Post by steffipoo on Nov 10, 2006 13:15:50 GMT -5
read this article the other day. Made me smile big thought I'd share it with you all.... 
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The lunchtime crowd in Manhattan Beach is a friendly group. Xan Saks sees to that.
The 18-year-old Mira Costa High School senior offers a slice of pizza to classmate Jacob Dominguez, who is laughing as he talks about a planned trip to Disneyland. A few steps away sophomore Ben McMillan punctuates a discussion about soccer with some spirited high-fives. In the back of the room junior Tommy Sedgwick is surrounded by girls chattering about the green hair-dye job he received a day earlier at a community fair.
Dominguez, McMillan and Sedgwick are disabled. They're teenagers who could easily be lost in the crowd at some high schools.
But not at Mira Costa. Not since the year-old Friendship Circle Club started proving that members of the 2,300-member student body have more in common than anyone thought.
The club, organized and operated by students, connects the school's nearly two dozen "special needs" teenagers with the general student body in a way that no formal school district policy or legal system edict could ever pull off.
In the year since Saks informally started the campus club with a handful of his own friends, it has drawn those with autism, Down syndrome, cerebral palsy and a variety of other disabilities into mainstream campus life. In the process, it's become the school's largest club.
And now its concept could be spreading across the South Bay as other school systems take notice.
High school is a time when the most important element in life for many is one's social status. The 100-member teen club has ratcheted the social system up a notch.
"We're bringing together people from different cliques across the school," Saks said. "We're creating a whole new clique that's cool to be involved in. We're totally turning things around."
Alexander Saks, who is quick to explain that his nickname is a spinoff of the "Xander Man" sobriquet his father bestowed on him when he was a preschooler, started the club after participating in a program at a Redondo Beach community center called the South Bay Friendship Circle.
It primarily involved young children, Saks said, although the mother of one disabled boy invited him to her son's 17th birthday party.
"I went, and except for members of his family, I was the only other person there," Saks said.
"When it was time to leave a few hours later, I said goodbye and the mother came out with tears in her eyes to thank me for coming. She said this was the first time her son had ever had a friend over."
Mira Costa's club started with Saks and a handful of his friends. Math teacher Rocky Wilson signed on to be its faculty advisor. He wasn't expecting much at first.
For 18 of his 30 years in the classroom, Wilson has worked at Mira Costa.
He was there when youngsters with disabilities were first incorporated into the general student body. He said the classroom part of that integration effort generally worked well.
"The school's focus is on the curriculum. But we've not been so successful at lunch and after school," Wilson said of the inclusion of disabled youngsters in activities.
"They'd eat lunch alone or with each other," he said. "They didn't feel they had the opportunity to go to the dance or the football game. Some of them lacked communication skills. They lacked that social circle that other kids have. Many of those kids led isolated lives."
But school-originated buddy programs aimed at pulling special education pupils into the campus social structure were less than successful, Wilson said.
"Some of them limped along for a few years. But they didn't get much support — probably because they were run by adults, to be honest."
The Friendship Circle Club has evolved as it has grown.
Some members are beginning to visit each other at home. They get together for after-school events such as a planned barbecue at a student's house and the proposed Disneyland outing.
At last month's Manhattan Beach Hometown Fair the disabled worked side-by-side with the able-bodied selling water at a booth.
Youngsters grinned when one special ed student's mother came to the fair to pick him up. He pleaded to work a little longer in the booth, explaining, "Mom, I want to stay with my friends!"
Elisa Nicholas, whose son came away from the fair with the green hair, said the club has helped turn his life around. Tommy Sedgwick has cerebral palsy.
"When he first got to high school, he would basically eat lunch alone, with his aide. Now he has friends. When I took him to school this year, kids were walking up and saying, 'Hi, Tom!' ," said Nicholas, a pediatrician from Hermosa Beach.
"It brings tears to your eyes — I'm going to cry right now talking about it," she said. "When they're younger, it's much easier for kids to fit in. As he got older, it got harder. Middle school and high school is a tough time for kids socially. Now he has friends."
Able-bodied youngsters feel the same way. Fifteen-year-old Celia Hubbard was delighted when a disabled student in the club asked for her instant message address.
"We have each other's screen names, and we're talking by IM now," Hubbard said. "Some of these kids I've known since elementary school, and I wanted to spend more time with them. Others I've met for the first time. I've made a lot of friends in this group."
Senior Reed Eisenhauer, 17, said others on the Mira Costa campus take note when club members walk across campus and greet special ed youngsters by name and with high-fives.
"You're a little nervous at first, but once you meet them it's a lot of fun. You find out they're people just like you. When they become comfortable with you, it's like you're regular friends," he said.
Those who work closely with special education students at Mira Costa say the effect on those teenagers has been dramatic.
"They're learning how to act in different social settings. It's putting them in social situations they've never been in before," said Joe Lederer, a special needs teacher who has spent a decade at the campus.
Manhattan Beach Unified School District administrators are equally delighted. They wish Saks and his friends had been around seven years ago.
That's when the parents of one Mira Costa special education student filed a lawsuit alleging that the school had failed to provide proper language instruction and socialization interventions for their autistic son.
The district and the state agreed last year to pay $6.7 million to settle the suit.
"It's wonderful to see something initiated by students for students capture people's attention," said Beverly Rohrer, interim superintendent.
Last month Rohrer invited Saks to a regional school superintendents meeting to discuss his club. Several of the 11 school chiefs present expressed interest in introducing it to their campuses.
Saks is now working with schools in Redondo Beach and on the Palos Verdes Peninsula, she said.
But for now, Mira Costa's teenagers are the beneficiaries. The idea of friendship has come full circle.
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bob.pool@latimes.com
Buddies
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Time out
click to enlarge
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The lunchtime crowd in Manhattan Beach is a friendly group. Xan Saks sees to that.
The 18-year-old Mira Costa High School senior offers a slice of pizza to classmate Jacob Dominguez, who is laughing as he talks about a planned trip to Disneyland. A few steps away sophomore Ben McMillan punctuates a discussion about soccer with some spirited high-fives. In the back of the room junior Tommy Sedgwick is surrounded by girls chattering about the green hair-dye job he received a day earlier at a community fair.
Dominguez, McMillan and Sedgwick are disabled. They're teenagers who could easily be lost in the crowd at some high schools.
But not at Mira Costa. Not since the year-old Friendship Circle Club started proving that members of the 2,300-member student body have more in common than anyone thought.
The club, organized and operated by students, connects the school's nearly two dozen "special needs" teenagers with the general student body in a way that no formal school district policy or legal system edict could ever pull off.
In the year since Saks informally started the campus club with a handful of his own friends, it has drawn those with autism, Down syndrome, cerebral palsy and a variety of other disabilities into mainstream campus life. In the process, it's become the school's largest club.
And now its concept could be spreading across the South Bay as other school systems take notice.
High school is a time when the most important element in life for many is one's social status. The 100-member teen club has ratcheted the social system up a notch.
"We're bringing together people from different cliques across the school," Saks said. "We're creating a whole new clique that's cool to be involved in. We're totally turning things around."
Alexander Saks, who is quick to explain that his nickname is a spinoff of the "Xander Man" sobriquet his father bestowed on him when he was a preschooler, started the club after participating in a program at a Redondo Beach community center called the South Bay Friendship Circle.
It primarily involved young children, Saks said, although the mother of one disabled boy invited him to her son's 17th birthday party.
"I went, and except for members of his family, I was the only other person there," Saks said.
"When it was time to leave a few hours later, I said goodbye and the mother came out with tears in her eyes to thank me for coming. She said this was the first time her son had ever had a friend over."
Mira Costa's club started with Saks and a handful of his friends. Math teacher Rocky Wilson signed on to be its faculty advisor. He wasn't expecting much at first.
For 18 of his 30 years in the classroom, Wilson has worked at Mira Costa.
He was there when youngsters with disabilities were first incorporated into the general student body. He said the classroom part of that integration effort generally worked well.
"The school's focus is on the curriculum. But we've not been so successful at lunch and after school," Wilson said of the inclusion of disabled youngsters in activities.
"They'd eat lunch alone or with each other," he said. "They didn't feel they had the opportunity to go to the dance or the football game. Some of them lacked communication skills. They lacked that social circle that other kids have. Many of those kids led isolated lives."
But school-originated buddy programs aimed at pulling special education pupils into the campus social structure were less than successful, Wilson said.
"Some of them limped along for a few years. But they didn't get much support — probably because they were run by adults, to be honest."
The Friendship Circle Club has evolved as it has grown.
Some members are beginning to visit each other at home. They get together for after-school events such as a planned barbecue at a student's house and the proposed Disneyland outing.
At last month's Manhattan Beach Hometown Fair the disabled worked side-by-side with the able-bodied selling water at a booth.
Youngsters grinned when one special ed student's mother came to the fair to pick him up. He pleaded to work a little longer in the booth, explaining, "Mom, I want to stay with my friends!"
Elisa Nicholas, whose son came away from the fair with the green hair, said the club has helped turn his life around. Tommy Sedgwick has cerebral palsy.
"When he first got to high school, he would basically eat lunch alone, with his aide. Now he has friends. When I took him to school this year, kids were walking up and saying, 'Hi, Tom!' ," said Nicholas, a pediatrician from Hermosa Beach.
"It brings tears to your eyes — I'm going to cry right now talking about it," she said. "When they're younger, it's much easier for kids to fit in. As he got older, it got harder. Middle school and high school is a tough time for kids socially. Now he has friends."
Able-bodied youngsters feel the same way. Fifteen-year-old Celia Hubbard was delighted when a disabled student in the club asked for her instant message address.
"We have each other's screen names, and we're talking by IM now," Hubbard said. "Some of these kids I've known since elementary school, and I wanted to spend more time with them. Others I've met for the first time. I've made a lot of friends in this group."
Senior Reed Eisenhauer, 17, said others on the Mira Costa campus take note when club members walk across campus and greet special ed youngsters by name and with high-fives.
"You're a little nervous at first, but once you meet them it's a lot of fun. You find out they're people just like you. When they become comfortable with you, it's like you're regular friends," he said.
Those who work closely with special education students at Mira Costa say the effect on those teenagers has been dramatic.
"They're learning how to act in different social settings. It's putting them in social situations they've never been in before," said Joe Lederer, a special needs teacher who has spent a decade at the campus.
Manhattan Beach Unified School District administrators are equally delighted. They wish Saks and his friends had been around seven years ago.
That's when the parents of one Mira Costa special education student filed a lawsuit alleging that the school had failed to provide proper language instruction and socialization interventions for their autistic son.
The district and the state agreed last year to pay $6.7 million to settle the suit.
"It's wonderful to see something initiated by students for students capture people's attention," said Beverly Rohrer, interim superintendent.
Last month Rohrer invited Saks to a regional school superintendents meeting to discuss his club. Several of the 11 school chiefs present expressed interest in introducing it to their campuses.
Saks is now working with schools in Redondo Beach and on the Palos Verdes Peninsula, she said.
But for now, Mira Costa's teenagers are the beneficiaries. The idea of friendship has come full circle.
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bob.pool@latimes.com
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