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Post by Ericsmomma on Jun 18, 2007 22:13:21 GMT -5
Allisa, So sorry you had to experience all this drama.....you (nor your kids) deserve to be treated that way. Thankfully, he doesn't appear to be around too much, so that is a blessing. Keep your chin up, and don't let him get under your skin!
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Post by steffipoo on Jun 19, 2007 1:22:00 GMT -5
OMG Allisa.....I had NO IDEA the huge extent he was such an a#$ for so long to you. You broke my heart when I read what he said to you. Wanted to reach right through the screen and ring his slimy neck.Thank GOD he is NO longer in your life.... thats all I was thinking while I read. Cause u know who and what u are and being AWAY from that type of enviroment long enough it becomes ohhhhhhhhh so clear....I just can't picture u with anyone like him and never want to . 10 hours...ohhhhhhhh now.....do u ever wanna laugh right in his face? Now can't you qualify for respite as you have no other form of it? I would surely be recording the times hes with them just to share privately with your case worker and tell them his behavior towards you and your kids and just apply for respite. I really must say when I talk to our whatever we have (counselor,caseworker whatever the name)had with Olivia whenever I have had any kinda problem I just told em like I'm telling you and its amazing what we have out there (services that aren't told to those who don't offer up info of any kind to their workers)and all the cool people and neat things there are out there. Do you all have what we have here a regional center and a case worker? If so and I'm sure its something similar I betcha that you can get more hrs due to your circumstances.Although I haven't used ours(respite) we can whenever I want start it up for 25 hours a month whereby most who will get it get about 10 hrs but due to jeffs health problems they gave us more. I figure I will need it when he gets his transplant and perhaps before but haven't felt we could really use it at this time.It'll start up as soon as I provide them with a respite worker and their application form etc .During these last 5 years since Jeffs health has deteriorated our case worker had told us about them upping the hours for respite when you have a weird or tough circumstance.You must be exhausted cause I know I am and I have Jeff here(lately hes not doing much but feeling cruddy and trying to keep out of the hospital and BTW hes the greatest human being and also the greatest most unorganized, messy(clothes on the floor,cups all over the place,) in the universe besides Olivia who is now trying to emulate her father.) LOL so my sweet hubby got it from me today about it and dragged his butt around here seeing how long it takes me to pick up after him and NOW Miss O.and it ain't happenin anymore. They r giving me double the work and I told em the maid has quit.lol....I rather felt like bangin my head up against the wall a few times...can relate Erin. Poor Erin frustrated as all get out. I do really feel soooo strongly that Olivia has the keenest sense about people.She really really senses MY feelings even when I try so dang hard to hide em. I can fool Kyle but Olivia NEVER....She feeds on the emotion of a room. Its really really weird but she has this gut instinct.... HUGS and more HUGS Steff
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Post by ctorres on Jun 19, 2007 1:32:29 GMT -5
Hello Allissa God does not give us anything that we cannot handle. You are strong because you are a fighter that will never give up. People like your ex try to cover their own inferiorities through anger and criticisms. So the next time he starts talking his hatred remarks laugh and think he is so unsure of himself and his abilities that he is trying to cover them up by criticizing mine - it is his lack of self confidence and guilt that makes him the jack $%! that he is - Deep down inside he is a weenie and he knows it ! Carmen
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Post by ALLISA on Jun 20, 2007 7:23:15 GMT -5
Deep down inside he is a weenie and he knows it ! Carmen Thanks Carmen, I neede that laugh !! After this weekend I have been get angrier ( which is a good thing because it spurs me to aaction) I called my attorney and told her I need to take him back to court. He is in contempt of court & has money he owes me and I need to revisit our child support and we are in need of an increase. Also, I want it noted about his verbal and mental abuse so that if it escalates to threats or anything else, I can act quickly. Thanks all for listening to me. Your support means so very much !!
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Post by momofrussell on Jun 20, 2007 8:01:16 GMT -5
Allisa.. I am sorry I had read your post when you posted it and flaked on responding! I can only echo what everyone else has said... and I am sad that ANYONE would have to go through this... it's just not right!!! I hope you can get some action taken through the courts! Vent and scream and post away to us. That's what we are here for.. and I know you know that Next time your ex starts up... send him to me.. I'll set him straight LOL A.
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