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Post by Alice on Jun 2, 2006 7:50:44 GMT -5
I was so happy from the beginning that they accepted my son into their childcare and now I am very disappointed. It seems to me that they do everything so we will take him from them.  They start giving me to sign papers which record Luke's aggressiveness (when kids bother him, he may push them away from him). They what to put him a label that he is aggressive child. I dropped him at that daycare this morning and very much upset of seeing how one girl was wonder that he is back and teachers are not welcome him as well. Teachers want to have an easy work - they talk all day with each other and not watching kids properly. What should we do? To look for another daycare? Will that be better for him? Thanks for any advice or so...  |
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Post by ALLISA on Jun 2, 2006 8:39:10 GMT -5
gggrrrr......why do people think daycare is about an easy job...just chit-chatting all day and making sure kids are fed....it is much more than that & if you feel they are only intrerested in an easy job and not paying as close attteniton to all the kdis....then yes try to look some more. It is NOT at all easy to find a good daycare....I've been through a couple with my oldest son.....but the good news is that htere are some rally good ones out there....jsut may take awhile to find the best.
I have forgottne how old your son is, but perhaps you can ask for recommendations from local ARC or EI ?
And good for you for not letting htem "label" him as aggresive...all kids can push and the properthing to do is TEACH them not to....not just say "oh well, he's aggresive "
I wish you the best of luck Alice ! Whoever winds up with Luke will be very lucky.
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Post by Alice on Jun 2, 2006 9:17:03 GMT -5
Hi Allisa, Thank you so much for the advise and good wishes. Luke is 6 and not potty trained, so they do not want to deal with all the mess (you know what I mean), so they cannot reject him as a disabled child - they are making him "aggressive". When some kids bothers Luke, teachers do not stop them - so Luke protect himself as he can do. He cannot tell kids (he is not talking):" No, I do not want you to touch me or so...", he simply pushes them. Most kids are very nice to him, but some are very annoying. The girl he "tackled on the floor" is much taller and bigger than Luke.  Oh, well I am calling other daycares... |
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Post by Jessie on Jun 2, 2006 10:24:33 GMT -5
I'm sorry this isn't working out for you guys Alice. I completely understand the whole aggressive issue and it stemming directly from him not being able to verbally tell someone to leave him alone. And, he can't defend himself verbally to the teacher/provider either. That's the story of Jason's life!
Unfortunately, daycare gets even tougher when they are older. Jason is 13 and it's pretty much impossible to find a daycare situation during the summer for a child his age. Camp only lasts thru July so that means we have to figure out how to juggle our jobs and Jason thru the month of August. There truly is just not enough GOOD, RELIABLE resources out there to help out with our kids.
Good luck - and keep us posted.
Jessie
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Post by Connie on Jun 2, 2006 11:16:48 GMT -5
Alice,
I am sorry your having to go through this. But, I have a question. You mentioned in the post above that Luke tackled a girl, was he just playing? If so, then he is not being aggressive he is just playing rough and there is a big difference.
Collin plays rough and is notorious for TACKLING which we work on a lot but it's hard when they rough house and wrestle at home. That's just part of being a boy!!!
Good Luck to you
Connie
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Post by Jessie on Jun 2, 2006 11:57:14 GMT -5
You know what Connie? You are so right about some things just being all about them being boys! However, for some odd reason people (teachers, aides, etc.), seem to only see it as the cognitively impaired boy tackling and being aggressive again. I've had to have that conversation with Jason's school a few times . . . uh, remember he's a BOY!  |
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Post by Alice on Jun 2, 2006 13:30:54 GMT -5
The crazy part about yesterday story, that the teacher did not see what exactly happened... I am so scared that I may loose my job... because of that. |
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Post by Kristin on Jun 2, 2006 23:20:10 GMT -5
Is the daycare at the school site? We had problems with personnel and the daycare, aggressive behavior (mainly due to frustration), etc. I was able to get Clarice's program manager, teacher, daycare manager, and aide together to problem solve. It was a strategy session, not accusatory. I wasn't present, but I can say, I trust her teacher and things have been better since. Education about how to handle Clarice's frustration, and the frustration of the other kids really helped everyone.
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Post by Alice on Jun 3, 2006 6:34:38 GMT -5
Kristin, It is regular day care with out any teachers who has knowledge, ability, and willing to work with disabled kids. Our pre-school at the school site with all therapists, aids, and wonderful teachers is only half day program and now at summer time they are closed as all schools. We had never ever had problems with the pre-school at school site. I was so amazed how everything is organized, their knowledge, their big hearts to my son and all other kids. We trusted them as to ourselves. The most important thing - they loved him as he is his own. We was never told that our son is aggressive, because he is not. Actually, they (teachers for the pre-school) came to visit Luke at day care ones and was not very happy of the teacher who seems doesn't like children and doesn't know how to do her job. Ok, when I took him yesterday from there, I was told that he had very good day.  |
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