potty training- i am sick of it

[samanthajosmom_12]

potty training is a flop here in my house!! samantha can go if she wants to but she thinks it is funny that she goes still in her pants and will poop in her pants in front of you and laugh she is stinky!! grrrrrrrrrrrrr!! i am tired of buying diapers!!!!!!!!! nothing you do helps. you tell she is a big girl and give lots of positive suppport, and she flat out will not poop in the potty . she will sopmetimes tell you that she needs to go to the potty and will pee sometimes. i want to pull out my hair. sue

[Pat]

Sue, John-John is 6 1/2 & has been potty training hard the last 6 mths.(he did not want to before that) He even takes himself to the potty & goes on his own sometimes , or I can clean the rug 7 days a week or skip days here & there. It's just part of life
Don't pull your hair out you'll go bald & she'll laugh even harder ;DLOL
Pat

[Emilysmom]

Awwwwwww Sue, Sorry it's so frustrating right now. Just keep being consistent and wait a bit longer.......Samantha jo will surprise you and become potty trained when you least expect it!

[CC]

Hang in there, I found when training Chris many years back, I would back off a bit and then try again when he was more ready, KWIM It will happen, I am sure of that

CC ~

[ALLISA]

Sue,

Been there, done that....Erin will be 6 in a couple of weeks and I have to say it took about a year before we were fully done with the training.

It is frustrating, especially if you've trained older ones who got it in just a few weeks gggrrrr......

Don't know if this will help or not.....BUT......I was 100% against pullups....felt they would only encourage the child to go just like a diaper......BUT.........

After a while I realized the opposite was actually true for Erin as she got older and more used to the training.....

our problem with training was "out in public", if we were shopping etc....she'd pee ANYWHERE !! so I started to be sure she had a pullup on when we were out because I couldn't trust her to hold it.....guess what.......she HOLDS it with the pullup !!

I figured she'd pee freely in it......and I think it's because she KNOWS that if she pees in her pants....I will change her in one second......BUT ......if she pees in the pullup.....she stays in a wet pullup....I'm not apt to change her that second becasue I don't usually even know she has peed.

She was playing me !

I thought she didn't care about wet/dry....but she did over time and Samantha Joe will, too.

I think 4 is a littel young for a child with DS.....I could be wrong... Erin at almost 5 years ( she was 4 and 11 months) and like I said it did take a full year before she really got it....hang in......it gets much better......

and don't pull your hair out....your head will get cold !!

[edugatortracy]

I so share the potty training pain! I am in the middle of training my interested typical 2 year old, and doing my best to encourage my chromosomally enhanced 4 year old to come along for the ride!

I wanted to share something I wrote for an upcoming newsletter for work. I am a "teacher trainer" for the Flordia Diagnostic Learning Resources System/Springs region (www.fdlrssprings.org). The purpose of FDLRS is to provide support to anyone who is involved with a student who has special need- think Hard Rock Cafe..."LOVE ALL, SERVE ALL!" Anyway, my article this month is about potty training...here is a glimse into my world.... Enjoy!

It isn’t until you begin potty training your children that you realize how little control you REALLY have when it comes to the feisty little creatures! You might think that you can “make” them do things but you can’t MAKE them control their bodily functions. Of course, we all know those PPs-Perfect Pottiers. These are the kids visited by the Magical Potty Fairy who dutifully sprinkled special potty dust on them as the darlings slept and *POOF* no more dirty diapers, no accidents, just perfect potty-ing. Well, the Magical Potty Fairy has yet to find my house. And quite honestly, I NEED HER!

We have begun to train Caroline, my ‘typical’ 2 year old. I have been told that girls are quicker to get the potty-ing thing than boys, but I don’t buy it. Anyway, Caroline likes to go potty in the toilet…especially when it means she is going to be rewarded with M&Ms! She has been successful, but no major “suddenly she is trained” breakthroughs as of yet. Now James, my not so typical 4 years old who doesn’t like M&Ms, has other toilet interests. Initially, James was TERRIFIED of the toilet. He would literally back against the wall so he could see it at all times when he made his way to the bathtub. And if you actually tried to sit him on the pot, be ready for a cat fight complete with scratching and screaming!! At the beginning of the school year wonderful Ms. Mary, Ms. Vee and Ms. Tina decided it was time the little man sat on the toilet. At first, it was a fight, but gradually he began to watch with interest at the marvels of others. Those of us in the family that were potty trained had to look out when we were using the toilet because James loved to watch- which often meant trying to pry knees apart or, and my husband would die if he knew I was about to write this, getting an accidental ‘squirt’ from Dad as a result of getting a little too close to the action. Eventually, James had a handful of “successes”, if you define success as sitting on the toilet and peeing on the wall opposite the commode! Since James is now comfortable with the toilet, we have opened a whole new can of behaviors. For instance, due to his interesting approach to meeting his sensory needs, James likes to lick the toilet and stick his head in the bowl to play in the water. Please understand he likes to lick the toilet because of it’s texture, not it’s taste (ewww!) and he plays in the water because it swirls around and makes really cool noises when flushed! However, when it comes to actually ‘using’ the toilet for what it is intended, James has other ideas. Presently, he will sit but hasn’t been ‘going’. At home, Daddy or Mommy will stand James at the toilet and tell him to “Go pee-pee”, which usually results in him echoing “go pee-pee” with no actual pee-peeing happening! A couple of weeks ago, I stood James in front of the pot and lo’ and behold he started to pee! Unfortunately as soon as he started to let loose, I whooped loudly and scared the child! My poor baby!! Magical Potty Fairy, where are you??

I am not sure how long it is going to take to potty train James; or how long it will take before I have to fight to keep him from using the toilet as a toy. From what I hear from other parents of children with Down syndrome, it might be awhile! I know that I look forward to the day that I don’t have to empty the bath and bleach the water toys because there was something icky floating in the water! (And this happens once every 10 days or so!) In the meantime, I keep trying. Why?? Because EVERYTHING James learns comes from lots and lots of REPETITION! And potty training ANY child- unless the Magical Potty Fairy visits- takes time. So, if you are like me, ready to be done with diapers forever, be patient and be consistent!

[andrewsmom]

LOL TRacy!!!!! Licking the toilet!!! OMG!!!!rotfl!!!!

Sue...I'm sorry you're having such a tuff time. Potty training is no fun...no matter how you look at it. Good luck!
-Trisha

[Connie]

Sue,

Stick with it...she'll get it!!! It is a training processes...and you are teaching her how to recognize her body signs. I do beleive because of the low muscle tone our kids don't always notice this feeling....like anything they do (except for running) it takes them longer to learn.

Tracy --- Gross!!!

Hugs,
Connie

[AnnieM]

Sue,
Mikey was about 6 1/2 yrs old when he was potty trained. I tried EVERYTHING! He could care less about rewards and such nothing would work. So I noticed he would ALWAYS go potty when he got in the bathtub. This may sound strange but when I felt he should have to go potty I would sit him on the toliet and pour luke warm water on him and he would go. I would prasie him, do the potty dance etc. It worked. For him I really think he didn't notice the feeling of having to go. Good Luck!

[Mary_L.]

We are in the middle of it with Patrick and Nora now. I can't stand potty training! I guess the key is just to stay consistent and I know he will get it soon~I just hope its really soon!

[Cathy]

ROTFL Connie.. no kidding.. they certaintly learned to run fast. Katie is just now starting to show some signs of interest and she is 5. She has gone a couple times at school, but she really does not know when she "has" to go until it is too late.

If I put her on the potty, she will go for me, but she doesn't know to tell me before she wets.

Good luck and be patient... its the only defense we have!


Hugs

Cathy

[jeannie]

i'm in the same boat....i give up! no not really but i sure want to.

[momofrussell]

HUGS to all of you in the potty training phase!!!! We are so not there with Russell....

A.