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Post by Gina on Nov 18, 2009 11:23:53 GMT -5
I have read simular threads about aggresive behavior - but we are having a problem with Ashton pinching people. She pinches really hard leaving bruises and also scratches. She usually does this when she wants attention, or if she is mad. She is 14 so all of the fun "female hormones" are in full action right now, which makes it worse! She still struggles with communication, which is probably the biggest problem. We are trying to figure out the trigger, etc. but it isn't always the same. I am really worried that she is going to get suspended from school, because it usually happens at school. How I wished she could tell us what is happening! Most of the time, Ashton is very happy, and has a great sense of humor. But, of course, this is a big problem. Does anyone know any good books regarding this subject? Or any ideas? I wonder sometimes if she likes the reaction she gets from the person that she pinches? The control?
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Post by Jessie on Nov 18, 2009 14:17:40 GMT -5
Hmmm, Ashton sounds like the female version of my Jason! Fortunately, Jason prefers tickling people to the point of annoyance vs. to the point of pain like pinching would be. Sorry, I don't have any advice other than the obvious, "keep your hands to yourself" lecture that probably goes over like a lead balloon . . . Good luck - and if you figure out the cure, post up!! Jessie
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Post by CC on Nov 18, 2009 20:33:36 GMT -5
Hope its OK to ask but what do you do now when Ashton pinches someone either at home or school? What I found for Chris when he was doing something we wanted him to stop doing is be consistent. When the stage of time out worked both school and home did time out. We have moved away from the time outs since Chris is older now but every now and then just the threat of a time out and he says no and changes his behavior. Not sure what would work for your daughter but I highly suggest what ever works make sure both you and the school are on the same page, just my thoughts. What we find we do at home at the different levels we are at with Chris we tell school so they do the same. Consistency is the key with my boy Christopher too struggles with communication, although it improves it still is his biggest struggle. What we taught Chris as a tiny guy is to tap another and say excuse me if he wants their attention. But with Chris LOL he will not stop saying excuse me till you acknowledge him Best of Luck CC~
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