HELP!!!!!!!!!!!

[perezvinda]

I requested an EMERGENCY IEP for my son. I'm concern about his safety. He has come home with scratches and said two out of the 3 incidents "teacher hit me". I'm not comfortable sending him to school until I have a meeting with all the "facts" I don't know how to handle this other than I'm following my motherly instinct. I need advice please

Deeply appreciate any input!

[momofrussell]

Hate to say this but neither. Upon written receipt of request for and IEP, emergency or otherwise, the district has 30 days. You request in writing for reasons and give some dates/times that would work for you.

But, the first time it happened did you ask the teacher? I hope you documented the times on paper and asked the teacher everytime what happened and then documented that also. Motherly instinct is a good thing to have but it won't get you far if you don't understand the laws and how to keep the emotions in check when handling this. Keep that in mind....

I'd also take pictures anytime you think abuse is going on.

Also, what kind of scratches??? Could it be something misunderstood?

Good luck.....

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[kellied]

Ok, I have a dumb question since I'm in Canada but can't you just request a meeting with the principal and teacher? That's what I'd do but it may be different here. I sure wouldn't be waiting 30 days.

Actually I'd start with the teacher and then move up the ladder if I wasn't satisfied. I also agree that documenting and taking pictures is a good idea.

[momofrussell]

Some districts/teams have "team meetings" which can be held that are not IEP meetings...but our kids are governed by IEP teams and team desicions...so if you call an IEP meeting, technically they have 30 days to comply. I would think most districts would try to scramble and meet sooner.

BUT, you are more then welcome to go to the teacher to talk to him/her and also the principal. But callng an IEP team meeting has timelines.......

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[perezvinda]

Thank you for your quick responses.
Yes, I have taken pictures and documented every conversation appropiately...there is an on going investigation. I always think that educators and parents are the ones that hold the future of our children. I went crazy when on one of the incidents the teacher simply said "I don't know what happen."

[kellied]

Do you know any of the other parents in the class? I wonder if any of the other kids might have noticed anything. You'd have to tread real carefully when asking but that may be the only way. How old is your son?

I really hope you figure it out. We trust our kids with these people and it's so hard because our kids are so vulnerable.

[wendy]

I do not believe that an IEP is the right approach to a safety issue. I a child that is not in special education had that problem, you wouldn't call for an IEP, you would go directly to the principal.
It is possible that the teacher has no idea how your child got scratched, afterall all kids have them. The teacher can not possibly see every time every child bumps into something, or every altercation that occurs.

Be careful of taking the childs word alone. They do not always understand the difference between truth, fiction, lies and imagination. My son told every adult at his school that his father had shot him. He carried this story out for along time, and I think he really believed it happened.

Talk to the teacher, talk to the principal. Don't wait for an IEP if you are truly concerned.

[michellew]

What was the outcome of this? Did you ever find out what happened? My daughter was abused by an inclusion aide in kindergarten (observed by Regional Center after I tried for 11 weeks to get into the classroom to observe and was blocked from doing so) so I can tell you that you have to take these things very seriously because even though sometimes they are fantasy, sometimes they are NOT.

[steffipoo]

HI!!!

Sheesh we must live in an awfully crazy suing state cause every single time Olivia got even a tiny scratch or fell of was hurt by someone it is documented she is sent to nurse( no matter how small and ridiculous it seemed to me to see this note afterschool) the nurse fills out a form and I hafta sign it and send it to school the next day. You can also talk to teacher and ask for an outside person to observe if this stuff is still going on you'd think the school would want that. I've always had a comfort level with the teachers at my girls school usually cause the teacher was my sons teacher the year prior and volunteered sometimes.. I made friend with lunch ladies, staff aides etc and they all watched out for Olivia. Since it was our neighborhood elementary school our neighbors already knew us and their kids too would just naturally watch out for Liv. In kinder Olivia had an aide. The only way we were able to get this aide was to write out a behavior plan saying that we were concerned about safety issues running away and accessing the toilets and play equiptment. Honestly all of us at IEP were laughing cause we all knew she had not one of these issues. Her only issue was sitting on the ground when recess was over cause she sisn't wanna go in. One time she actually told the kinder teacher she would NOT come in unless SHE GAVE HER CANDY FIRST. Well that didn't work out too well for Liv.lmao her teacher called her angelica for a day or 2 ( ya know the rugrats???) in school i have found communication is key, when all parties involved in Olivias education were on the same page ot,st , teachers , aide, inclusion fac, sp ed teachers , reg ed teachers. then believe me things get resolved quick and your child will learn so much more if everyone is on the same page. Sometimes a simple home to school weekly notebook is all it takes to start the process. hugs steff

[Claire]

Oh my Gosh................. Adam has been there too many times. Like Kellie said do you know nay other parents. What I did for Adam is ask some parents if I could speak to their kids, kids don;t lie at that age, that is how I found out about the abuse on Adam. Then I suggest not to wait the 30 days, it needs to be handled right away, follow your gut instincts, mothers are usually right. I had a feeling too that something was not right. It could be a misunderstanding also, but better safe then sorry. Also do document dates, times and do take pictures. Our case with Adam went to the Human Rights Commission and criminal charges were laid. Documentation is very important. You can also e-mail me at my personal address if you wish. I may be able to help you with some links and process of doing things. I am from Canada, not sure where you are from, but I also have some connections in the States.
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