Post by Jessie on Nov 15, 2007 13:19:40 GMT -5
Hi everyone. First, I wanted to say that I haven't really been posting much here because I'm having a really difficult time with Jason. I know, this is the first place I'm supposed to reach out to, right?!! Honestly, I've been in this, "I'm tired of Down syndrome being the excuse for everything" frame of mind lately and just needed a rest from talking Ds all the time. Sorry at the negativity, but I'm just being honest. But, I know that I'm at a point that we've got to change some things around here and at school and I'm just not sure what we can try next.
He's 14 and although the overall number of behavioral issues/incidents have decreased, I think the intensity of the issues have increased. He's soooooo stinking stubborn, refuses to TRY to verbalize and is too big and strong to physically redirect anymore.
We discussed this issue with his teacher at conferences a couple of weeks ago and we are all (myself, Brian and the teacher) on the same page as far as understanding his frustration comes from not communicating effectively. However, we are at a complete loss as to, first of all, MAKE him TRY to communicate without it being an angry/physical outburst and second, teach him how to appopriately act when he is angry. We all get it that he's got every right to get angry sometimes, but it's his output that's scary.
Yesterday, for example, there was this rubber alligator at school. It was right at the end of the day and they were trying to clean up the room, but there was no way he was giving up the alligator. Turned into an ugly thing (it's not their fault, I know exactly how these things escalate quickly with him). The teacher said she got to a point where she was afraid that he was going to hurt either her or one of the aides and so they dropped the issue. Okay, I know, lot's can be said about that decision. But, again, I know how it is when he gets mad and I'm not about to let him hit or push me, so I tend to do the same thing and can't blame them for backing off. However, he's learning he can do that and get what he wants.
Turns out, this stupid little alligator was his that has been missing for a long time. So, that explains WHY he got so angry that he was going to have to give it up again. However, the problem is, 1.) he didn't even TRY to communicate in any way that it was his and 2.) his reaction to them trying to get him to put it away was 100% unacceptable.
So . . .where does that leave us? Right now, the teacher is trying to get a meeting together for us as well as the ST and hopefully the behaviorial specialist to get together to figure out how we all need to deal with these situations. Me and Brian are at a loss what to do. His teacher is at a loss.
We've been working on the same type of speech and communication techniques for a couple of years now, so I told his teacher it's time to try something new as he is not progressing with the current program.
I shudder at the thought of him being a 20 year old man with Down syndrome that physically lashes out a people when he's angry. Right now is the time we have to fix this before he's 15, 17, 20 years old and is reacting to situations this same way.
Any thoughts or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks for listening.
Jessie
He's 14 and although the overall number of behavioral issues/incidents have decreased, I think the intensity of the issues have increased. He's soooooo stinking stubborn, refuses to TRY to verbalize and is too big and strong to physically redirect anymore.
We discussed this issue with his teacher at conferences a couple of weeks ago and we are all (myself, Brian and the teacher) on the same page as far as understanding his frustration comes from not communicating effectively. However, we are at a complete loss as to, first of all, MAKE him TRY to communicate without it being an angry/physical outburst and second, teach him how to appopriately act when he is angry. We all get it that he's got every right to get angry sometimes, but it's his output that's scary.
Yesterday, for example, there was this rubber alligator at school. It was right at the end of the day and they were trying to clean up the room, but there was no way he was giving up the alligator. Turned into an ugly thing (it's not their fault, I know exactly how these things escalate quickly with him). The teacher said she got to a point where she was afraid that he was going to hurt either her or one of the aides and so they dropped the issue. Okay, I know, lot's can be said about that decision. But, again, I know how it is when he gets mad and I'm not about to let him hit or push me, so I tend to do the same thing and can't blame them for backing off. However, he's learning he can do that and get what he wants.
Turns out, this stupid little alligator was his that has been missing for a long time. So, that explains WHY he got so angry that he was going to have to give it up again. However, the problem is, 1.) he didn't even TRY to communicate in any way that it was his and 2.) his reaction to them trying to get him to put it away was 100% unacceptable.
So . . .where does that leave us? Right now, the teacher is trying to get a meeting together for us as well as the ST and hopefully the behaviorial specialist to get together to figure out how we all need to deal with these situations. Me and Brian are at a loss what to do. His teacher is at a loss.
We've been working on the same type of speech and communication techniques for a couple of years now, so I told his teacher it's time to try something new as he is not progressing with the current program.
I shudder at the thought of him being a 20 year old man with Down syndrome that physically lashes out a people when he's angry. Right now is the time we have to fix this before he's 15, 17, 20 years old and is reacting to situations this same way.
Any thoughts or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks for listening.
Jessie