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Post by faithhope on May 2, 2008 11:52:45 GMT -5
I should be working but I keep thinking of you moms and dads out there who have chosen to be a parent of a child with DS. I am in awe of you all. Every parent here is amazing, but I always am overwhelmed when I hear about people who adopted children with DS. Also parents who found out early in pregnancy that their baby had Ds and chose the right choice, to keep their baby, despite the odds against that.
I always wanted to adopt and cosidered myself someone who really cares for others, but never in my consideration did adopting a child with Ds enter my mind. Now as I am looking at my cute son and he is just so happy smiling at me for no reason and looking at the sky smiling as if talking to angels ( I do believe babies can see angels) I realize how we are the lucky ones to have them. Yet I honestly can't say if I would have ever chosen to have a child with DS.
So I just wanted to Thank You and Thank God for people like you, who truly get what life is about.
I know you may have already shared your story but if you wanted to I would love to hear it again.
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Post by momofrussell on May 2, 2008 12:30:03 GMT -5
Well, that was sweet. I have a friend locally.. she has 2 bio (typical) and 4 adopted with DS ;D She is in the process of bringing home #5 w/DS ;D
A.
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Post by jelanismom on May 2, 2008 12:48:14 GMT -5
Jess, you are persistent in making me cry...you are one sweet mommy and Noah is lucky to have you! I wouldn't trade my life with Jelani for anything or anybody, I even have some bizarre dreams sometimes that have me searching all over the place because he got away from me  and I run up to people and say "I lost my baby'please helpme!!! But you know how dreams are, you can't scream or talk loud...it was like a whisper, but they didn't help me find him...I eventually did. Crazy dream huh? I think it's because of how in real life I'm so protective of him and how he tends to run off on his own and I end up chasing him!  Now, if I may ask, you just moved to Fla, so you got a job like that fast? Or was it a transfer? I'm nosy today  |
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Post by Googsmom aka Jennifer on May 2, 2008 14:08:53 GMT -5
(((((((((((((((((JESS)))))))))))))))))))) ~ ~ |
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Post by Chris on May 2, 2008 16:21:59 GMT -5
Jess, I have no doubt that if you had known early on in your pregnancy that Noah had Ds you would have continued on with your pregnancy. I never gave Down syndrome any thought at all until we found out that Sarah would be born with Ds. We chose to continue the pregnancy because we believe all life has value. I had to trust God and know that Sarah was a gift.  If we were younger and if I didn't have to work, I would absolutely adopt a child with Ds. Of course, I know a lot more about Ds because of Sarah. I have fallen in love with so many kids with Ds and think in many ways they are better than typical kids. Again, the sweetness of your spirit shines through your post. Chris |
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Post by CC on May 2, 2008 21:31:27 GMT -5
"think in many ways they are better than typical kids" With all due respect, I know this is a board bout DS but to me ALL kids are equal and just plain GREAT ;D I don't think one is better then another, just my humble opinion Jess ~ I will be totally honest when Chris was born 15 years ago I will never forget the social worker coming in and talking to me about ALL options, one of which was adoption. She told me there was actually a waiting list for ones with DS. Honestly I thought to myself  you have to be kidding. But that was then and this is now and YES I can very much understand why people would adopt one with DS. But till we walked the walk so called I would never have thought that ones with DS would be on an adoption waiting list. Its kind of like you have to experience it to understand it KWIM. HUGS CC ~ |
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Post by Chris on May 3, 2008 12:11:19 GMT -5
Geez...........here we go again............I believe in MANY WAYS our kids with Ds are better than typical kids. I hope not everyone misunderstood what I was trying to say. Maybe if I had said easier or often gives us more satisfaction instead of better some people would understand.
Chris
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Post by twosomy21 on May 3, 2008 15:34:25 GMT -5
i read all your post and your son is soo lucky to have someone that accepts him and loves him and the fact that your honest about your feelings makes this whole life easier. is that too weird to say? well its strange how you thank the moms here and just last night at work my girls came in ,the baby had bite marks and they wanted my opinion and loren came with them i kissed and loved him(not too much my job is a germie place) anywho a co-worker asked about the kids i said those were my girls .granbaby and son loren she said he has -and did a flash of her hand over her face at that moment a resident inturupted and when i went back to nurses station two co workers were taking their language and laughing i do not want to believe it was about loren but oh, i would have been out of a job. i am going to ask when i see them tomarrow as hard as i tried i could not make out any words.we'll see am i peranoid, i think so but its sad two so called perfessionals would do that -well i wanted to share i think this belongs here?
and thank you for the complament that you think we are good parents
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Post by faithhope on May 4, 2008 19:25:35 GMT -5
It's so nice to always hear over and over that it is a joy to have a child with Ds. Oh and twosomy 21 I certainly hope that those people were not laughing about Loren/ That would make me sick to my stomach. This is actually one of my worst fears, that when her gets older that people will always be taken aback ( is that a word) be in shock and dumbfounded about what to say or just plain out rude and imature laughing at him or about him.
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Post by Claire on May 5, 2008 13:31:53 GMT -5
We found out in my 5th month of pregancy that Adam would be born with Down syndrome. I went into premature labour. The doctors wanted to allow the miscarriage but I refused. I spent 3 months on bed rest, 500 miles away from home in a medical facility that would be able to help give Adam a chance at life if I delivered too prematurely.
I don't regret our dicision at all, actually finding out before he was born got us ready by reading lots, asking questions and actaully my fist time on this site ;D
To me it is the parents who don't know beofre the child is born that are so courageous. My neice had a daughter with DS 20 mths after Adam was born, she didn't know and said she wished she ahd, it would have prepared her.
The only thing I didn;t like abut knowing is that I didn't really enjoy my pregancy, because of all the worrying that comes along with knowing.
My friend has also adopted a little boy at 18 mths with Down syndrome, and she chose to adopte this boy and not a typical child.
Now I don;t know if I would be courageous enough to adopt but I am glad we decided to have Adam.
The all love him dearly.
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Post by mommygwen on May 9, 2008 10:15:34 GMT -5
We adopted Greg when he was 6 years old. We were looking for a sibling for our son who has severe cerebral palsy (also adopted). We needed a very gentle child to be Jonathan's sibling.
So now, almost 10 years later, Greg loves to be the big brother.
Loves to help care for other children.
Would rather brush his brother's teeth than his own.
Couldn't be better!
Gwen
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Post by lucy on May 13, 2008 21:29:10 GMT -5
I had several tests done because of my age when I got pregnant (41) and an amnio done at week 16 showed that Ariel Moisés had DS. I did not want to have those tests done but my dad, who is a pediatrician, and Ariel´s father wanted to know if there was anything wrong. I knew I loved my child since the moment I learned I was pregnant so my decision was made to have him and love him forever.
I do not regret my decision although it was the main reason for Ariel´s father to leave us. I do not regret that either, time has proven he would not have been a good model for my son. Yes, life is hard, yes I want a whole family but not a dysfunctional family. Ariel is a wonderful child and he deserves the best, maybe one day God will give us a good, responsible father but if He doesn´t, Ariel and I have each other. We have other family members, on my side, and some friends who really love and appreciate us. I know Ariel needs a father figure but we are not in a hurry; he has learned to see his dad whenever but he knows he can always find mommy at home. I have never denied Ariel´s father his right to visit or to take him out; whenever he is not present, he is the one who misses an invaluable opportunity that will not come back.
God is good and life is short so we try to enjoy it and savour it with gratitude and laughter. Being a mom of a child with DS is a challenge but it is exactly what keeps me going. Ariel is only 6 so I am just starting a long journey following what other brave parents have done for their children. I just wished there were more around in Panama.
Almost forgot, Happy Belated Mother´s Day! We celebrate it in December so I am a bit disconnected of this holiday lately, please excuse me.
a warm tropical hug to all mothers of this forum! Salud!
lucy
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and I run up to people and say "I lost my baby'please helpme!!!
you have to be kidding. But that was then and this is now and YES I can very much understand why people would adopt one with DS. But till we walked the walk so called I would never have thought that ones with DS would be on an adoption waiting list.
