Post by laurasnowbird on Jan 23, 2006 12:57:27 GMT -5
Or I wouldn't be taking the time to type it one-handed, LOL!
I thought it might be a good time to reiterate something we've discussed here before. We all come here for different reasons at different times, sometimes for advice, sometimes just to vent and gain a sympathetic ear. When one of our members is struggling, we all wish we could make it better for them, and sometimes we try to do so by offering unsolicited, and maybe sometimes unwelcome advice. Please don't anyone take this the wrong way, because I know that everyone has the best possible intentions. But when someone is really struggling with a long-term issue, and everyone chimes in with their two cents worth, it can put people on the defensive, and make them feel like they're not doing enough, or not doing things right. I'm sure none of us wants that!
I also want to note that this is NOT directed at any particular person, and I'm not implying it has been going on lately, just thought it might be good information since we have so many new (and already much loved!) members.
So, what we had decided at some point is that if you're just venting, but don't want any advice, say so, and folks should respect that. If you're looking for advice, say that too. There's so much good information here, and so much good advice, but sometimes people aren't looking for that, just need the security of knowing that HERE, in this special place, are people that understand. Understand their struggles, joys and heartaches in ways that their other family and friends cannot. And that is what truly makes this a family.
I hope that I'm making sense, in my own sleep-deprived way, LOL! Love you guys.....Laura
I thought it might be a good time to reiterate something we've discussed here before. We all come here for different reasons at different times, sometimes for advice, sometimes just to vent and gain a sympathetic ear. When one of our members is struggling, we all wish we could make it better for them, and sometimes we try to do so by offering unsolicited, and maybe sometimes unwelcome advice. Please don't anyone take this the wrong way, because I know that everyone has the best possible intentions. But when someone is really struggling with a long-term issue, and everyone chimes in with their two cents worth, it can put people on the defensive, and make them feel like they're not doing enough, or not doing things right. I'm sure none of us wants that!
I also want to note that this is NOT directed at any particular person, and I'm not implying it has been going on lately, just thought it might be good information since we have so many new (and already much loved!) members.
So, what we had decided at some point is that if you're just venting, but don't want any advice, say so, and folks should respect that. If you're looking for advice, say that too. There's so much good information here, and so much good advice, but sometimes people aren't looking for that, just need the security of knowing that HERE, in this special place, are people that understand. Understand their struggles, joys and heartaches in ways that their other family and friends cannot. And that is what truly makes this a family.
I hope that I'm making sense, in my own sleep-deprived way, LOL! Love you guys.....Laura