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Post by Googsmom aka Jennifer on May 27, 2010 18:25:36 GMT -5
So we went to see Dr Tami today for Brookers 4 yr ck up. All is good. She up and says that it's time to talk about stranger danger and never letting anyone to close to her and esp no touching of the privates.
No candy from strangers and don't go anywhere with them and who cares if there dog is lost etc..... you get the picture.
Question is how in the world do I teach the difference btwn stranger's and the tunz of people who come through work bearing gifts for the Brookster. They are not people we "hang out" with but they are regular customers who always bring something for her.
This kid is very vocal to everyone. It's Hi HI HI HI to everyone we pass. In the post office, store, bank anywhere it's HI HI HIHIHIHIHi. She is ALWAYS with me so I think it's no big deal to say hi. Can they touch her or hug her.... NOT ON YOUR LIFE!!
I'm so confused. What did you all do to teach your kids about stranger danger? Please help me out here.
Last thing I need is to be put in the clink for punching someone out who touches my girl.
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Post by Jackie on May 28, 2010 8:20:30 GMT -5
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Post by char on May 31, 2010 17:20:57 GMT -5
I wish I had a solution. There is plenty of reason for parents to be concerned in this day and aage.
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Post by Googsmom aka Jennifer on Jun 1, 2010 10:35:03 GMT -5
Thx Jackie and Char. I'm really at a loss here. I'm just wondering if she would realize what i'd be trying to say. Stranger vs customer. Help
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Post by Jackie on Jun 1, 2010 12:43:15 GMT -5
at this young age...I doubt it....
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Post by Chris on Jun 1, 2010 17:59:37 GMT -5
My older daughter was very friendly and outgoing. I was always concerned about her being around strangers. I used to tell her if she doesn't know a person's name, they are a stranger. First thing out of her mouth after that was, "Hi! What's your name?". She seriously never met a stranger. She is now 20 years old and I still worry about strangers! Btw, I am talking about my typical daughter!
Sarah is also very friendly. I haven't worried about strangers since she is always with me or at school. That is a tough one!
Chris
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Post by Googsmom aka Jennifer on Jun 4, 2010 16:13:31 GMT -5
I think thats a great idea Chris and I can totally see Brooker asking "whatcha' name?" too.
I think i'll think about this later. I will get to it before kindy......... try anyway.
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Post by kg91207 on Jun 8, 2010 10:32:57 GMT -5
I worry about this too. Thankfully Kaelyn is still wary of strangers, but one day while we were waiting for therapy to start, she was reaching out for the little boy next to us saying "hug!". I had to explain that we don't hug strangers! hee hee. But then again, we take her to all these doctors and therapies and such, and she's told to trust them. I would be so confused if I were here! They also hug a lot at daycare, especially if they hurt one another. they have to say sorry and hug. At least they discourage the little boys from trying to kiss her (they love to run up to her and kiss her on the mouth. My husband said it's time for the shot gun-ha!) anyway, getting off topic. Working for CPS, I can speak from the teaching the "privates" issue. It's good to teach them what to call them and what is the difference between "bad" and "good" touching. We've been teaching Kaelyn what to call her privates as long as I can remember. So that is about all the advice I have today. ha!
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Post by Chris too on Jun 9, 2010 13:49:14 GMT -5
Stevie has never met a stranger. She not only greets and chats with people she's never before seen, but she climbs up into their laps or holds out her arms to be held. I had to teach her the other day that kisses are for cheeks only I can tell you this: the story of Little Red Riding Hood worked very well for my first child - too well, in fact. It took her little sister (seriously outgoing kid) talking to strangers in my presence for Mary to realize that it's okay to talk to strangers when Mommy is listening in I might have to tell this story to Stevie too. I used to use it for a bedtime story because it could be strung out with infinite details about the walk through the woods and so was interesting but mesmerizing ;D I have been, instead, reading the classics to the kids at bedtime lately - Wind in the Willows, Pollyanna, Ann of Green Gables... and lately, the not-so-classic, but great fun, How to Train Your Dragon But for Stevie, I could revive the old tale...
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Post by Jackie on Jun 10, 2010 8:51:39 GMT -5
This is also an ongoing problem for me with Emily and one of the prime reasons I was not anxious to have her in an apartment. I know she understands and recognizes strangers but she often acts BEFORE she thinks and would most likely open a door before finding out who was outside. I have seen her do it more than once here.
She does understand appropriate and inappropriate touch etc. and recently had a run in with a guy in her arts program who tried to grope her. Unfortunatley she waited a day before telling anyone and because of that incident the arts program realized they had some additional training they needed to do. I was pleased that they chastised the guy and contacted his family but that it went no farther than that cuz he is a nice guy with problems with impulse control. Actually someone Em has known for a long time. The arts program brought in a very good sexuality program that also included saftey and stranger training. Of course Em was counselled on reporting incidents like this as soon as they happen if they ever do again.
I don't know if you all remember but she had a potentially really bad encounter when she was in NM at college. She let a guy come into her suite (no guys allowed in the girls dorm)...he talked his way in actually and fortunately he heard someone in the hall and left before the worst happened.
I KNOW she knows all the rules...the indicators that something is not right...but...I feel she will always be at risk. I think that there is saftely in numbers and for this reason would not ever want her riding the public bus...etc...without a group of peers. I might be toooo protective but those of you who know me know I have done a pretty good job of cutting most of the apron strings. I think girls are more at risk than guys...but in this changing world guys need to be wary too.
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