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Jun 2, 2005 8:25:17 GMT -5
Post by Jodi on Jun 2, 2005 8:25:17 GMT -5
No No No NO NO NO No no NO!!!!! We are working on strategies too. Time-outs work well, and using "first and then" has been very effective. When I tell my little guy to go potty - before I can finish my sentence - NO!!!! So now I say, Ryan do you want to (something he enjoys) He'll say yes, then I follow with - okay go potty then... and that works most of the time. I wish there was a magical way of getting him to not protest so much, but hey - he's a kid!
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Jun 2, 2005 14:09:12 GMT -5
Post by MB on Jun 2, 2005 14:09:12 GMT -5
O.K. guys. Here are my suggestions. My son is now 13 and a joy (except for the adolescent stuff that comes with 13).
I have found that:
Behavior mod for young children with Ds must be absolutely consistent 15-20 times before parent will see a change. This number decreases as child recognizes tone and demeanor of a set of parents/caregivers who will be consistent.
Too much info too fast from parent. Sentences should be 3-4 words. "Sit on this chair." "Hold my hand." "Do not run away. Hold my hand."
Consequences must be directly related to incident. The flop and drop at Walmart should be dealt with at Walmart. I would pick up the child. Go to the entrance. Walk the child back to the drop spot. Have the child demonstrate that he/she can walk with you when told. Do this three times. SHOW NO EMOTION. BE IN CONTROL. Ignore onlookers. Ignore your child's screams. Let your child know that you will not be swayed. You will win - every time. You don't care that he/she has Down syndrome. You don't care who you offend.
Practice looks on your face like Chuck Norris in Walker, Texas Ranger. He doesn't frown or smile, he just gets the job done.
Never threaten anything you do not intend to follow through with.
Your young child can hear and understand everything you are saying. Are you giving clues away as to what inappropriate behaviors you actually find funny?
If a child runs into the street, go back to the curb where he entered the street and have him demonstrate three times stopping and returning to a safe place.
Feeling sorry for the kid actually sends the message, in my opinion, that there is something wrong with him/her. One of the happiest days of my son's life was when he came home from Middle School the first week and announced, "I love that place. I got into trouble and they treated me like the rest of the kids. I'm not a baby."
O.K. that's my story and I'm sticking to it~
MB
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Jun 2, 2005 14:56:49 GMT -5
Post by momofrussell on Jun 2, 2005 14:56:49 GMT -5
MB, you mentioned behavior mod in a young child w/DS... what you always say and said here is also behavior mod for a typical child too. All the stuff you wisedomly share with others is all the same stuff I learned in college from my psych and child devel classes. A.
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