Post by jelanismom on Apr 4, 2008 12:32:09 GMT -5
THIS IS LONG>>>>and drawn out and not organized ....sorry.
I have called for an IEP because of Jelani's troubling behaviors that he's now been coming home with....he's just started this thing where he hits himself in the head and pulls his hair when he's frustrated (which I saw a kid on his bus do/same kid is in his class) Jelani has always been this pretty nice guy, (I know I'm his mom, we moms say this often ) but I seriously KNOW it's because of his self contained class...all 8 other kiddos are (cutie pies, but 4 have behavioral issues) 4 have Ds and are calm and sweet and I could just take them home...the other 4 are somewhat disruptive and even scream really loud at random times which is pretty startling. God bless all of them, but Jelani has been mimicking these kiddos, and even started clearing tables of ALL that's on top and hitting me and screaming! I mean, at this age (5/6) it's common in typical kids to act this way, I really understand that for a fact, BUT....here's the big but ....Jelani has never acted this way, and it all came about within the past 3 mos. that he's been in this class. I had 2 other options I visited and one was severly disabled...the other option was too advanced I felt, but now I know I was wrong. Self contained is where he's at now and I'm looking to mainstream him by Fall. He needs out of this class by all means even though he's made progress in his delayed speech (few xtra words) and is sitting longer paying more attention.....other than that, nothing sticks out more than his new troubling behaviors he's picked -up. I called his teacher and spoke to her, I even spoke about it in person at Jelani's progress report meeting, and I spoke to his classroom aid (there's 3 aids/1 teacher in class...but all therapies are within his class (no pull outs) and they get to socialize with general ed. Kindy only 30 minutes a week for some silly art class.)
Sorry for rambling...it's just been stressful for me because after I received a call from his special ed coord. for our district yesterday, she agreed that this is important, needs to schedule IEP (for end of this month) and she said I can't visit other school sites unless it's agreed upon and recommended by IEP team (I understand that). And that she "hopes" I'm not considering taking Jelani out of this class. (well, yeah I am)...I said thankyou and see you at the IEP!
I need to get all my ducks in a row (hate that term, LOL) but, come Fall I want Jelani in either a typical Kindy with an Aid or mainstreamed with at least 50% kiddos spec./50% typ. He's out of district right now, and the coordinator said she'll invite the school psychologist from within OUR district to the IEP. I will have RC coord. with me. I hate this whole thing, it took 2 months to place him in his current class, and he didn't start school till Nov...07 missing 2 months...(we we're moving too at the time). But I really shouldn't have gone with the school's recommendation to this out of district "self contained" class...but at the time, it seemed appropriate because of his global delays (he was born 3 mos. early weighing 1 lb 6 oz!) and add that with delays already present in Ds children, and this is why I chose a class with more one-on one. Now I know I was wrong.
Peer modeling is actually more important at this time to me...I can help him with academics...but I can't provide the benefits of being with typically developing kids his age. He has no siblings and his only time with kids his age is at school. I want him to repeat Kindy in the Fall, but gen. ed Kindy with an aid. Imagine me getting this? I have so much work to do. Good thing Jelani is 5 and will still be 5 in September....so no biggie....not too much time lost holding him back a year. Any advice is so appreciated.
OMG sooooory for rammmmmbling!
I guess it's my way of sorting this all out!!!!
Thanks for reading...I hope your eyes aren't hurting!
dawn
I have called for an IEP because of Jelani's troubling behaviors that he's now been coming home with....he's just started this thing where he hits himself in the head and pulls his hair when he's frustrated (which I saw a kid on his bus do/same kid is in his class) Jelani has always been this pretty nice guy, (I know I'm his mom, we moms say this often ) but I seriously KNOW it's because of his self contained class...all 8 other kiddos are (cutie pies, but 4 have behavioral issues) 4 have Ds and are calm and sweet and I could just take them home...the other 4 are somewhat disruptive and even scream really loud at random times which is pretty startling. God bless all of them, but Jelani has been mimicking these kiddos, and even started clearing tables of ALL that's on top and hitting me and screaming! I mean, at this age (5/6) it's common in typical kids to act this way, I really understand that for a fact, BUT....here's the big but ....Jelani has never acted this way, and it all came about within the past 3 mos. that he's been in this class. I had 2 other options I visited and one was severly disabled...the other option was too advanced I felt, but now I know I was wrong. Self contained is where he's at now and I'm looking to mainstream him by Fall. He needs out of this class by all means even though he's made progress in his delayed speech (few xtra words) and is sitting longer paying more attention.....other than that, nothing sticks out more than his new troubling behaviors he's picked -up. I called his teacher and spoke to her, I even spoke about it in person at Jelani's progress report meeting, and I spoke to his classroom aid (there's 3 aids/1 teacher in class...but all therapies are within his class (no pull outs) and they get to socialize with general ed. Kindy only 30 minutes a week for some silly art class.)
Sorry for rambling...it's just been stressful for me because after I received a call from his special ed coord. for our district yesterday, she agreed that this is important, needs to schedule IEP (for end of this month) and she said I can't visit other school sites unless it's agreed upon and recommended by IEP team (I understand that). And that she "hopes" I'm not considering taking Jelani out of this class. (well, yeah I am)...I said thankyou and see you at the IEP!
I need to get all my ducks in a row (hate that term, LOL) but, come Fall I want Jelani in either a typical Kindy with an Aid or mainstreamed with at least 50% kiddos spec./50% typ. He's out of district right now, and the coordinator said she'll invite the school psychologist from within OUR district to the IEP. I will have RC coord. with me. I hate this whole thing, it took 2 months to place him in his current class, and he didn't start school till Nov...07 missing 2 months...(we we're moving too at the time). But I really shouldn't have gone with the school's recommendation to this out of district "self contained" class...but at the time, it seemed appropriate because of his global delays (he was born 3 mos. early weighing 1 lb 6 oz!) and add that with delays already present in Ds children, and this is why I chose a class with more one-on one. Now I know I was wrong.
Peer modeling is actually more important at this time to me...I can help him with academics...but I can't provide the benefits of being with typically developing kids his age. He has no siblings and his only time with kids his age is at school. I want him to repeat Kindy in the Fall, but gen. ed Kindy with an aid. Imagine me getting this? I have so much work to do. Good thing Jelani is 5 and will still be 5 in September....so no biggie....not too much time lost holding him back a year. Any advice is so appreciated.
OMG sooooory for rammmmmbling!
I guess it's my way of sorting this all out!!!!
Thanks for reading...I hope your eyes aren't hurting!
dawn
