Post by Jackie on Mar 6, 2005 12:29:58 GMT -5
Emily is coming home next week for a few days visit. She will fly to Austin and drive up with Katie and her kids. One of our goals is to spiff up her wardrobe. She keeps dropping inches and lbs faster than we can keep up with.
If possible I am going to steal her wayyyyyyyy toooooo biggggg and way to old Elton John shirt and feed it to our shredder...LOL.
I have been in round robin discussions lately on the teens and adults site with others over the appearance of people with disabilities.
I have always tried to make Emily aware of how she presents herself in public.....the need for a tad of makeup....hair clean and curled.........clothes not rumpled and clean and matching...etc. At home she always managed to pull though with this...but I guess I must have been giving her a lot of prompting on this issue because now away from here...she is not as good at it as she was at home.
With her person centered planning update coming up soon its one issue I want to address....how the people she lives with can help her with this. She is in an environment where people do take care of how they look....and its important that Emily fit in and be accepted if she is to be fully included. She can still express her individuality thru dress as long as she is well groomed and neat and clean.
A real problem at the moment for her is...that she has lost this wt and her closet is still full of things that USED to fit but dont now...but that she is comfortable with. And it will be a while before any of us can visit her and help sort all this out.
Her social life now includes going to a local church and helping with a toddlers Sunday School church after the early service. She loves it and we all think that lots of nice social contacts for her will come from this. This is a church that has not yet adopted the "casual" look so its important that she look appropriate.
Our discusson on the other site really revolved around how to get our kids to be able to do these things without so much intervention on our part after they become independent and leave home.
It would be nice if society did as WE ALL think they should and looked only at the inside of the package instead of the wrappings....but sadly few seem to be able to do this....and people with disabilities who are on their own often present a sterotypical image of inability by mismatched and slovenly appearance in public. Now I am not saying that is true of ALL....dont get me wrong. But I have never understood how workers in group homes ...etc....cant spend a bit of time helping individuals with things like this.
The people Emily lives and works for are very busy people so we are trying to figure out how we can get Emily back on track with all of this...without their constant intervention....
Any ideas?
Jackie mom to Emily almost 25
If possible I am going to steal her wayyyyyyyy toooooo biggggg and way to old Elton John shirt and feed it to our shredder...LOL.
I have been in round robin discussions lately on the teens and adults site with others over the appearance of people with disabilities.
I have always tried to make Emily aware of how she presents herself in public.....the need for a tad of makeup....hair clean and curled.........clothes not rumpled and clean and matching...etc. At home she always managed to pull though with this...but I guess I must have been giving her a lot of prompting on this issue because now away from here...she is not as good at it as she was at home.
With her person centered planning update coming up soon its one issue I want to address....how the people she lives with can help her with this. She is in an environment where people do take care of how they look....and its important that Emily fit in and be accepted if she is to be fully included. She can still express her individuality thru dress as long as she is well groomed and neat and clean.
A real problem at the moment for her is...that she has lost this wt and her closet is still full of things that USED to fit but dont now...but that she is comfortable with. And it will be a while before any of us can visit her and help sort all this out.
Her social life now includes going to a local church and helping with a toddlers Sunday School church after the early service. She loves it and we all think that lots of nice social contacts for her will come from this. This is a church that has not yet adopted the "casual" look so its important that she look appropriate.
Our discusson on the other site really revolved around how to get our kids to be able to do these things without so much intervention on our part after they become independent and leave home.
It would be nice if society did as WE ALL think they should and looked only at the inside of the package instead of the wrappings....but sadly few seem to be able to do this....and people with disabilities who are on their own often present a sterotypical image of inability by mismatched and slovenly appearance in public. Now I am not saying that is true of ALL....dont get me wrong. But I have never understood how workers in group homes ...etc....cant spend a bit of time helping individuals with things like this.
The people Emily lives and works for are very busy people so we are trying to figure out how we can get Emily back on track with all of this...without their constant intervention....
Any ideas?
Jackie mom to Emily almost 25