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Post by shellk on Jul 21, 2004 8:44:00 GMT -5
 I have been working with Kourtney for about 6 months on this potty training issue...Well, let's just say that she will go number one in the toilet but not number 2.. All, of that I can handle and know that in time she will do it, but here is where my problem lays. At 4:30 am this morning I get woken up by Ms. Kourtney she is laying in my bed with me..I go to roll over and hug her and she has NO clothes on and has peed allllllll over my bed  . So, I jump up and get her out of the bed..Mind you the poor thing is still mostly asleep..I go into her room to find that she has taken off her pull up that is not really that wet and she has peed all over her own bed as well....My husband gets up at 4am and goes to the gym and he comes home to find me crying and cleaning matress's...Poor guy walk in her room and just shakes his head. Then he goes into our room and asked why are the blankets and sheets laying on the floor...I explain what has happened and he looks at me and the best he can say is. "It will end sometime, for your sake I hope." I repeatedly aske her if she has to go and usually she will go and I am soooo proud of her for that..My problem is that I am having a tough time of reminding myself that this to shall pass. I love my kids TONS but..Her behavior and her actions are starting to really wear me down and I really am at a loss..I have talked to her Ped, and had her tested for ADD, ADHD and they say that she does not have this but now she is sneaking and hitting her little brother and knocking him down when he tries to walk, she SCREAMS all the time and she gets into everrything. She is 5 and the majority of the time I am chasing her and getting her out of things. My house is locked up all the time because she gets into everything and all I ever get told is that I should be thankful she is not sitting in a corner not even aware of her surroundings. In other words I should be thankful that she is functioning good....WHAT I know alot of you have been here and done this all I want to know is where you found the patience to deal with this...I have panic attacks and am on meds for this because of the stress that I am under due mainly to her and her actions or lack there of..I so don't mean to sound like I don't love her but it is tough when every minute of everyday is chasing, and correcting, and constantly!!! trying to help her out. I know this started as a potty thing and sorry I rambled into all of my troubles.. Just any advice would be a help Thank guys and gals Lost and confused  Michele
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Post by Connie on Jul 21, 2004 9:29:17 GMT -5
Michele,
Feel free to ramble away...I suspect we all feel this way at one time or another because I know I do.
So far...I've not had this problem with Collin. My/Our problem is...he does sleep in a pull up at night even though I know he can stay dry because the first thing he does when he gets up (if I don't catch him first) is squat and pee. Even though he knows he needs to go the bathroom and can do it on his own. It drives me crazy because I'm not always in the position that I can catch him and take him to the restroom.
Only thing I can say is I know she will get it, stay consistant and know that you are not alone.
Hugs and prayers
Connie
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Post by christie on Jul 21, 2004 15:18:35 GMT -5
Hey Michele, VENT away girl anytime. It helps to get it out and just know there is someone hearing you  I know it always helps me to let it out. It will get better, HONESTLY, One day you will be looking back laughing and say to yourself OMG how did I get thru those years ;D But in the meantime let it all out here, cause we can understand and relate. HUGS to you. CC |
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Post by shellk on Jul 21, 2004 18:56:20 GMT -5
Connie and CC,
Thanks so much.
I talked to the Ped again today and they want me to take her to a pediatric psyciatrist to have and eval done on her, I'm a little nervous..we also talked about a behavioral modification regimen for her as well..I'll keep ya posted on how it goes.
Michele
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Post by meghans_mom on Jul 21, 2004 19:31:55 GMT -5
Michele - I know how you feel...our situation is not the same (as the potty training) but Meghan has some frustrating behaviors too, so I know where you're coming from. Some days it's worse than others of course -- but yikes! Some days I just want to take her and shake some sense into her....but I don't :-)
I have been plagued by anxiety attacks too...probably for the past 5 yrs, although they have gotten better lately. I do alot of "yoga breathing" and that kind of stuff when I feel them coming on. But that's not here nor there, but I wanted you to know that even if I don't know what you're going through completely, I do sort of - and I understand your feelings...
it's not easy, and we're always here for you!
good luck w/ Kourtney's testing.
many hugs, laurie
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Post by momofrussell on Jul 21, 2004 23:27:39 GMT -5
BIG HUGS MICHELE! I can't relate to the potty issues specifically, but I do know frusteration, we all do. VENT away anytime you want. I think another Dr opinion is a great idea. Don't be nervous. Write down all that is happening and talk to the psych about it... and behavior modification plans are good too. Even kids without DS need them sometimes. Please don't try to beat youself up too much. As for the potty stuff... sounds like she is a very independent girl... who is doing quite well but maybe she isn't fully "there" with the potty stuff. Sounds like she MAY know what buttons to push with mommy... Gosh why do our kids DO that LOL!? I am NOT good at my own advice to say, try not to let HER see you so upset... because I can't do that with my 11 yr old with ADD/ODD... but try.. I know the days I DO do that, it makes for better days... but it's not easy... Russell (ds), my son, doesn't speak or communicate, so I get VERY frusterated too.. we all have our "things" that get to us... it can be very frusterating.... that is why we have Unomas!!!!  Hang in there! Hugs! a. |
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Post by rickismom on Jul 24, 2004 15:01:09 GMT -5
HUGS Michele! I am glad to hear that you are getting an evaluation- behavior modification sounds to me like the way to go! Not only will it help guide her, but they will tell you how to avoid behavior that gives her negative attention. Ricki goes absolutely crazy when I ignore her---works like a charm! ;D Also, try and give yourself a "calmimg down " arsenal! Examples: - pretend that you are in a helicopter looking down on your situation- you can see and evaluate, but are emotionally "above" it - If you start thinking unproductive thoughts (Will she always pee on my bed?  I can't handle this!  She is driving me bonkers! ETC), think : TIME TO CHANGE RADIO STATIONS and try to change to a station that broadcasts more positive thoughts... ;D ;D - Imagine a crown G-d is putting on your head for handling this! - Take a camera pic of the mess so you can laugh about it later. I went and called my neighbor to look and laugh with me when Ricki broke a tray of 30 eggs, and again when she poured a bottle of oil on the floor ;D (Both of these were years ago...)
- Ask yourself-"Will I cry over this in ten years? If not, drop it!
These techniques HELP! (At least me they did....)
Once Ricki (when about 4 or 5 ) wet my bed, just as your child did. I was NOT happy! But an instant calm reaction of serious consequences let her know that there are consequences for such behavior! ;D Good luck! I know its hard! It is! But you'll see, I think, that with behavior treatment, things will be more manageable, and you will feel more in charge! |
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Post by Claire on Jul 24, 2004 21:32:14 GMT -5
Been there and feel for you. It took us 2 years to toilet train Adam. He still sleeps in a Good Night and we put one on him if we are going to be gone for a while. But at home and school, he seems to be comfortable asking to go. If we go to someone's house we have to make sure he knows where the bathroom is or he won't ask.
Good luck I know it's a battle but it will happen.
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I have been working with Kourtney for about 6 months on this potty training issue...Well, let's just say that she will go number one in the toilet but not number 2..
. So, I jump up and get her out of the bed..Mind you the poor thing is still mostly asleep..I go into her room to find that she has taken off her pull up that is not really that wet and she has peed all over her own bed as well....My husband gets up at 4am and goes to the gym and he comes home to find me crying and cleaning matress's...Poor guy walk in her room and just shakes his head. Then he goes into our room and asked why are the blankets and sheets laying on the floor...I explain what has happened and he looks at me and the best he can say is. "It will end sometime, for your sake I hope."
&&Mommy to Griffin (96), Gray (97) Collin (00) enhanced and Lauren (02) the little princess.
I know it always helps me to let it out.
I can't handle this! 
She is driving me bonkers! 
