Is this Common?

[bstrong]

Since we had our Little Peanut 15 months ago life has been filled with adventures, some good some bad. We made it through our first year with flying colors, that's what we tell ourselves. Our family is just that, a family.

My wife and I had time to reflect on the last 15 months the other night. We agreed it was hard, very hard but we got through it with our heads above water. My question to you all is; is it common to feel that after having a child with DS, and done having your own children, to have the desire or interest in adopting a child with DS?

Brian

[MB]

Yes!

mb

[bstrong]

OK MB. That was short and simple. No beating around the bush with you.

Cheers,
Brian

[eltstevens]

Yes!!! Me and my husband have thought about that too. We hate the fact that people are willing to give up their child just because of the DS.

[ValerieC]

I agree with MB! My husband though thinks I'm nuts as our DS little one is number 4 on the totem pole and adopting another child with DS would mean 5 kids. More than I can handle I'm afraid.

Valerie C

[shellk]

I really must differ from the answers so far. I have not thought about adopting another child with DS. But, see I kinda fall into that line with ValerieC. I already have 4 children...5 would be way to much for me to handle.

Michele

[Cathy]

I too would love to adopt another child with DS, but at my age and having the two girls I have, I cannot see myself having the energy or strength. I have been pretty lucky with the two children I have and am content to keep this our family. I do admire those than can and do adopt children with special needs. It is a very selfless thing to do. Although, I realize that we as parents do gain so much from our special kids, it still is a hard thing to do. KWIM??

Anyway, Hugs to those of your than do! I admire you all!

Cathy

[momofrussell]

I have never thought about it after having Russell. Not that I couldn't handle or don't want another child w/DS... it's just that we wanted three kids and have three kids and we feel very blessed and complete the way our family is. Now.. that being said.. my husband and I have talked about if God placed a situation in front of us and some child needed a home... DS or not.. we would adopt. I have always thought about adoption in general, well before I was married... but we don't feel the need to now that we have three... again, unless God told us otherwise.

I DO feel the need to go through pregnancy and have babies again ALL THE TIME! LMAO... So... my wonderful other half is "fixed".

A.

[Jessie]

My husband certainly has that desire. There was a little boy that I had posted about a couple of months from Russia w/Ds that needed to be adopted. My hubby was sooooo wanting to adopt this little guy. Crazy man - I'm pregnant and we already have "The Boy" and here he is wanting to adopt another little one!!!! My dear hubby, crazy in the brain, big in the heart. Gotta love him!


Jessie

[CC]

Have to say NO here too, although I will say in just the last couple of years when a situation was brought to my attention of a little one with DS that needed a home, then YES we considered it and this one little guy, aka "Kevin" OMG he touched my heart the min. I saw his photo and read his story
But in the end the foster parents decided to keep him and adopt him, a TRUE HAPPY ending for this little guy

CC ~

[Alice]

I would not give up my own child with DS, but I am not opened for an adoption of another with DS.
I have to admit that: it is harder to raise a child with DS than with out.
I think I am not strong to handle that.

[Kristen]

I would. WHen I was 15 months into the journey, I was having another little girl who completed our "birth" family. Right now with two little ones and me in school, it is not a great time to think about such things, but I am open to the idea in the future. I am only 28 now, so I think I have a few good years left in me to think about starting over with a new little one, though we are NOT having any more of our own bioogically. We'll see. I never say never anymore.

[laurasnowbird]

As we're on number four, and could end up in October with another of our OWN that has DS, I have to say no. Four kids is plenty for me! But I have to agree with Kristen, I never say never anymore!

[steffipoo]

HI!!!!! Now me? I agree if I were to adopt it would most definately be a child with sp. needs..definately a child with ds . BUT...hee hee this is IF and only IF I was very well off...had a nanny...lmao... had a house...had a car that wouldn't have almost 200,000 miles on it LMAO...With all those things in place well SURE!!!!LOLOLOL.. Sheesh any child for that matter....Ya know I got this gratitude about the time Olivia was your childs' age..after I watched child after child from Olivias original ei suffer, get sick, die... UGGGG I could see the parents of kids with various disabilities(angelmans, cp, etc) struggle and see how lucky we were to have a child with ds.God works in mysterious ways showing us the light eh?

[kellyds]

I belong to a Yahoo group of people who are all interested in adopting a child with Down syndrome. Yes, it is very common.

We aren't necessarily finished having biological children (except that we're so ancient it might never happen again ), but we're still getting a home study done so we'll be ready to adopt when the right child becomes available. There's a waiting list of people who want these kids.