Post by TriciaF on Sept 7, 2007 23:59:21 GMT -5
Hi friends,
I've been MIA so long....I can't really remember when it started. But the last couple of years have thrown me some curve balls and I would have never believed anything could break my daily uno addiction...but I was wrong. I have flown in and out from time to time...and its always been so comforting to see posts and people I recognize and know that when I was able, you all and unomas would still be here.
My parents have been very ill and homebound for several years and my sister and I and other family members have been caring for them in their home. Dad had a year and a half of surgery after surgery, aneurysim, 2 back surgeries, kidney stone, trach and feeding tube etc...and finally was diagnosed with lung cancer that spread to the brain. He passed away at home on June 30 at the age of 84. He was some kind of fighter. This was my boys only grandfather and they were extremely close to him. Patrick was the light of his life and no matter how horrible he felt, and he had some horrible days, Patrick could always make him smile. He loved to hear anything Patrick said. When Patrick was born, Daddy was so worried that he would not speak, that he would call Patrick on the phone to "talk" just about everyday....although we live in the same town. The day before he died, I told him what Patrick said on the way over in the car. Connor and I were talking or cutting up and Patrick said; " Mom, Connor, be quiet, you're annoying me". Daddy loved it. He would tell Patrick that he was his best buddy, that he loved him. He bragged about all Patrick's accomplishments to everyone.
I read the other post about a funeral of a grandparent...Patrick did well at Daddy's funeral...he didn't want to get close to the body in the open casket...and we have buried pets, so he knew the concept. However, at the cemetary after the funeral, we left while the casket was still on top of the ground. When we returned the next day, it was buried with the flowers lying on top and Patrick ran over and said "Granddaddy disappeared, he's not here"! We laughed and told him he's right...had the whole body/soul discussion. He will tell me, especially at night before bed, "I miss Granddaddy". Sometimes its "I need him". I'm so thankful my boys got to know my Dad and I hope that Patrick is old enough to hang on to some memory of him. I was so proud of Connor, he asked to play his Granddaddy's favorite hymn, Amazing Grace, on his violin at the graveside ceremony. He had remembered me saying years ago how beautiful it was on violin and how when Dad passed away I would like to find someone to play it. I never knew he was paying attention that closely. The violin wasn't even in his life back then.
Mom's health is fragile, she went into kidney failure twice last year and now has dialysis 3 times per week. Also, diabetic and heart and some confusion issues. She wants to stay in her home, so she now has the lifeline button and my nephew is staying with her some. A day at a time!
My husband left last September for greener pastures and I can hardly believe its almost been a year. Things have been too hectic to deal with divorce issues...so thats all still seeming like a huge mountain to climb. The boys seem ok...I have tried not to make any changes in their lives as there is enough to deal with. They see their Dad every other weekend and on Tuesdays and are both back in the same school as last year. I think I reached my stress limit and just had to let everything pretty much go and realize that was just life at present. I have found a great Divorce Care class/group at church that has been a real blessing.
School started back here three weeks ago and we got off to a bumpy start with Patrick and his placement. Last year was so crazy...I let some things slide that were to have been dealt with in the previous IEP. But, I was determined to get it back in line this year and the spring IEP was not pretty. A week ago, I was so frustrated, angry, etc.... I was just in tears at home over the aggravation of it all. But, we had a meeting on Tuesday, they actually listened to my suggestion for his schedule and behaviours and agreed to changes. He started the new schedule on Wed and the last three days....all the communication and behavior reports have been great! Can we all say AMEN! And we now have a new IEP scheduled for next Thursday to discuss other issues/problems with that spring IEP. So, as tiring as I know that will be....I am relieved that we seem to be making progress and finally working together.
Patrick is 7 (birthday late April), but we held him back so he is designated as kindergarten this year. He is now going to the regular kindergarten from 8am through lunch (at 10:30 if you can believe it) and then going to the special ed class from 11 til 2:30. In the morning he participates in homeroom, recess, globals (pe, spanish, library, computer, art, rotates each day) group language arts and lunch. Then in sp ed, gets individual math and language/reading on computer. We were having awful transition problems (always his biggest issue). Not coming in off the playground, locking himself in a bathroom stall, etc. etc. etc. But things are looking up! They were having him go to sp ed homeroom, then reg home room, recess, sometimes back to sp ed, globals, back to sp ed, then back to reg kindy in the lunchroom. Wayyyyy to much back and forth for a kid with transition issues. So, for now the frustration is at bay and I am hoping for the best.
Thanks for being here....I have missed you all terribly. ~Tricia
Boy....if I had the money....I would say its time for another unomas Moms trip to Vegas!!!!
I've been MIA so long....I can't really remember when it started. But the last couple of years have thrown me some curve balls and I would have never believed anything could break my daily uno addiction...but I was wrong. I have flown in and out from time to time...and its always been so comforting to see posts and people I recognize and know that when I was able, you all and unomas would still be here.
My parents have been very ill and homebound for several years and my sister and I and other family members have been caring for them in their home. Dad had a year and a half of surgery after surgery, aneurysim, 2 back surgeries, kidney stone, trach and feeding tube etc...and finally was diagnosed with lung cancer that spread to the brain. He passed away at home on June 30 at the age of 84. He was some kind of fighter. This was my boys only grandfather and they were extremely close to him. Patrick was the light of his life and no matter how horrible he felt, and he had some horrible days, Patrick could always make him smile. He loved to hear anything Patrick said. When Patrick was born, Daddy was so worried that he would not speak, that he would call Patrick on the phone to "talk" just about everyday....although we live in the same town. The day before he died, I told him what Patrick said on the way over in the car. Connor and I were talking or cutting up and Patrick said; " Mom, Connor, be quiet, you're annoying me". Daddy loved it. He would tell Patrick that he was his best buddy, that he loved him. He bragged about all Patrick's accomplishments to everyone.
I read the other post about a funeral of a grandparent...Patrick did well at Daddy's funeral...he didn't want to get close to the body in the open casket...and we have buried pets, so he knew the concept. However, at the cemetary after the funeral, we left while the casket was still on top of the ground. When we returned the next day, it was buried with the flowers lying on top and Patrick ran over and said "Granddaddy disappeared, he's not here"! We laughed and told him he's right...had the whole body/soul discussion. He will tell me, especially at night before bed, "I miss Granddaddy". Sometimes its "I need him". I'm so thankful my boys got to know my Dad and I hope that Patrick is old enough to hang on to some memory of him. I was so proud of Connor, he asked to play his Granddaddy's favorite hymn, Amazing Grace, on his violin at the graveside ceremony. He had remembered me saying years ago how beautiful it was on violin and how when Dad passed away I would like to find someone to play it. I never knew he was paying attention that closely. The violin wasn't even in his life back then.
Mom's health is fragile, she went into kidney failure twice last year and now has dialysis 3 times per week. Also, diabetic and heart and some confusion issues. She wants to stay in her home, so she now has the lifeline button and my nephew is staying with her some. A day at a time!
My husband left last September for greener pastures and I can hardly believe its almost been a year. Things have been too hectic to deal with divorce issues...so thats all still seeming like a huge mountain to climb. The boys seem ok...I have tried not to make any changes in their lives as there is enough to deal with. They see their Dad every other weekend and on Tuesdays and are both back in the same school as last year. I think I reached my stress limit and just had to let everything pretty much go and realize that was just life at present. I have found a great Divorce Care class/group at church that has been a real blessing.
School started back here three weeks ago and we got off to a bumpy start with Patrick and his placement. Last year was so crazy...I let some things slide that were to have been dealt with in the previous IEP. But, I was determined to get it back in line this year and the spring IEP was not pretty. A week ago, I was so frustrated, angry, etc.... I was just in tears at home over the aggravation of it all. But, we had a meeting on Tuesday, they actually listened to my suggestion for his schedule and behaviours and agreed to changes. He started the new schedule on Wed and the last three days....all the communication and behavior reports have been great! Can we all say AMEN! And we now have a new IEP scheduled for next Thursday to discuss other issues/problems with that spring IEP. So, as tiring as I know that will be....I am relieved that we seem to be making progress and finally working together.
Patrick is 7 (birthday late April), but we held him back so he is designated as kindergarten this year. He is now going to the regular kindergarten from 8am through lunch (at 10:30 if you can believe it) and then going to the special ed class from 11 til 2:30. In the morning he participates in homeroom, recess, globals (pe, spanish, library, computer, art, rotates each day) group language arts and lunch. Then in sp ed, gets individual math and language/reading on computer. We were having awful transition problems (always his biggest issue). Not coming in off the playground, locking himself in a bathroom stall, etc. etc. etc. But things are looking up! They were having him go to sp ed homeroom, then reg home room, recess, sometimes back to sp ed, globals, back to sp ed, then back to reg kindy in the lunchroom. Wayyyyy to much back and forth for a kid with transition issues. So, for now the frustration is at bay and I am hoping for the best.
Thanks for being here....I have missed you all terribly. ~Tricia
Boy....if I had the money....I would say its time for another unomas Moms trip to Vegas!!!!
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, not coming in from recess, basically running the school...literally and figuratively. It has now been a year since he was diagnosed with ADHD to my dismay because I really wanted it to be the teachers problem 
He was placed on Ritalin and it has made the biggest change for him in school.
&&Mommy to Griffin (96), Gray (97) Collin (00) enhanced and Lauren (02) the little princess.