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Post by mollysmomma on Dec 11, 2008 8:15:08 GMT -5
this was my fav pic this year, so it became my Christmas card! Molly Kate is never more than 6 inches away from the "beeeeeeeeeebee" she is the ultimate in doting aunts. Her and Aubrey Jo were sitting on the couch sharing a little Dora...when they both just passed out. This was during Thanksgiving...guess the triptophan turkey blues got to them! Sorry i've been awol...check out the blog...we have had some LIFE CHANGES....but, like my mama always says....change is GOOD! Part of my new years resolutions will be keeping better in touch with you, who make everything better in my life. We wanted to express our bestest wishes to all of you...my other family...for some time off to relax over the holidays...and a TERRIFIC 2009! Merry Christmas!
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Post by mollysmomma on Dec 11, 2008 7:16:35 GMT -5
I have had two close to me, deliver babies that were not longed for this hard world but for a little bit of time. Blessings to those parents.
All our prayers,
e & molly kate
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Post by mollysmomma on Sept 19, 2008 7:34:12 GMT -5
had an interesting letter this month...
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On a Special Mission September 17, 2008 By Jessica Brady Roll Call Staff
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Rep. Cathy McMorris Rodgers, the 39-year-old Washington state Republican, had an uneventful pregnancy in late 2006 and 2007, with the possible exception of a few interesting floor debates and a handful of baby gifts from fellow Members.
But three days after her first child was born at National Naval Medical Center in Bethesda, Md., in April 2007, McMorris Rodgers learned that her baby had Down syndrome. Since then, the young mother and two-term Member has become an instant expert on the disability, learning to adjust her schedule around doctor’s appointments and throwing herself into planning for her son’s future. Now she realizes that future might not include the usual dreams of going away to college, raising his own family or even living independently.
“Being a new mom changes your life, and everyone tells you that,” McMorris Rodgers said. “Becoming a new mom to a child with Down syndrome makes it personal, and you can’t understand it until you go through it.”
The work-life debate has received heightened attention in the weeks since Alaska Gov. Sarah Palin was named the Republican vice presidential nominee. The mother of five has an infant son with Down syndrome, and as some wonder whether Palin can effectively govern while caring for her family, a handful of Members do just that every day.
At least three Members have a child with Down syndrome, a disorder that stalls physical and mental development, and is caused by the presence of an extra 21st chromosome.
“I remember when we received confirmation that Cole had Down syndrome,” McMorris Rodgers said. “We didn’t know for three days after he was born. We sat down with a team of people, and they tell you everything that can go wrong. It’s overwhelming.”
McMorris Rodgers criticized the way she and her husband were briefed on “all the negative aspects,” such as the possibilities of heart defects, hearing problems and the early onset of Alzheimer’s in adulthood. At the same time, she moved quickly to come up with solutions. As a mother, she carved out a supportive network of parents and caretakers knowledgeable about the subject of raising children with special needs. As a legislator, she has pushed legislation that would provide families with more comprehensive information on the risks and possibilities for those with special needs.
“As you start to get to know your baby, you realize that so much of the information is negative. You fail to get a balanced view of your child’s future,” she said.
Like his mom, Cole splits his time between Spokane, Wash., and Washington, D.C. As she bolts between the coasts for work, reading policy briefings and keeping track of district news, she has quickly learned the additional responsibilities that come with having a disabled child. There are more doctor appointments and occupational and physical therapy treatments to consider. McMorris Rodgers and her husband had to map out a plan, in accordance with the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act, to keep Cole’s physical and mental growth as much on track as possible.
The Congresswoman travels back to her district office most weekends when Congress is in session, along with her husband and son. She staggers her Congressional schedule to fit in Cole’s doctor’s appointments but relies on her husband, a retired Navy commander, to take care of Cole’s day-to-day needs.
“It makes me a better Congresswoman. You understand the issues American families face every day,” McMorris Rodgers said.
The Republican said she has received “hundreds, if not thousands” of letters and e-mails from families throughout the country who wanted to share their own stories with the new mother, the first Member of Congress to have a baby while in office since then-Rep. Blanche Lincoln (D-Ark.) in 1996.
One of those early supporters was Rep. Pete Sessions (R-Texas), whose 14-year-old son, Alex, has Down syndrome.
“It was different for me because I’m the dad, but we all saw Cathy carrying that baby,” Sessions said.
“I told her she needed to protect that baby and that she needed to build him a nest,” he added. “When you have a child with special needs, they need a safe place, one home.”
Alex Sessions lives in the family’s Dallas home with his parents and older brother. The dark-haired seventh-grader attends a local middle school, but he cannot read or write.
Unlike McMorris Rodgers, who is poised and reserved when she talks about Cole, Sessions oozes emotion at the mention of his son. The elder Sessions flashes photographs from every special occasion, brags about every accomplishment and tears up when he talks about his younger son.
“Look at this guy, isn’t he cute? And here, when he was just a little fella,” Sessions gushes, pointing to pictures of Alex in the tub, at a campaign event and in his Boy Scout uniform.
Sessions, McMorris Rodgers and Del. Eleanor Holmes Norton (D-D.C.), who has a 38-year-old daughter with Down syndrome, launched the Congressional Down Syndrome Caucus last May. Rep. Patrick Kennedy (D-R.I.), who hails from perhaps the most noted family of special needs advocates in the country, is also a founding member of the caucus, which aims to educate Members about the disability and push meaningful legislation.
“I believe it’s important to tell Alex’s story, and the story of these other kids,” Sessions said. “As a result of [Alex], I get to be a better Member of Congress.”
Sessions, a conservative Republican, worked with Sen. Edward Kennedy (D-Mass.) to pass legislation ensuring Medicaid coverage for families with disabled children, even if their income increases. A pending bill in both chambers would allow parents, who often face additional health care, education and living costs for their disabled children, to create savings accounts on a pre-tax basis.
“There are a lot of issues that roam back and forth that we get engaged in.” said Sessions, who sits on the Rules Committee.
Sessions’ wife, Juanita, works full time and a hired assistant helps with Alex during the week. Alex works with a tutor three times a week and his proud father is hopeful that Alex will be reading by year’s end. The family is constantly quizzing Alex on his letters, colors and numbers, challenging him to master basic skills that his 18-year-old brother, Bill, never had to grapple with.
“It’s constant pushing. It’s a constant struggle. You have to get them to expand their comfort zone,” Sessions said. “There’s a whole bunch of things on a day-to-day basis that we’re trying to teach him,” from tying his own shoelaces to riding a tricycle.
The Sessions just moved their oldest son into a college dormitory at Southwestern University in Georgetown, Texas. Alex now talks about going to college and becoming a police officer, and while both options are highly unlikely for the youngster, the Sessions are grappling with what to do with their son after he finishes high school. Some adults with special needs are high-functioning enough to live independently and work full time, while others stay with family members or even move to health care facilities.
Katherine Felicia Norton lives full time with her mother, Del. Norton, and attends a “workshop” every day for adults with special needs. The Congresswoman noted that her daughter is “very limited” — she cannot read or write — but she does get around the District by herself and has plenty of friends.
“It’s important if you’re going to have a person with special needs living with you not just to be a custodian. You need to be a parent,” the Congresswoman said.
Norton was the human rights commissioner of New York City when Katherine was born in 1970. She went back to work just one month after giving birth and relied on extended family to help with Katherine.
Norton has held high-demand jobs throughout Katherine’s life, but the divorced mother of two has limited other things, like a social life, to care for her daughter. Now that Katherine is an adult, Norton’s main focus is making sure her daughter is living a happy life. Katherine attends arts workshops for adults with special needs, loves puzzles and still likes to be read to.
Katherine, the Congresswoman’s only daughter (she also has a son, John Holmes Norton), will likely not follow in her mother’s footsteps. Norton, like so many parents of those with special needs, has accepted her child’s limitations and in doing so, has discovered new possibilities.
“Katherine is far more limited than we thought she would be. Of course, we gave up those expectations a long time ago,” Norton said, adding “She is the love of my life. She gives me such joy.”
As McMorris Rodgers enters the next stage of life with her son, who will start attending school in two years, the Sessions family is beginning to consider what Alex will do when he graduates high school in seven years. For Katherine, arts workshops have filled her life and continued to stimulate her. The same option may not work for Alex. With the help of special needs professionals, teachers and perhaps a few Down Syndrome Caucus members, the Sessions family will figure it out, but the worry and stress that come with such decisions are not lost on the Congressman.
“I wonder if he’ll have a zest for life. If he’ll enjoy things. If he’ll be happy,” Sessions said, leaning forward. “As a parent, I have a job to get him to overcome obstacles, to become independent, but I still don’t know.” ***********************************
and this from Tex Sen. Sessions
Pols discuss raising special-needs kids By: Erika Lovley September 17, 2008 06:33 AM EST When Alex Sessions visits his dad at the Capitol, the 14-year-old boy makes a habit of proposing marriage to Rep. Marsha Blackburn.
Alex — the son of Rep. Pete Sessions (R-Texas) — was born with Down syndrome, the same chromosomal abnormality that Sarah Palin’s infant son Trig has.
Alex can’t bathe himself or cut his own food. At an age when a lot of kids are looking forward to getting their driver’s license, he is learning to ride his first tricycle.
Last summer, Sessions spent a weekend alone in the woods with Alex — an initiation requirement for the Order of the Arrow, the national honor society of the Boy Scouts of America. Scouts usually perform the required tasks in silence, but Sessions and his son took to whispering.
“I told him, ‘You’re a young man now, you’ll have to do things that dig deep,’” Sessions remembered. “You’ve got to give your baby confidence and talk to them like they’re a normal child, even though you know you’re working with a condition.”
Sessions isn’t the only member of Congress to face the challenges he and Alex are confronting together. Del. Eleanor Holmes Norton (D-D.C.) has a 38-year-old daughter with Down syndrome. And Rep. Cathy McMorris Rodgers (R-Wash.) has a 16-month-old son with the condition.
The three don’t see eye to eye on the parties’ presidential tickets, but they agree on this: If Palin wants to be vice president, having a child with Down syndrome need not stand in the way — provided that she has a network of support that can help her, and Trig, through the years ahead.
“Palin may have to ask herself what would happen if she became president,” Norton said. “I’m from a wave of do-it-all feminists, but I’ve always warned women that I was able to do it only because of the support system I had.”
Norton relied heavily on her husband, mother-in-law and hired help to care for her daughter, Katherine, while she pursued a career on the New York City Human Rights Commission and later as the first female chairman of the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission.
Norton, a Democrat, has served as the District of Columbia’s delegate to Congress since 1991. Katherine attends school during the day while her mother is at work. In the evenings, she spends time constructing puzzles and poring over old family photo albums with her mother.
When Sessions was elected in 1996 — Alex was still a toddler — he quickly shored up support from then-Republican whip Tom DeLay and others in the Texas delegation. He also enlisted the help of Rep. David Dreier (R-Calif.), who was his chairman on the House Rules Committee.
“[Dreier] was a very kind gentleman who understood when I came in a bit later on Monday and had to leave on Thursday evening,” said Sessions, who was a leader in the passage of the Family Opportunity Act, which provides extended Medicaid coverage to disabled children.
Despite the demands of Washington, Sessions says he hasn’t missed a weekend with his son in 12 years.
McMorris Rodgers balances the care of her son, Cole, with her husband, Brian, a stay-at-home dad who retired from the Navy several years ago. On average, she makes the six-hour flight back home to Washington state three weekends each month. Born with low muscle tone, Cole is undergoing intensive physical and speech therapy programs.
Down syndrome is a genetic condition that occurs when there is an extra copy of chromosome 21. Children’s intelligence levels and medical problems can range greatly. Many suffer from decreased muscle tone, heart defects, gastrointestinal blockages and other serious conditions that require surgery, medication and physical therapy.
According to the National Down Syndrome Society, the average life expectancy for a person with the condition is 56 years — more than double what it was just 25 years ago.
Sessions, Norton and McMorris Rodgers say the demands of a vice president pale in comparison to mothering a child with Down syndrome, potentially presenting Palin with challenges that few of her male predecessors have faced.
But they also say that Palin has advantages — among them, a larger family that will allow for a rotation of child-care duties. And while a high-stress job can drive some couples apart, Brian Skotko, a doctor at Children’s Hospital Boston, says caring for a special-needs child can bring them closer together.
During her acceptance speech at the Republican National Convention, Palin highlighted Trig’s condition and pledged her commitment to special-needs children — a move that ignited a blaze within the disability rights lobby. Political analysts say it could send a significant number of votes from the health care arena toward the Republican ticket.
“There are a lot of people who think living with a disability is worse than death,” said Andrew Imparato, president of the American Association of People with Disabilities. “This society is still kind of invisible as a political constituency, and that’s why so many of us got goose bumps from Palin.”
Palin knew before Trig was born that the baby she was carrying had Down syndrome. For Sessions, Holmes and McMorris Rodgers, the news came after their children were born.
All three warn of the reality checks ahead.
On Election Day 1994, Sessions suffered a huge blow when he lost his second bid for Congress by 2,400 votes. Hours later, he was slammed with even worse news: Alex, then an infant, was rushed to the hospital for emergency surgery with a life-threatening gastrointestinal blockage.
“At 2 a.m., I went from losing an election to 9 a.m. in the hospital,” he said. “I got over that loss real quickly. When your child is at risk … your outlook changes. You’ll do anything to save your baby.”
There are also moments of joy.
Alex loves visiting his father at the Capitol, where he explores the House floor and flirts with Blackburn and other female House members.
On the weekends, McMorris Rodgers takes Cole grocery shopping. Stimulated by the movement of the shopping cart, he sings from the front seat, often attracting the smiles of other customers.
“That is where I find joy,” she says. “People stop and smile and they say, ‘What a happy baby.’”
After Cole’s birth, McMorris Rodgers launched the Congressional Down Syndrome Caucus to help make life better for families confronted with the condition. In the meantime, she’s adjusting her own expectations for her son.
“It’s not what you dream for your child, but you quickly develop new dreams for your baby,” she said. “We have to accept the fact that Cole has Down syndrome, ... but I believe we’ve only glimpsed the impact he’s going to have on this world.” © 2008 Capitol News Company, LLC
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Post by mollysmomma on Sept 15, 2008 19:33:11 GMT -5
ohhhhhhhhhh yea...we do that
cept its with any EDUCATIONAL TOY! im telling you if it has ANYTHING TO DO with learning the alphabet...she TOSSES IT!
I just loan out all my leapfrog centipedes etc to the school for the year...we THOUGHT if everyone else would think they were cool...molly might too...
nooooooooooooooooooo!!
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Post by mollysmomma on Sept 14, 2008 13:17:20 GMT -5
I saw the History Channel piece,(fab) and also thought a small engine pilot had ran into those fabulous towers that morning....i was getting ready for work, and called the men into my room, where i had the news on. "look what some dumbass has done! can you believe it??"
the second plane and the pentagon were hit on my way to work, and we knew this was no accident. I started freaking and trying to get hold of my stepdaughter, who works in manhatten. No phone service to NY at ALL!
I ran into the pharmacy, and told what i knew (we don't usally have a radio or anything going in there)...and watched the knees go out of my young, stocky RPH....he choked out that his brother worked at the pentagon.
what a horrible day.....we heard from the brother about 2 hours later...and again his knees left him, this time....he started to cry. We made him go home...
i left too, gathered up my children and husband and loved them as hard as i could. jennie finally tex'd out that she was ok.
I think Im most amazed at how sad the rest of the country is...and how PISSED the new yorkers are! I don't think there will ever be a memorial built there....they are still too angry to agree on anything....and rightly so.
i just still shake my head...
inconceivably senseless
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Post by mollysmomma on Sept 14, 2008 12:23:43 GMT -5
i would have LOVED to have sibs surrounding molly...i think they do SO MUCH better! especially Verbally!
We looked into adoption, but the sarge was concerned (he's older than me) and as we looked, instead of finding typical babies...my heart kept reaching out to the ones LIKE molly! :-)
So we muddle along...and hope she gets her spurring on at school...it seems she's making all of them do it her way, though....
:-)
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IKE
Sept 14, 2008 11:56:58 GMT -5
Post by mollysmomma on Sept 14, 2008 11:56:58 GMT -5
where does your cousin live?
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IKE
Sept 14, 2008 11:56:06 GMT -5
Post by mollysmomma on Sept 14, 2008 11:56:06 GMT -5
that's exactly what i was thinking at 4am when Ike rolled thru here....we had a cinderblock on a storage container outside, and the block was about 10 fr from the container this morning! i was guessing 50 mph straightlines....blowing sideways
the weird thing about it was there was no lightning or thunder...but the NOISE was scaring the HELL outta me!
we have 3 surrounding towns that are out of power, but we maintained...and the sarge's scanner is screaming with sparking power lines down over houses and vehicles...
we did not flood like we were expecting, except the low water bridges and usual areas..
all i could think of was my friends in Houston, and HOW AWFUL that noise would be, given the speeds would have been TWICE as bad as what we saw!!
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Post by mollysmomma on Sept 13, 2008 14:25:21 GMT -5
we've been hiding the keys for awhile...my little "delayed" daughter already knows how to put the keys in the ignition, and fire up the stereo!! EEK! she does NOT miss a THING!
Molly Kate likes riding shotgun, too! Our new Tahoe has a butt weighing device...sets the driver seat to the current drivers preference, and leaves the passenger airbag off if you're too light. Definited selling feature for me! (as well as the 'door ajar' and 'seatbelt off' alarms!)
i barely made it out alive teaching the others to drive....i don't think i'll survive molly. Good thing i married a state trooper!
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