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Post by Annie S on Jan 27, 2006 19:26:48 GMT -5
Hi all it's been awhile since I posted our life has been a bit hard with Mother in Law being really ill for the past few months..she passed away this last week..We have been trying to explain to Sonny..that she has gone to heaven and that some day we will get to see her again..
But we have explained this at least 6 or 7 times..At the funeral Sonny kept asking if we could bring Grandma home...Its so hard to tell if he understands...A cute comment he told us when we pulled into the cemetery
he said cool Grandma gets to be in a park...I guess we are never sure how much they comprehend...Thanks for letting me share and if you have had any good ideas for
explaining death to our kids
Sonny is 11 Thanks Annie S
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Post by Cathy on Jan 27, 2006 19:28:42 GMT -5
Hugs to you and your family!
Your yooper friends,
Cathy
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Post by Many on Jan 27, 2006 20:14:55 GMT -5
I'm so sorry about Mother-in-law.
Lots of Hugs to you and your family!!!
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Post by Ericsmomma on Jan 27, 2006 20:34:00 GMT -5
so sorry to hear about your Mother-in-law....prayers coming your way.
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Post by Emilysmom on Jan 27, 2006 21:07:05 GMT -5
Annie,
Sorry to hear about your family's loss. It's sweet that Sonny takes comfort in seeing his grandma in a park. He may continue to ask about her for a while.
I hope you'll keep posting when you have time!
Susan
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Post by CC on Jan 28, 2006 1:16:00 GMT -5
ANNIE, sorry to hear bout your MIL's passing, HUGS to you all  Hey heaven being a park is a nice thought  Hmmmm as for your ? "if you have had any good ideas for explaining death to our kids" I would just keep answering any ?'s he might have even if its over and over, KWIM He may understand more then you think, just my thoughts  CC ~ |
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Post by kwisteena1021 on Jan 28, 2006 8:41:23 GMT -5
I am sorry to hear of your loss.
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Post by momofrussell on Jan 28, 2006 10:42:51 GMT -5
Oh Annie.. I am sorry for the loss!!! I think you did just fine trying to explain it to Sonny. He will understand what he can.. and maybe if he asks some other time.. you can just talk about it again. They also have good children's books on this.. so maybe a trip to the library?
Hugs Annie!!!
A.`
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Post by Chester on Jan 28, 2006 10:55:01 GMT -5
It's always hard to lose a Grandma!
So sorry. Sounds like you handled it very nicely.
Dawn
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Post by chasemansmom on Jan 28, 2006 12:05:12 GMT -5
Oh Annie, I am so sorry for your loss. We keep a picture of Chase's family members that were important to him (and his aide he still hasnt forgotten) in his room and he gets in a mood every now and then and wants to hold their picture and talk about them. His favorite outlet for his sadness over losing them is to send balons to heaven, one for each person he chooses, Linda is always first (his aide that passed away) and he yells things upwards like "I love you Linda hon" "I miss you Grandpa" "Come home Sophie" It brings tears to my eyes every time but it makes him feel so good. We do it on almost every holiday and when the urge hits him hugs, Robin |
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Post by meghans_mom on Jan 28, 2006 12:26:25 GMT -5
Annie
sorry to hear about your loss.
It is very difficult, trying to get our kids to understand. Meghan very much misses my mom - and I just keep telling her she is in heaven now with baby Jesus (sorry if this offends anyone) and she will always watch over her.
I remember when we walked into the funeral parlor w/ the kids the first day of the wake (before we received visitors) and both my kids saw my mom there and yelled "WAKE UP GRANDMA!!". I totally knew that was coming...
Meghan still asks for her, so its hard. heck, *I* still expect to see her when I come home some days....
I know there are some books out there aimed at younger kids - jamie lee curtis or schwartezeneger's wife (can't remember her name) wrote one, I think?
anyways - my condolences, again.
hugs, laurie
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Post by updowns on Jan 28, 2006 18:52:00 GMT -5
Annie I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family and your husband's family at this difficult time.
Sarah lost her Grandad in September 2004 and she still talks about him, she is aware that he is dead, is in heaven. I know at first, like you, I didn't know how much she understood and I really expected it to go over her head but she knew and when I brought it up with her teacher she said "Oh Sarah is very aware that her Grandad is gone". Sarah likes to go to the grave with flowers and she chats with Grandad (it is really sweet) and she still comes to me at times sad because she misses her Grandad. I just tell her that Grandad was very sick and had a lot of pain and now he is in heaven and has no more pain and is very happy. So all you can do really is answer Sonny's questions when he asks and let him talk about his Grandma. The park bit is really sweet....
Stella
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Post by Annie S on Feb 1, 2006 20:30:24 GMT -5
Thank you all for the condolences..Sonny is still asking me if Grandma is home and we say yes in heaven...
I love the balloon idea I think we will try this...Thanks again for all you support,,,
Annie S
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Post by Connie on Feb 2, 2006 9:57:29 GMT -5
Annie,
My heart goes out to you and Sonny. I just can't imagine having to go throught that with any of my kids....but, mostly with Collin.
Hugs and Prayers,
Connie
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Post by SuziF on Feb 2, 2006 11:06:41 GMT -5
SO sorry for your loss Annie !
Suzi
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Susan, Proud mom of Michael (32), Justin (25) Emily (22ds), and Jordan (20).
