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Crying
May 2, 2007 14:20:41 GMT -5
Post by Jenifer on May 2, 2007 14:20:41 GMT -5
I am wondering if your kids (w/ or w/o DS) who are in the 4-7 range cry very often. Joy cries daily about something. Sometimes it's frustration (a.k.a. others not doing exactly what she wants), sometimes it's because she's tired, sometimes it's because she gets into trouble. But nary a day passes without an outburst of some type. They are always short lived but loud. I don't really remember if my other two did this at age 5. It was so long ago... I usually don't pay a lot of attention to her unless she is truly injured or wronged. I try to divert her attention to another activity, which usually works. Maybe she's just catching up on her crying now because she never cried as a baby (and I thought it was because I was such an outstanding mother! ). Just wondered if others of you experience crying/tantrums on a daily basis, or if this is my own personal nightmare. Jenifer, mom to Joy Daisy
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Crying
May 2, 2007 15:22:48 GMT -5
Post by hannahph on May 2, 2007 15:22:48 GMT -5
Hannah is eight and I have to say, not much crying unless she is really upset about something. My thought is she is probably frustrated with the communication issues and this is her way of letting you know. OR maybe she has figured out she gets a reaction(even a negative one) and is playing up in it.Not many ideas on how to stop it though. Maybe some one else has some better ideas!
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Crying
May 2, 2007 16:02:43 GMT -5
Post by theresaolohan on May 2, 2007 16:02:43 GMT -5
I think Daniel enjoys crying at times he loves to look at him self, he will even pretend to cry and run to look in mirror. I know when the cry is a serious one that becomes a yell. I too think he is catching up on his crying but they are very short out bursts and i usually divert his attention also.
from Theresa
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Crying
May 2, 2007 20:16:41 GMT -5
Post by Valerie on May 2, 2007 20:16:41 GMT -5
Nicholas just turned 4 last month, and I'd have to actually say he's at the opposite end of the spectrum. He rarely cries. Even if he gets hurt, he might start to do a little whimper, then just goes off to do something else. I always thought that was a little weird!
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Crying
May 2, 2007 21:21:22 GMT -5
Post by Chris too on May 2, 2007 21:21:22 GMT -5
Some kids cry more than others. I have 2 out of 6 that have had times in their lives where crying was at least a daily thing. I had to teach the one self-calming techniques; and with the other, I had to be firm about not blubbering ('cause it was just manipulation and inappropriate reaction to minor issues). As the mom, you have to guage it for yourself. Is the child having trouble dealing with overwhelming emotion, or is she manipulating, or is she just reacting in the most convenient (for her) way she can think of, or something else? Figure out if there is a pattern before you decide how to proceed. Dr. Dobson calls this "getting behind their eyes."
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Crying
May 2, 2007 21:55:46 GMT -5
Post by Chester on May 2, 2007 21:55:46 GMT -5
JT just turned 5 and sounds a lot like Nicholas. If he is crying that means it is something serious.
Best of Luck! Dawn
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Crying
May 5, 2007 15:47:14 GMT -5
Post by rickismom on May 5, 2007 15:47:14 GMT -5
I think that the first thing you have to do, is make a general check-up by the doctor. Then, and in addittion, I think that Hannah is on the ball---- it could VERY easily be a way to try and get attention (even negative).
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Crying
May 7, 2007 9:43:03 GMT -5
Post by zorasmom on May 7, 2007 9:43:03 GMT -5
Hi Jennifer. My daughter, Zora, is five years old also and sounds a lot like Joy. Zora also cries everyday, mostly out of frustration, and is easily calmed when we figure out what she wants. I think her biggest problem is that there is a huge gap between what she understands and what she is able to articulate verbally. Zora knows hundreds of signs, but at this stage in her development she desperately wants to TALK. So these days when she is not able to make herself understood verbally, she breaks into tears. She usually calms down quickly when someone, mostly me, asks her to show me what she wants. Then she will usually sign or go and point.
Zora also has a very hot temper and will cry when she does not get her way, especially when she wants to watch a video and is told no. In these cases I try to offer her an alternative - a game rather than TV or a healthy snack rather than sweets, this approach usually works but if not she gets a time out - which for now works to calm her down.
It's really tough sometimes and I'm hoping that this is just a phase that will pass soon.
Good luck!! Teresa
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Crying
May 7, 2007 11:18:27 GMT -5
Post by Renee' on May 7, 2007 11:18:27 GMT -5
Lauren is 8 and she is very emotional. It is making me nuts right now. My husband pointed out to me that she will be hitting the hormone stage soon. I notice Lauren cries at least once a day.
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Crying
May 8, 2007 8:12:59 GMT -5
Post by momofrussell on May 8, 2007 8:12:59 GMT -5
yep.. .I'd say from the responses it's probably a mix of personality and probably frusteration/communication. I know for a while a couple years ago is when Russell was getting EXTREMELY frusterated due to lack of communication and although he didn't cry, it took it out in other ways. And sometimes he did cry but not daily. And then thinking of my youngest, Reece, she is my one that would cry daily over something... cry or whine... why not! LOL Have you maybe talked to a therapist or someone that can help observe her and give some suggestions? Is she crying for the same things daily? i.e. she is trying to ask for something and getting frusterated? Maybe do some data taking either on paper or notes in your head and see if it's random or due to specific events and then maybe if it's communication related, find ways like pics, ect.. to get her to communicate her needs. And then if she is doing that and is trying to get a rise out of mommy Keep consistant and pray the phase ends soon! LOL We are in a spitting of juice and milk phase... it's OH so fun these phases right?! LOL A.
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May 8, 2007 19:57:11 GMT -5
Post by Monique on May 8, 2007 19:57:11 GMT -5
Well my son with DS never cries unless it is something serious but his "typical" 5 year old sister cries at least once a day! She is very emotional right now.... i hope its a phase cuz its making me nuts
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Crying
May 8, 2007 21:07:56 GMT -5
Post by CC on May 8, 2007 21:07:56 GMT -5
Neither of my kids were criers. Chris in his 14 years hardly ever cried and if he did you knew it was something not good Kodi is our "Drama Queen" LOL but not a crier either and never was. For us the lack of speech caused more behavior problems CC
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Crying
May 8, 2007 21:15:09 GMT -5
Post by Jenifer on May 8, 2007 21:15:09 GMT -5
Thanks for all your input on this topic. Joy's speech is very good so she is pretty capable of communicating her needs and frustrations. But if she gets really upset, she just cries because I think she doesn't really know how not to cry. It's just what she's always done, and that's how she copes with disappointment or frustration or anger. I have tried many times (especially when she is given a time out) to get her to just SPEAK about what is upsetting her, but she truly prefers to whine or cry. She must find it more effective. I try not to respond to it, but the whining just freakin' grates on my nerves and she does get a response out of me...in the form of me hollering at her to quit whining and use her words. But I guess she even sees an angry response as the attention she wants. I can usually get her to calm down by making her laugh or just sitting and talking with her, but I just would really like to see her mature to the point that she can see the situation for what it is, see that her pain will soon pass, and just deal with it. Maybe that's down the road. The good news is that 95% of the time she's pleasant and funny and sweet. It's mostly when she's tired or feels she's not getting attention that the evil comes out. And it passes quickly. So I can deal with it. At least she's sleeping better these days (thanks to the clonidine), so I am now sleeping through the night again. No 36-year-old woman should ever have to say she's not sleeping through the night. Cheers! Jenifer, mom to Joy Daisy
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