Non ds but really need to vent

[YoshsMom]

I am so angry at DH. My parents offered us a really generous chanuka present, a new computer. They gave us their credit card number and said to order what we wanted, up to $1000. Well, without telling me, DH spent $1600 and its already shipped.

My parents have been wonderful to us. They help support us so that I can stay home with Yosh and they pay for anything else he needs that we can't afford. DH used to be uncomfortable taking money from them and now he's taking them for granted. He's promised to talk to them, but I'm just so hurt and angry. He'd really hate it if he knew I was talking about this here, but he never visits this board and I have to talk about it. I don't get angry easily and I usually get over it fast, but I'm not sure I can forgive him until he makes it ok with my parents.

[Jackie]

Maybe you should just tell your parents and say you are going to pay them back for the difference and then set it up so you can do it ASAP...but I dont blame you for being angry.

Jackie

[Alice]

Oops, sorry to hear that about your DH, he is probably could not find a good computer for only $1000.
If this happens in my house, I would be very angry too.
Just write a check for the $600 and send it to you parents with your DH's sorry note on it.
Wish you a wonderful Chanuka!
Alice

[momofrussell]

Well, Kerri, I think I might be a bit bummed if my DH did that. IN our house we usually discuss any purchases before making them, if it's something of a high dollar amout. Especially if it's someone elses money. Sorry your husband felt it was ok to go ahead with a purchase like that without asking your parents or consulting you.

Have you ASKED him why he did it? I would. It might help ease the anger you know. I don't know if I'd call your mom, but if you do, I think he also needs to talk to them and appologize. If they have you pay them back then so be it. And if they don't, then you got great parents and he needs to be reminded of that! Maybe he had a good reason for doing it. Maybe not.. but I'd ask him. Maybe you could talk to him about discussing things like this with your first so you don't get so frusterated too.



Hugs to you!!!!

A.

[christie]

I would be ticked too, they offered and gave a generous present, to go above without permission is not right and he should pay the difference back to your parents NOW.

Is he willing to do that???

CC

[Claire]

I am an orphan but if I had parents so generous I would also be very upset. Make him pay the differnce to your parents, even at son mcuh a month, whatever he can afford. It would show good faith and problably ease your anger.

[YoshsMom]

Thanks for listening everyone. DH called my folks and they weren't nearly as mad as I was. He's worked something out with them and I'm staying out of it. I'm glad its over 'cause I really hate being mad at him.