Removal of Posts - moderatating board

[momofrussell]

I noticed it was asked why a post was removed 3 times and as a moderator wanted to just post something on this delicate matter, real quick before I head to the hosp

First off... I am speaking as a moderator...gotta put that hat on once in a while... and I also wasn't the one who deleted the posts...

That said... we have always let everyone at Uno speak their minds and that's why everyone loves it here. But we have been faced recently (last 6 months or so?) with two sides of the coin...letting everyone speak their minds and when the line might have been crossed. In the past we haven't done much about the line crossing and truthfully? It's upset some members... but.. when we THINK about moderating the board a bit... it then upsets OTHER members.

So... I am sorry that posts were removed. I would think maybe it was felt some line was crossed and might have offended another member...so it was removed. Again, I didn't do this but I do need to stand behind the other mods AND the owner of this board to say we are TRYING to find some delicate balance..knowing full well.. we are going to piss those off when we DO moderate.. and piss those off when we DON'T moderate.

And to anyone else that this happens to in the future.. maybe we will learn to do it better... or a nicer way... but don't take it TOO personally... but we do have to think about alot of things.. and this has been weighing on our minds alot in the past few months.. and I think MMC would appreciate our trying to do what is best.. even if it sucks sometimes.

I am sorry if this won't be received well by some.. sorry, but it HAS to be done sometimes. It just does... we had to make some kind of decision that sometimes we DO have to wear that moderator hat.

And please don't make this into a debate or start bashing our decisions... this is what it is.... and we are trying to do it the best we can...

Thanks

Mod A

[trishasmom]

Just curious, when you do remove a post I'm assuming you tell the person why it was removed so that they know not to make that same mistake again? :-)

[Emilysmom]

Carol,
YES.......in the future, I will most definitely send a PM to the person whose comment gets deleted. I am the moderator who deleted the comment last night, and I have now PM'd the person, so they will know not to make the same mistake again. As moderators, we are extremely lenient........many times, we've been too lenient. If a comment is hurtful, I will do what I can to make sure it is not seen by those who might be most hurt by it. It's a very rare thing for us to delete a comment.
Susan

[trishasmom]

emilysmom said:

Carol,
YES.......in the future, I will most definitely send a PM to the person whose comment gets deleted. I am the moderator who deleted the comment last night, and I have now PM'd the person, so they will know not to make the same mistake again. As moderators, we are extremely lenient........many times, we've been too lenient. If a comment is hurtful, I will do what I can to make sure it is not seen by those who might be most hurt by it. It's a very rare thing for us to delete a comment.
Susan

You don't have to explain to me, I am a list owner and moderator to a few other lists so I know what you mean.

[Alice]

I guess, we are not allowed to talk about:

1. abortions
2. politics
3. bad things about DS

[momofrussell]

No.... I think my point is being missed..... I never said ANYTHING about certain subjects we couldn't discuss here anymore... NO moderator has that intention... we want everyone to discuss what we always have discussed... everything...

BUT... like all "sites".... there has to be some "respect" and "play nice" rules going on.. and well, we haven't HAD that here. We just think it's time!!!

You know.. we are all going to be guilty of sticking our foot in our mouths from time to time...it's happened to me personally.. and we are NOT trying to police the site.....but we DO need to just throw out there that we all need to TRY to not say things in a caustic manor that would offend our fellow Unomaser.

a.

[hannahsmomuk]

Well I understand totally being a mod on 2 other boards that being a mod is a hard job to do sometimes cos you really don't want to upset people and yes its important to have a be kind and pleasant to one another rule, so support you whole heartedly

You have permission to edit or delete or remove any post of mine if you think that I am not following those rules

Incidentally who are the moderators on here? I know it probably tells me somewhere but haven't got a clue where to look

[Debbie]

I know of two, A and Susan. I think we have two others but I am not sure who they are exactly. It has been a while.

You know, there are other boards that have a separate message forum's for those type of subjects.

[Cathy]

The moderators of each forum are listed on the home page of the Bulletin Board under each topic.

Hugs,

cathy

[Emilysmom]

Michelle Mc, Connie, Adrienne, and Susan (Emilysmom)