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Post by Jodi on Mar 12, 2008 21:22:04 GMT -5
Just curious, I know a lot of our kids do this to protest...
So, if you kid has stopped, or rarely does it anymore, at what age did this happen? (hope you all say 10 ;D because Ryan will be 10 in June LOL!!!)
Jodi
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Post by Renee' on Mar 12, 2008 21:22:51 GMT -5
I have a 9 year old who has mastered that skill. I hope and pray it stops
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Post by Googsmom aka Jennifer on Mar 12, 2008 21:29:02 GMT -5
You mean I have this many more years to deal w/ this.... uggg
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Post by Jessie on Mar 12, 2008 23:27:52 GMT -5
Trying to remember the last official flop and drop . . . geez, I don't know! He was maybe 11 or 12.
Yes, that beautiful phase can last for quite some time, but all of your kids will get past it eventually!!
Jessie
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Post by victoriasdad on Mar 13, 2008 1:22:33 GMT -5
ours is squat head in lap and yelling GO AWAY, GO AWAY, then if you pick her up she stomps her feat in a tantrum.......... she is seven............  |
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Post by Ericsmomma on Mar 13, 2008 5:36:26 GMT -5
ah, just happened yesterday...went to pick him up at school and he wouldn't walk down the hall. It took 2 of us to get him up! Hopefully, this "phase" will end soon.
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Post by naomid on Mar 13, 2008 8:04:39 GMT -5
5 more years of this!!!! aaarrghh
We had it last weekend coming home from the shop. Callum's is still small enough that I can grab the waist band of his trousers with one hand, hold his hand with my other hand and get him up and moving reasonably easily.
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Post by damarasmom on Mar 13, 2008 8:32:59 GMT -5
Yeah....This is a very common thing in our house. She too has mastered the stop, drop and flop!!
But I no longer pick her up, getting too heavy and we are trying to teach her to make "better choices"...sometimes this will be a battle of the wills for what seems like forever, but I ultimately win and we praise her for making a better choice...but, deep down inside, I just want to pick her up and carry her to get out of there as soon as I can...but, she is teaching me patience!
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Post by Chris too on Mar 13, 2008 8:54:19 GMT -5
In my experience, fits are not "grown out" of, they have to be trained out. The consequences of fit throwing must be so odious that it won't even be a consideration for the child. The trick to this is to make sure, during a calm time, that the child understands precisely what is meant by "throwing fits" and that it is so unacceptable that the consequence will be applied every time that a fit is thrown. So you can see that this must come into play when choosing a consequence. Get the child to repeat back - verbal or non-verbal agreement will do so long as you know that the child understands that "fits have this particular consequence." Then stick with it. If you get more than 2 fits with the consequence, you need to up the ante - worse consequence next time. So go through the whole thing again with the child, making sure that the child understands the new consequence & that it will help the child remember that fits are never okay.
I don't know if advice was really wanted here, but I hate to see any parent being held hostage in this way.
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Post by jelanismom on Mar 13, 2008 9:04:14 GMT -5
yep, pretty much a ditto of Damara but I do have to carry Jelani alot more when he refuses to get up....otherwise we'd really be getting nowhere we needed to be. I think this is why my back always hurts  I esp don't like when he's dressed nice and gets a butt stain from the floor, ground, parking structure, etc... the stop flop and drop has had me changing his clothes many a time! He has been using this to get his point across that he's "not going" and that's final...so when I sense it's about to happen again I quickly point out anything I see at a distance and talk to him saying look wow!... there's mommy's car! (which has been renamed Jelani's car, lol), or heh, let's go get that icecream...let's hurry, good walking, big boy, or I clap my hands like a crazy woman and say woohoo you're a good walker lets run faster... and 50% of the time that actually works. Oh and I do notice one tactic that tends to work (till he catches on) is I give him whatever he wants to hold in his hand when we're heading out from wherever we are...kinda like a deterent from plopping down if he's using his hands for something...but sometimes he just tosses the thing and sits down...but not as often. I think I've slowly become a master of distraction!!! It really should be "stop flop drop and plop" ;D |
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Post by Renee' on Mar 13, 2008 10:58:02 GMT -5
Lauren isn't really throwing a fit. She just sits down. I can't pick her up because she is so heavy. We do the making the right choice too and have lots of talks with her. It is very frustrating.
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Post by Jodi on Mar 13, 2008 12:38:22 GMT -5
I'm kinda in the same boat as you Renee. It isn't like he is out of control. I will tell him xyz and he just drops. There's no telling when or where it is going to happen. It is not like there are specific instances I can anticipate. It cycles too. Sometimes there are weeks where he hardly will do it at all, then some days when it happens a lot.
Example - dinner is usually a positive thing - you say "time for dinner" he comes running. Then out of the blue "time for dinner" DROP and FLOP. Of course I say - "fine - sit there, I'm going to eat..." Eventually he shows up.
Just wondering if some kids grow out of this phase.
Thanks for your responses!
Jodi
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Post by Renee' on Mar 13, 2008 13:38:52 GMT -5
Yep, they must be kin to each other. It comes in cycles.
Like this "Lauren, we have to go now" and she is standing. She will say "I don't want to go" and then drops to the floor in the sitting position. I usually say something like you Jodi.."Ok then, I am going and you can stay there" she will get up eventually.
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