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Mar 13, 2007 10:11:34 GMT -5
Post by Jenifer on Mar 13, 2007 10:11:34 GMT -5
I don't know why this bugs me so much, but it does...
Joy has this new habit of saying, "Duh!" to people. For example, I was having trouble getting the lid on her cup, so she took over and did it herself. Then she said, "Duh, Mom!"
It really rubs me the wrong way, and I have told her it's not nice and she shouldn't say it. She even spent a few minutes in timeout Sunday because she kept doing it. I guess I could be happy that she is using it in context and understands what it means, but I really feel it's disrespectful and demeaning, and I wouldn't want others saying it to her. So duh is banned in our house.
Am I over-reacting???
Jenifer, mom to Joy Daisy
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Mar 13, 2007 10:14:35 GMT -5
Post by ALLISA on Mar 13, 2007 10:14:35 GMT -5
hhhmmmm.... On the positive.....nice context ! Any chance she's not saying Duh...but saying Done ? And even if she ISN'T saying Done....any chance of turning it into done......I recall flipping some of my kids words around and changing an unwanted one into a better one.......
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Mar 13, 2007 11:00:49 GMT -5
Post by Connie on Mar 13, 2007 11:00:49 GMT -5
Jennifer, I can so relate!!! Collin who is now 7 and I thought would never be verbal is coming up with words we NEVER EVER use in our house!!! Collin called his sister STUPID not to long ago. I was floored!!! He used it in the right context and everything. When I mentioned it to his speech therapist she said he need a few words to express himself and his feelings!!! I told her NOT and especially not that word!!! He has since left that word behind and went on to bigger and better words such as using CRAP in school and they believe his is now saying SH*@....My angel is a POTTY MOUTH!!! I am beginning to look at talking like walking. I'm not so sure its all what its cut out to be!!! With walking he went from being a crawling disaster to a walking disaster, then a runner, then a climber etc..... With talking he has went from signing, to one word statements, to multiple words sentences to cussing like a sailor. What's next....STOP don't answer that!!! Connie
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Mar 13, 2007 12:46:50 GMT -5
Post by MB on Mar 13, 2007 12:46:50 GMT -5
Oh Connie, you are too funny!
First of all, let me tell you all to shutup. (Sorry, couldn't resist!) LOL!
If you don't want kids in your house saying "duh" to you, then that is your choice. If you don't want your kids saying "brussel sprouts" to you, then that is your choice. Just because Down syndrome is present, it doesn't mean the kid is entitled to a verbal free for all. Your house. Your rules.
Why am I so hard? Because someday it's going to be somebody's worksite with somebody's rules that your child may or may not agree with. The important thing, in my opinion, is to teach compliance to the rules of the house. The child doesn't have to agree or understand, just comply. It is our duty to place our children in situations where there are reasonable rules to follow.
Can you see her saying "duh" to customers or supervisors on her job? Well, maybe once! LOL!
mb
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Mar 13, 2007 13:11:57 GMT -5
Post by hidyperson on Mar 13, 2007 13:11:57 GMT -5
"Why am I so hard?" Hard ? Nail her - unless you want to listen to that the rest of your life.
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Mar 13, 2007 14:15:32 GMT -5
Post by Connie on Mar 13, 2007 14:15:32 GMT -5
MB!!! You would get your mouth smacked in my house!!! We never ever tell someone to SHUT UP!!!...LOL Yes it is my choice and I don't have the "potty mouth" problem with him at home...it is the school's problem. He is smart enough to know who he can push around who he can't. He know's mom won't put up with this!!! Connie
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Mar 13, 2007 14:21:40 GMT -5
Post by MB on Mar 13, 2007 14:21:40 GMT -5
Shutup is the same as a four letter word at our house. I just couldn't resist!
mb
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Mar 13, 2007 14:33:07 GMT -5
Post by carolyn on Mar 13, 2007 14:33:07 GMT -5
It's funny because John has just started saying "stupid game" when his playstation game hits a hard spot- and I thought that was so normal for an 8 year old boy to say that when frustrated. So far he has kept it to that- oh wait, sometimes he calls his 15 and 13 year old sisters "baby!" because they whine and fuss about everything all the time. He calls 'em like he sees 'em.
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Mar 16, 2007 14:44:55 GMT -5
Post by momofrussell on Mar 16, 2007 14:44:55 GMT -5
Ok.. I just ran across this thread and had to LMBO!!!! Kevin and I always joke that if Russell could talk it would be some curse word at us if he could. And it's not like we curse around the kids....unless I am TRULY angry LOL... We do have certain word rules at my house too But we also don't make a big deal out of words in general too. We try our best to watch what we say and explain what words we don't like in our house... but we all know we are human too And Reece will probably get looked at from a teacher soon because she uses "pissy" and "PO'd" since she hears her mommy use it LOL ... and Connie, I had to giggle and I think we've talked about this before.. because my mom NEVER EVER curses at all, never has.. but she DID always say CRAP.. and CROTCH... LMAO... so we grew up with it ok to use those words.... my mom had a funny "fine line" which I guess we all do to a certain extent. We were NEVER EVER allowed to say S.H.I.T but we could say CRAP! LMAO A.
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Mar 16, 2007 14:58:01 GMT -5
Post by laurasmom on Mar 16, 2007 14:58:01 GMT -5
Years ago, when Laura was in first grade, her sped teacher and I were having one of our monthly "catch up" get togethers. We would just sit down for about 20 minutes, talk about the month, accomplishments, things to work on and so forth. Anyway, she was telling me about Laura's new "attitude", which included some talk we both considered disrespectful, and along with the talk, she also had the right (or wrong) attitude. Since there were no kids in the room, we could discuss it freely. Her teacher told me that on one side, she was soooo happy to see it, because it really is appropriate developmental behavior, but then on the flip side, she knows it has to be addressed, after all, if Laura didn't have DS, we would certainly address it, and there is no special treatment in our house. She told me that it took everything she had not to jump up and down and say "Yea Laura, you go girl"!, and to talk seriously to Laura about being disrespectful. We had long talks with Laura about words that we allow, and what we don't. The hardest part to address is the attitude part, however we did a ton of role playing, to the point that if Mike or I are sarcastic to each other, she calls us on it. So...........the next several years were good. Any rudeness was easily contained. Now.........let us move on to puberty...........oh my goodness..........the attitude is what has us here. To answer your question (finally ), yes, take care of the rudeness now, nip it in the bud, it will certainly make later years easier. Plus, you are teaching her not only how to act at home, at school, but in society in general. Your house, your expectations, your rules. Keep it up Sharon
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