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Post by shellk on May 28, 2004 8:05:04 GMT -5
 My stepdaughter Marie has had a really rough go of things 2 Thanksgivings ago she lay in the hospital bed with her grandmother as she passed away from cancer..She was at home and Marie slept with her in the hospital bed until the very end. Her mother has had to have back surgery for herniated discs and now is being tested for leukemia (sp?) her white blood cell count is very high and they have no explanation..She also just found out two days before her mother's problems that an aunt that she hold very dear was diagnosed with stage 3 lung cancer at age 38..This child has never really gotten to be a kid and is so much older than her 12 years. I love this little girl just as I love my own and she is having a really hard time..She says it seems that everyone that she loves dies on her. I am truly at a loss on this all I know how to do is listen to her and offer what I can. But, I feel that at 12 she is depressed and at a loss of her own.. My husband is not a cold hearted man nor is he very educated and really doesn't know what to say to her or what even to think of all of this.. I just know that this is going to be another very hard time for this baby girl and I know that her own mother doesn't have the sense to get her any counciling, and her mother really doesn't care for me at all. But, I really feel that things should be put aside and someone has to be there for Marie. I am worried about her mom and her aunt..Other than my husband and our family she really has no one on her moms side anymore.. Any advise or info would GREATLY be appreciated. She is so young and had so many problems. P.S. when your white blood cells are highly elevated does it always mean leukemia or cancer...They can't find anything else no HIV or anything like that .. Thanks for listening or reading. Michele
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Post by MB on May 28, 2004 14:36:04 GMT -5
I know this sounds crazy, but I can't help but think of the movie, Stepmom. I wonder if you start helping her mother through her illness, maybe this would help your stepdaughter. O.K. I realize it was a movie and not real life, but I do think having the family pull together could be beneficial for all.
MB
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Post by justinsmom on May 28, 2004 14:39:41 GMT -5
Michele, Marie is definitely in our thoughts and Prayers. You are in a tough spot but just let Marie know you are there for her no matter what.
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Post by Ericsmomma on May 28, 2004 17:04:05 GMT -5
Michelle,
Wow! thats alot to deal with for someone so young...
Our prayers go out to her, her family, and you.
Dolly
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Post by YoshsMom on May 28, 2004 17:08:50 GMT -5
I'll definitely keep her in my prayers. That's a lot even for an adult to handle. She's lucky to have you to help her through this. Maybe some grief counseling or a support group would help.
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Post by Debby on May 28, 2004 19:00:18 GMT -5
It is hard to know what to say when so many bad things are going on, but I know someone to listen to you is one of the best things to have. Sometimes we won't have any answers to our questions or problems, but a friend can sure be a help. Even for you to hear the answers to your email to Unomas I am sure was helpful to you. But even better is prayer. I have two verses I think of every day. One is Psalm 103:1-5...Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all His benefits.....
There is ONE who can help your step daughter in her situation and lift her up, and always be with her. It is the Lord and by prayer you can help her greatly, and yourself as well, to have peace.
The SECOND is Philippians 4:16-17 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything but prayer and supplication with thanksgiving TEXT and the peace of God which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your heart and mind in Christ Jesus.
Praying she will discover in the valley, the PRINCE OF PEACE.
Pebbles
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Post by christie on May 28, 2004 21:38:15 GMT -5
I am soooo sorry to hear all this No one should have to deal with all this, ESPECIALLY a 12 year old  Best advise I can offer is just continue to be there for your stepdaughter, love her and maybe you yourself could contact a cancer support center and see what they reccomend. I know our local hospital runs many support groups for family members of ones dealing with Cancer and death of loved ones. Many prayers from New Jersey. CC |
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My stepdaughter Marie has had a really rough go of things 2 Thanksgivings ago she lay in the hospital bed with her grandmother as she passed away from cancer..She was at home and Marie slept with her in the hospital bed until the very end. Her mother has had to have back surgery for herniated discs and now is being tested for leukemia (sp?) her white blood cell count is very high and they have no explanation..She also just found out two days before her mother's problems that an aunt that she hold very dear was diagnosed with stage 3 lung cancer at age 38..This child has never really gotten to be a kid and is so much older than her 12 years. I love this little girl just as I love my own and she is having a really hard time..She says it seems that everyone that she loves dies on her. I am truly at a loss on this all I know how to do is listen to her and offer what I can. But, I feel that at 12 she is depressed and at a loss of her own.. My husband is not a cold hearted man nor is he very educated and really doesn't know what to say to her or what even to think of all of this.. I just know that this is going to be another very hard time for this baby girl and I know that her own mother doesn't have the sense to get her any counciling, and her mother really doesn't care for me at all. But, I really feel that things should be put aside and someone has to be there for Marie. I am worried about her mom and her aunt..Other than my husband and our family she really has no one on her moms side anymore.. Any advise or info would GREATLY be appreciated. She is so young and had so many problems. 
jackie
