing over and wandering around the house when he wakes up, because I don't want to close him up behind a locked door.
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Post by Chris too on Jul 6, 2008 17:43:08 GMT -5
Wow, there are lots of different sleeping arrangements here! And that is how it should be, since there are lots of different desires & needs surrounding sleep. I try to listen to the reasons that people choose the arrangements they choose to see if it would be better for my situation before I change how things are done in our home. Sometimes a change is in order. It happened that way for us when we decided that Mary, our oldest, needed a regular bed time, complete with routine & her own bed all night long. Our circumstances had changed so that we needed to make the change. We did it because it worked for us at the time. At other times throughout our kids' growing years, we have made other changes as needed. It isn't all that hard to change things when that needs doing; it mostly takes determination & attention to details & specific needs.
It is good to listen to how others think you should approach the sleep issue, because things change. But measure the advise against your own needs & desires.
Best wishes & sweet dreams!
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Post by pmjc48 on Jul 7, 2008 2:38:50 GMT -5
Nicky has slept in his own room since he was six months old with the light off and the door closed. I leave my bedroom door ajar so I can hear if he is awake or if his feeding pump alarms.
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Post by eas1971 on Jul 7, 2008 18:44:19 GMT -5
Wow, interesting thread! I can't believe how many moms let their kids sleep with them. I couldn't do that. LOL.
My kids do not sleep with me. They have their own room and beds. But they do share a room.
Both of my kids spent their first few months sleeping in a basinette in my room. And did (and still do) on rare occassions sleep in my bed. But it's rare, and it's not fun. LOL.
Nowadays, they only sleep in my bed if 1) they're really sick or 2) we're traveling and there isn't space for them anywhere else.
Like this past weekend. I was visiting family. Sebastian shared the bed with me and my husband. Oliver slept on the floor. Sebastian took up all the room and I didn't sleep well.
I always think it sounds like it would be fun...every now and then. But it never is. LOL.
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Post by jelanismom on Jul 7, 2008 18:56:21 GMT -5
You're right Beth, it's not always fun.... just this morning Jelani (who sleeps with me) woke me up with his hard skull digging into my spine, he was fast asleep but man did that hurt! When you move are you still having the boys share 1 room? Just curious.
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Post by steffaroni on Jul 7, 2008 19:41:41 GMT -5
Kyle and Olivia share a room out of necessity. They have bunk beds. Kyles on the top bunk ....I really wish we could afford to move into a bigger place but sigh can't. I priced 3 bedrooms round here and they run between 2500.00 and waaaaaaaaaaaaaay UP. Most of them are up. Bummer so for now they must share.
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Post by momofrussell on Jul 7, 2008 20:45:36 GMT -5
Wellllllll..... LOL When I had Regan I was single and nursed her. I used a bassinette for a bit but it was much easier for her to sleep with me. So, she slept with me for about 4 months then off to her crib she went. Sleeping with me was only for special occasions. With Russell he was in the bassinette beside me but he was a nosey thing so he went to his crib earlier then Regan.. maybe around 2 months? Reece was in a bassinette and then to her crib also... but she was porbably in our room in the bassinette longer because she wanted to nurse every 2 hours! I love the ideas of "co-sleeping" but we personally don't do it. What we DO have is a community bed for downtime. Since Regan was 3 and we were married we would end our evenings all on our bed right before bedtime. We'd read or watch tv or whatever, then off to bed at bedtime. Then in the AM back in our bed. If my children needed me (my girls) when they were little, they could come in our room and lay with me for about 5 min then I'd take them back to their bed. This worked well for us, they just needed mommy for a moment. Sometimes though, they wanted to sleep with us and we didn't want our kids in our bed so we did the camping out on mommy and daddy's floor. So, when Regan was little she'd get to sleep in a sleeping bag or with blankets on the floor next to me. Again, all she needed was some closeness and it worked well. It was a treat and she didn't do it often. We do this with Reece also. The only difference is after our move Reece didn't want me out of her sight AT ALL so she STILL (after a year and a half) sleeps in our room on the floor on my side MORE then she needs to Really, I don't mind but it's like she is still having some sensitive insecure moment and NEEEDS to sleep in our room more then her room. Usually we tell her during the week she can't but on the weekends she can... and it's pretty much every weekend. If we haven't been home or things are hectic, she requires more sleeping in our room. The way I look at it is she obviously needs it and she won't be 7 forever... so Kevin and I don't make a big deal out of it. Sometimes I DO (try) to put my foot down because sometimes it's like every night she wants to be in our room... and if she doesn't snuggle for a certain amount of time, lay a certain way, sleep a certain sleep, life ends... and it gets old LOL But I really try to understand she really is having a moment..... Russell is a different story. He has never "wanted" to sleep with us. He does start off in our bed and Kevin weights him down or confines him with his legs and Russell falls asleep. Then he carries Russell to his room. Now in our new house Russell finally, just recently, got out of his crib and we are needing to find the time mentally to teach Pavlov to lay in his bed to go to sleep. I usually take Reece to bed, Kevin does Russell, and it's tiring to change what we have done for so long... but Kevin and I talked about this a couple days ago (since this is getting old for Kevin) and it really is time to teach Pavlov, I mean Russell , a new way of going to bed. I do agree that whatever works with your family is how it should be. I also think kids need to be nutured in different ways.... bed time has a different meaning and bonding for each family. That is why we do the communal bedtime stuff like we always have....it's kinda like when the family eats dinner together.. it's our family time. I don't think I could do it any other way. Oh, and a side note... if my kids did sleep with us, two of them wouldn't be able to sleep with me or I'd have to go to a different bed. Regan and Russell both sleep all over and sit up and then turn over for their sleep...let me tell ya that isn't that fun for the sleeper! Reece on the other hand is the BEST co-sleeper She doesn't move or require much.... A.
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Post by Jessie on Jul 7, 2008 21:26:53 GMT -5
I'm with you Steff!!! Actually, other than the obvious part of wanting to have enough room to get a good night's sleep, I just think it's one more thing to eventually take away from them so why start it, KWIM? That's just my opinion. There are always exceptions, when they are sick or whatever, but as a general rule, everyone has their own beds! When Brian and Jason first started staying with me, Jason would crawl into bed with us. I'm like, um, noooooo don't think so! Probably broke Brian's heart to make Jason sleep in his own bed, but I guess he saw the light and decided it was nicer sleeping with me Jessie
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Post by momofrussell on Jul 7, 2008 22:15:11 GMT -5
I do agree that I want some of my own space for some sleep!! I am not a "sleeper" anyway so the 5-6 hours my body requires I need in MY space without too many people in my bed with me.
Oh, and Kelly.. I had to giggle on the "visiting" comment. We don't "visit" much in our house with a 7 year old that sleeps on our floor lots and a boy who needs to fall asleep in our room..and Kevin works two jobs lots of the time... so "visiting" has definately turned into just "sleeping" LOL
A.
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Post by eas1971 on Jul 8, 2008 9:24:26 GMT -5
Well, like I mentioned, I always think it sounds fun. But it just doesn't work. My boys (especially Oliver!!!!) are violent sleepers! So it is never as fun as it sounds. If it did work, I wouldn't want to ever give them up and send them to their own room. It would be just way too much fun. But the community bed sounds very nice. We do that sometimes. Even that...just doesn't work like I hope. Neither Oliver nor Sebastian sit still for very long. Dawn, the boys will probably get their own room when we move. Right now, we have a spare room. But we keep it made up as a guest room. We have overnight guests a lot. And the boys enjoy sharing a room. But when we move, I'm thinking it might be time to get their own room. They'll probably want that eventually. But that means we'll probably have to go from a 3 bedroom place to a 4 (or more) bedroom place. Luckily, housing is MUCH cheaper in Wichita!!!!! Now, if only this blasted house would sell.......
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