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Post by jayson0415 on Jun 25, 2004 0:23:14 GMT -5
I am 19 years old and I had just recently lost my babie. I was 5 months and I was going to see what i was going to have and i found out that i was going to have a boy. but in the sonagram they saw something wrong so I had to get the amnio. And they found out that he had d/s and they said he was not going to live threw the full term. I was so crush i wanted my little boy but for some reason he was taken from me. I had to terminate my pregnacie and i had to deliver him then i got to see him and that was the hardest thing i ever had to do .he was more that 20 weeks so i had to creammake him and i kept his ashes and i see them everyday. why did this happen? please help me with this i need to understand.
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Post by shellk on Jun 25, 2004 7:06:05 GMT -5
Sweetie, I really don't know what to say to you, except that I myself have had 2 miscarriages 1 before Kourtney my 5 year old daughter w/ DS and one after her..The only thing that I can say to you is that I know I 'm sorry will do nothing for your pain. Myself, I chose to realize that for some reason those 2 angels were not taken from be but they chose to stay in heaven for right now..I know it sounds really odd but I really believe that when a child doesn't make it that it really is not a punishment to you (the mother carrying) but a way of saying something was wrong and maybe that baby could notlive outside of the womb. Why would the pregnancy be terminated Did you have this done because of the DS?? Or was there something else wrong where they knew he could not make it?? Please don't think me rude for asking just trying to understand. I hope that soon you will be able to cope with all that has happened to you and you are young know that there will be other chances for you to have a child.. G-d Bless Michele
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Post by Danielle on Jun 25, 2004 10:08:43 GMT -5
I wish I could tell you something that would be comforting and give you the understanding that you long for but it's impossible to know why these things happen....
I have also delivered a baby boy (non-DS) at about 21 weeks and held him and been through what you're going through, so I know the pain and sorrow you are feeling. I still wonder why it had to happen and I still cry sometimes when I think about my first baby. I don't think I'll never completely get over that whole experience. But it does get easier, I promise you. It take a lot of time but the pain will lessen with time. Time does have a way of healing. And if you need professional help you through this very difficult time, by all means, find someone you can talk to to help you.
All I can say (having been there myself) is you will get through this....you will make it through the day without crying....you will even laugh again.....you will have other children, if that's what you want.....and you will appreciate every little thing about them when the time comes. This is sooo hard but it will make you stronger and grateful for whatever comes next in your life.
All the best and take care, Danielle
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Post by christie on Jun 25, 2004 23:56:45 GMT -5
I am soooo sorry to hear of the loss of your child No Mom anywhere should have to experience that loss I wish I could give you an answer as to why you had to lose the baby but I can't, only God knows that. I hope you don't mind me asking but were you told that your child would not survive due to the DS??? I hope you have someone close that you can talk to and share all you are feeling. HUGS and Blessings to you CC
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Post by rickismom on Jun 26, 2004 16:57:31 GMT -5
Lots of children with DS do not survive the pregnancy. It is nothing that you did wrong. Time will slowly help the hurt become less....
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