Post by Claire on Oct 24, 2009 12:12:17 GMT -5
Sorry I got cut off the internet yesterday trying to post my message.
Just wondering if any our your kids have obsessive behaviors and when they get rid of it they replace it with another one.
Adam started around 5 years o age. It started with slapping peoples faces. (Not a good one)
The behavior team that came into the school said to ignore the behavior that it was done for attention. and to just remove him or yourself from the situation.
Well it got from bad to worst until his sister only 16 mths older got enough of it and slapped him back. He has never slapped anyone since that day, because now he knew it hurt. I had mentioned to the behavior team that even if Adam was DS there we're some things that we just can't ignore. To this day they are still saying it wasn't right for his sister to slap him. Hello...... after getting slapped in the face 3 times in a row, he's lucky that's all he got.
The slapping soon got replaced by burping, (and I mean some mean belches that I didn't know could come out of that little mouth)
Again same decision from the behavior teams and school. then he added passing gas on demand. I actually had him checked medically to see if he had some kind of Celiac or something as I couldn't believe that someone could pass gas so many times in sequence without pooping their pants.
That one was replaced by now swearing. Another student at school was caught teaching him, and telling Adam to say it louder. Then when Adam would be caught the kid would run away. This other child is also Special Needs. So the school separated them as much as possible. But too late, Adam now had attention form saying these words. All the F words he can say very clearly even though Speech Therapist say eh cannot do the sound F.
Again the school Motto is to ignore. I told them that it was not an obsession but an attention getter and a power battle.
I want to add that we don't swear at home. and that this swearing has been going on for 5 weeks at school. We kept getting called in to go and pick him up almost daily. And he started swearing at home. He was not mad or anything just walking around with verbal diarrhea swearing all the time. Like if the cat came downstairs he would say " F... cat"
So we decided to take him out of school for a week and use tough love. It wasn't easy. We decided to give him some good words to use instead like Holly Molly Macaroni and so on....The first morning he went in time-out 11 times in 3 hours. Not counting the hardship of sometimes having to take him to time out. We know he understands fully because he would sit in his time out and very softly say a bad word then say a good one out loud for us to hear.
Now after a week I have to say that he barely swears at home, I may have heard one or 2 this week and when we do we say " What was that Adam?" to which he replies " Holly Molly Macaroni"
The problem is still full force at school so they have been calling us every day this week sometimes twice a day to go and get him.
The last time they called on Wednesday I told them that we we're not taking him home anymore from school until a meeting was arranged and some kind of program in place for him for what they consider to be an an obsession.
We do go to the school when called and he stops swearing while we are there, so that proves that it's their problem now. We have done everything to cooperate with the school.They have to show him who is boss. I told them they don't give him enough credit to how much he understands. I also told them that Adam had to learn social skills like being polite and not swearing like any other person. They say Adam is cognitively about 3 years old but he can read and write at a grade 3 levels, so I would take that foul language from any 3 year old, so why take it from Adam.
I don't think these are obsessions but either attention getter or power battles like any 12 year old would have.
If any of you have had the same or similar problems please post and I will take some of your ideas to the school for our meeting.
Sorry for the length just tried to put as many details as I could. I will appreciate any ideas on the subject.
PS: For those of you who know us and know about the abuse given to Adam at his first school, Human Right's Commission has dropped our case so we need to take it to Tribunal ourselves.
Just wondering if any our your kids have obsessive behaviors and when they get rid of it they replace it with another one.
Adam started around 5 years o age. It started with slapping peoples faces. (Not a good one)
The behavior team that came into the school said to ignore the behavior that it was done for attention. and to just remove him or yourself from the situation. Well it got from bad to worst until his sister only 16 mths older got enough of it and slapped him back. He has never slapped anyone since that day, because now he knew it hurt. I had mentioned to the behavior team that even if Adam was DS there we're some things that we just can't ignore. To this day they are still saying it wasn't right for his sister to slap him. Hello...... after getting slapped in the face 3 times in a row, he's lucky that's all he got.
The slapping soon got replaced by burping, (and I mean some mean belches that I didn't know could come out of that little mouth)
Again same decision from the behavior teams and school. then he added passing gas on demand. I actually had him checked medically to see if he had some kind of Celiac or something as I couldn't believe that someone could pass gas so many times in sequence without pooping their pants.
That one was replaced by now swearing. Another student at school was caught teaching him, and telling Adam to say it louder. Then when Adam would be caught the kid would run away. This other child is also Special Needs. So the school separated them as much as possible. But too late, Adam now had attention form saying these words. All the F words he can say very clearly even though Speech Therapist say eh cannot do the sound F.
Again the school Motto is to ignore. I told them that it was not an obsession but an attention getter and a power battle.
I want to add that we don't swear at home. and that this swearing has been going on for 5 weeks at school. We kept getting called in to go and pick him up almost daily. And he started swearing at home. He was not mad or anything just walking around with verbal diarrhea swearing all the time. Like if the cat came downstairs he would say " F... cat"
So we decided to take him out of school for a week and use tough love. It wasn't easy. We decided to give him some good words to use instead like Holly Molly Macaroni and so on....The first morning he went in time-out 11 times in 3 hours. Not counting the hardship of sometimes having to take him to time out.
We know he understands fully because he would sit in his time out and very softly say a bad word then say a good one out loud for us to hear. Now after a week I have to say that he barely swears at home, I may have heard one or 2 this week and when we do we say " What was that Adam?" to which he replies " Holly Molly Macaroni"
The problem is still full force at school so they have been calling us every day this week sometimes twice a day to go and get him.
The last time they called on Wednesday I told them that we we're not taking him home anymore from school until a meeting was arranged and some kind of program in place for him for what they consider to be an an obsession.
We do go to the school when called and he stops swearing while we are there, so that proves that it's their problem now. We have done everything to cooperate with the school.They have to show him who is boss. I told them they don't give him enough credit to how much he understands. I also told them that Adam had to learn social skills like being polite and not swearing like any other person. They say Adam is cognitively about 3 years old but he can read and write at a grade 3 levels, so I would take that foul language from any 3 year old, so why take it from Adam.
I don't think these are obsessions but either attention getter or power battles like any 12 year old would have.
If any of you have had the same or similar problems please post and I will take some of your ideas to the school for our meeting.
Sorry for the length just tried to put as many details as I could. I will appreciate any ideas on the subject.
PS: For those of you who know us and know about the abuse given to Adam at his first school, Human Right's Commission has dropped our case so we need to take it to Tribunal ourselves.
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But what do we do when they don't listen to our suggestions? 
