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Post by NoahsMommy on Oct 26, 2008 22:42:19 GMT -5
My sons birthday is a few weeks and I so dread it. I love him more than life itself, but that day is so difficult for me. Last year I was fine until the day of his party, which by the way he hates. He wants nothing to do with the cake, family, gifts, etc. I didn't get upset until it was all over. This year I find myself dreading it weeks before it is even here. I feel like every year someone just yanks the scab off of a wound on my heart. Anyone experience the same thing? Any suggestions?
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Post by Pat on Oct 27, 2008 6:16:16 GMT -5
Absolutely Trust me we're not the only ones. Some years are easier than others. (((HUGS))) Pat
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Post by jelanismom on Oct 27, 2008 6:33:01 GMT -5
Hi Melinda, our boys are about the same age...Jelani will be 6 on 11-21. Wow it IS a delima, sorry you have to be dealing with this, esp. when birthdays are supposed to be a fun time. here's an idea from a "pulling ideas out of a hat" approach... have you tried taking him to the bakery and letting him "look" at the cakes? some let you sample. Is there a theme Noah likes? Jelani loves Elmo and Spongebob. A theme cake might tempt him. And Jelani has always loved balloons and likes just saying "balloon", lol. How about having fun blowing up balloons and hiding them, or having a game to see who can find the "red" one, for example. These things could be fun practice for the real deal. Otherwise, inviting a friend or two over for pizza night and movies could be good...and then you can suprise Noah with a birthday cake he already picked out with you from the bakery?! Maybe just keeping it "low key" and letting Noah decide might work... I dunno, Jelani hasn't protested, yet. If he even "sees" a cake anywhere, he calls it birthday cake. LOL goodluck...I'd love to come over and help, but we live a bit far apart.
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Post by Chris too on Oct 27, 2008 7:24:31 GMT -5
Hey Melinda! The hating of birthday parties is pretty common it seems. Stevie recently went to the birthday party of a 3-year-old classmate who was petulant the entire time. She mostly hated the cake, the candles, and the singing - and loved the presents This was a typical girl, so your little guy having this trouble on his 5th b-day last year, sounds perfectly normal to me. My advise: don't have a party. Just have his favorite meal with favorite dessert with just family (maybe one pair of grandparents or a favorite aunt & uncle) & take a couple of weeks to invite different family members & friends over to play individually & give him gifts if they want to. He hates the big deal; I'd honor that.
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Post by momofrussell on Oct 27, 2008 12:18:27 GMT -5
I feel your pain..... I have a very hard time usually around Russell's bdays. The past couple bdays haven't been as hard on me but I do have a hard time and Russell is 10. As far as parties, we JUST has Russell's 1st bday party this last year, I don't usually do them because Russell really isn't into them. If you think your child would enjoy them, I'd say do it.. but you mentioned he doesn't like them? Then I wouldn't.... why bother? A birthday is celebrating THEM..... and I think THEY should celebrate in a way THEY want to.... A.
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Post by Radonna on Oct 27, 2008 12:57:54 GMT -5
Kaden hasn't had a real birthday party in a very long time for exactly the same reasons. It was just a big reminder of what it should be like for a typical kid. I always get him a cake an ice cream cause he's really into that I buy him gifts like this year I bought him 50 foot of yellow plastic safety chain. He doesn't get birthdays at all but he gets food and his chain real well. I just always make the day about him and letting him do his best things. It does make the day easier on me when I see him enjoying himself. Thats what birthdays are about anyway celebrating life. You can make your own birthday IBP (individualized birthday plan lol) and tailor make his day to be his perfect day.
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Post by lorraine on Oct 27, 2008 14:03:07 GMT -5
I agree with others here, don't do a party, why not have a quiet day doing something Noah really enjoys instead. There's plenty more years ahead for party's. By the way I TOTALLY understand, I hate all the fuss of parties too I hope what ever you decide to do you all have a lovely day. Lorraine
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Post by sd112170 on Oct 27, 2008 18:33:44 GMT -5
I agree also. Why stress yourself and Noah? Enjoy being together in an intimate setting, thats what I would do. It doesn't have to be something you dread.
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