speaking of being overly sensitive..

[cindylou]

OK OK, I know I'm one of the ones that thinks we parents of kids with disabilities or friends/family/loved ones of such should have thicker skin and not be so easily offended and here's me admitting to not having it yesterday:

Kaylee was home sick Monday and Tuesday-went to the doc first thing Monday morning--struggled with getting Kaylee to allow them to do a strep test. (She's too big to force--like holding her arms-I feel she needs to do it on her own) Finally she opened her mouth for mere seconds (amazing doc) and did it and then cried. She just hates strep tests. (Don't we all) She does a blood test better then a strep test..

Test came back negative-but they sent it out to the lab anyway. Diagnosis was bad sore throat. Drink liquids. Did that all day Monday and Tuesday (she was up all day playing, watching movies and Tuesday afternoon went outside to shoot hoops with the neighbor boys). Her voice sounded sore (hoarse) and she had a bit of a cough. No fever. No runny nose. Wednesday morning I didn't make her get up. She gets up 30 minutes late. Gets herself in the shower - comes down to breakfast all dressed for school. Took her to school Wednesday with a bottle of water and some cough drops.

So, Wednesday at about 11:15 I get a call-the school office saying "Kaylee's teacher would like to speak to you" so they put her through and she says "Cindy, Kaylee's really sick. She's like the walking dead. Lethargic and tired. And she just coughed-- I swear it sounds like she has bronchitis. I think you should come and get her-she shouldn't be here." Well, I was not happy. To say the least. First of all--if a kid is sick (fever or throwing up) then the office calls because the kid is in the health room. The office obviously wasn't willing to do that because the teacher is who called me-through the office. I think it is highly unusual for a teacher to do that-and I also think that there were probably a few 'typical' peers that were coughing-(Oregon in March) and may even have appeared a little tired (not concentrating on their work) but the classroom teacher undoubtedly would not be calling their parents to come and get their child. This goes back to the whole idea that our kids are evaluated ALL THE TIME and analyzed. They are not treated like the general school popluation. -

Now, some of my friends in book club took this whole scenario to mean that the classroom teacher cares about Kaylee more then other kids. That she was doing her and I a favor. I took offense, thinking she's saying I had no business letting her go to school.

Probably I have a bit of a chip on my shoulder because we're going into this placement meeting soon and I know that the staff tend to disagree with me about Junior High placement-

Doesn't it frustrate you though when a "school professional" makes you feel incompetant??

good news is I had already done an hour workout at 24 hour fitness--I had to miss a few days with Kaylee sick and it was driving me nuts-excercise is my only sanity break in life these days! (well, that and a screwdriver or two...)

Kaylee came with me shopping after I picked her up from school and we found swimsuits for Florida--

Doc called at 6 pm to say the lab came back--AND IT WAS STREP--so I felt like an idiot-

I can hear you all laughing at me now..

[Connie]

Well Cindy,

It must have been something in the air because I did the same thing yesterday!!!

Collin woke up early Sunday morning with a 102.5 fever and was really snotty...I thought forsure we were coming down with pneumonia but it didn't. His fever broke later that afternoon and it was like he just had a terrible cold.

The next day, Monday his face started to break out with little red dots...like bites or something. My first thought, it was the beginning of the chicken pox but just decided to wait and sent him on to school. He was there all day Monday, Tuesday then at 10:30 Wednesday they call and tell me they think he has Scarletina/Scarlet Fever because of this rash on his face and want me to pick him up now. The child gets out of school at 11...only 30 minutes left in the day. I proceed to tell them that no he does not have this that I have been through it before with my daughter. They wanted a note from the doctor!! Well, I proceeded to throw the my FIL (a doctor) said he's fine and no I won't be taking him back to the doctor and my DH will be there to pick him up at 11.

My DH brings Collin to me at work and I show him what I found on the internet proving to him that the rash on his face was not Scarletina!! But then, I raise his shirt and there on his back is the tell tale sandpaper red rash from a strep infection that causes the scarlet fever. He did not have that when I put him on the bus that morning and the school didn't even notice that!! Did I feel like a really bad mommy. I took him to the doc for and antibiotic just to be on the safe side since it can cause major problems if left untreated with the heart and things!!

But, I still had to call the school and tell them I was sorry!!! Man did I feel silly.

Connie

[gloriaelias]

Hey Cindy,

Been there and done that. Jacob has asthma and always has a runny nose. No other signs of illness or anything. We had to go pick him up everyday for a week because they did not want him at school. I told them he had asthma and that was just part of who Jacob was and that I know that nose wiping is a pain, but it had to be done. I got the note from the DR and everything saying he was healthy, just runny. Long story short I met with the teacher and the nurse in person and told them if they could not handle Jacob's runny nose then I would have no choice but to request an addendum to his IEP on nose wiping or get a 1:1 assistant assigned to him. Needless to say, they have not sent him home since then and for some odd reason, his nose stopped running very shortly after. ;D I guess his meds finally kicked in and eliminated the problem. But it was very frustrating at the time.

I know they are thinking he was actually sick, but I know it was the meds, or was it

[CC]

Awww Cindy can I relate, man I always thought those "fast" strep tests were right till the same happened to us. I was told no by the Ped's office then they sent it out and YUP came back positive. HOPE Kaylee is feeling lots better by now.

My first and most outstanding time of being way over sensitive was at Christopher's first week check. OMG I will never forget. We went and I gave the gal at the desk our name and she says Ohhhh Little Christopher take him and you guys go in that waiting area. Which BTW was a complete separate area all by itself. K, I said to the gal Hmmm just because my son has DS is no reason he can not sit out here with the rest of the people She looks at me and says Mrs. M... Chris is just a week old and we just didn't want him around any of the sick kids DS has nothing to do with it. Hmmm well you can bet I felt silly being soooo overly sensitive. Funny thing now is that same nurse and I laugh bout that to this day. Honest if that had happened with Kodi Lee I would have never reacted that way.

CC

[laurasnowbird]

Honestly, aren't there just those days where no matter what you do, there's just no right answer? Give yourself a break. I can remember when Nick was in 3rd grade, putting him on the bus for school, hale and healthy, not a sign of anything wrong, and 45 minutes later I got a call from the school saying how could I have sent such a sick kid, and that he threw up on the bus. HUH? Whose kid are you talking about? And they acted like I was some kind of a dimwit for sending him. Honestly, he was FINE!!! And that's one of my kids with no disability, so my thin skin would have been in a real knot if it was Ethan.

Ethan has pretty significant reflux, and I occasionally get a call from school saying he's thrown up. Honestly, the kid is 4 years old and has never thrown up. But he still does spit up. I go racing up to the school, and he's fine. One of these days though, I'm going to go up there, cussing under my breath, and he's going to be actually sick and I'll feel like a dork.

[ashleysmom]

Well if it makes any of you feel better im up w/2 kids barfing. 2 days ago it was Ashley, then me&dh, now it's Lisa&Morgan. I guess poor Logans last on the hit list.


YUCK YUCK YUCK, I'd much rather have strep.

[TriciaF]

Cindy....that is too funny. So, you have basically proven yourself right. You need to take your own advice more often, huh? I love it...thanks for posting.

[Debbie]

I guess we all are a little over sensitive. I have been told I am but then you are all talking about illness. I guess it depends on the problem at hand.

I used to get sore throats all the time when I was a child in school. I finally had to have my tonsils taken out.
The funny part was that Mom kept insisting that I needed them out but the doctor wasn't sure. They had a few rough times. Fortuantely Mom knew better! I still get one once in a while but nothing like I used to!