Retarded Isn't Stupid, Mom!

[rickismom]

"Retarded Isn't Stupid, Mom" by Sandra Kaufman

published by BROOKES ( www.brookespublishing.com )
(Brookes has a lot of good stuff...)

This book is the story of a mother and her retarded (not DS) daughter. (Sorry for the R-word-- they use it in the title.....) The book at first was a bit scarey--the mom had a lot of behavior problems with her daughter, and then when 22 Nicole (her daughter) moved out on her own. Most of the book is about this young lady's striving for independence, financial security, and a social community. (I do not agree with all the things the daughter does. such as living with boyfriends before marriage, but that is due to my own value system. I just had to add this.)
The book is a lot about the mother's fears vrs. her daughter's insistance on what she wants. In the end, the family does help the daughter quite a bit. But what is amazing is how independent, and "knows what she wants" this daughter (who doesn't know how to read) is. The book also touches on the obstacles society makes for the handicapped who do want to work.
This book is a bit scarey, but in the end fairly reassuring as well.

[Debbie]

Hi ricki's mom,

I probably would have read a book like that when I was in my twenties. In fact, I did read a book sort of like that.

Thank you for the book review. I may look for it.

I do know and understand your values. I could never live with my boy-friend. It just doesn't feel right to me. I could never feel right if I continued my membership to my church. That is more important to me.

[rickismom]

Dear Debbie/ (Kay),
At first I didn't realize that it was you. I am sure that you would find the book interesting. The spunk of this daughter is really something.

[Debbie]

Ricki's Mom,

Yes, I had to re-register my membership on here when they changed. I think most on here don't know it is me. It is frustrating! I guess that is why no one responds much when I add my words of experiences. I guess I will just end my name with Debbie at the bottom without the name kay.



Debbbie

[rickismom]

Debbie, I think that slowly people will re-catch on. Before, I think you had something written about DS at the side, rather than just at the bottom.....

This book was a real eye opener for me. I knew before that when my daughter is 20 she may not listen to me (as if any of my 20 year olds did...), but now I really FEEL it. ;D