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Post by jelanismom on May 15, 2008 20:29:23 GMT -5
The meeting was what they termed a pre-IEP...I wanted to discuss his placement, 6 people were there, and the one who spoke the most was this 100 year old spec. ed matriarch who was trying to convince me of how extremely well trained and how beneficial his current placement is...but I didn't agree, and I expressed that he's picked up this screaming and other odd behaviors from mimicking classmates, I requested evaluations to address Jelani's hearing loss, sensory integration concerns, and stimming behaviors like constant mouth tapping w/ hand which all impair his ability to learn. I said 15 minutes per week with typical peers isn't enough for him, and I want to see him integrated more... I said I want to visit other school sites. All of this will be discussed in detail at next thurs. IEP (triannual). In the meantime the OT will review his current functioning levels related to sensory and motor concerns. And team will review his devel,. level and my concerns about mimicking odd behaviors from class mates. BLABLABLA...bottom line is, I need to visit other schools, I'm not thrilled with his self contained class, and I'm tired, I feel alone in this, as if I escaped from a shark tank alive.  I'll be bringing someone next week to IEP, no way do I want to go alone again. And if this is called IEP team, then why do I not feel a part of the team? I've not seen much positive improvement in Jelani since starting the class, and they try to convince me otherwise. They still haven't included in his backpack the monthly reports I had clearly said I want from OT, ST, PT...it's written in his IEP for goddness sake. I get zero communication from anyone involved in his life there...except for a short sentence in his comm. book ..."he fell asleep 20 minutes today, ate all his pizza or...he had OT today and was more alert." So this is some great news eh? I feel at a total loss with him there, I get no feedback and I have to beg for updates to be put in his backpack... I was spoiled in his other school, he was in pre-k...he had homework, the PT and OT gave printed info in his backpack for me to work on, ideas, things to help strengthen, etc.... I'm just not happy, can you tell? have to go to read wrightslaw now... thankyou for listening as always  |
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Post by CC on May 15, 2008 21:33:45 GMT -5
Awww HUGS to you. You are entitled to go look at any and all programs you want. I suggest you might want to do that very soon before school is out for the summer. Just a thought Hope your IEP goes much better then this meeting went  I never had a pre IEP meeting, hope you don't mind me asking but what was the point of that? Glad to hear you are bringing someone with you next week. Will be sending positive thoughts your way CC ~ |
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Post by Googsmom aka Jennifer on May 15, 2008 22:36:58 GMT -5
Well poo! I was hoping for a better outcome but by your tone, you are not happy  That sucks. I'd be going around looking at some different alternatives if it were me. I don't know how many schools are around your area. Do you have to pay a "fee" to move him out of district to a school you are more happy with. Here, if we move the kids to an out of district school there is a fee to do so. Maybe thats not the case there. Man Dawn, I feel for you. Let's see how the IEP goes w/ the info I sent you. Do some homework like you need anything else to look at i know  Remember, you DO NOT have to sign that IEP paper until you are satisfied that it is what you want!!! Keep up the good work w/ your facts and laws and wants and needs. It will work out in the end i'm sure. (((((((((((((DAWN))))))))))))) |
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Post by momofrussell on May 16, 2008 9:44:50 GMT -5
Did you happen to put any of these requests in writing? Also... a good way to be part of the team is throw yourself into the team somehow...bring food... use the word WE alot... "HOW CAN WE DO THIS FOR JELANI".... kinda stuff.... or point blank say that you want to feel like a TEAM and you don't! Nothing wrong with letting them know that! a. |
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Post by Connie on May 16, 2008 9:48:04 GMT -5
BRING FOOD!!! Good idea....just don't get a speeding ticket while doing that....  It kind of puts a damper on the whole idea...you know KISSING UP!!! Oh, and when you take food....make sure you are taking it in on the day of your IEP!!! This advice....is given from first hand experience!!   Hugs, Connie |
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Post by damarasmom on May 16, 2008 9:54:12 GMT -5
HMMM, I think that sounds like a great way to start the meeting. Puts everyone in a good mood, EVERYONE loves food!!!
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Post by twosomy21 on May 20, 2008 16:03:09 GMT -5
i feel so sad that your going through this and i can relate to the feeling alone part- your much more prepared than i ever have been. i know if you stick to what your feeling(placement,behaviors ext....) you will find the right school setting.six people there is a little intimadating, i have not had that many yet.i suppose 100 would not change your mind the facts are the facts.let me know if i can help with anything dawn.
i had lorens meeting to discuss fall and i looked at a site(2 more to fallow on the 22nd) the first thing the teacher said was "is he potty trained"by the way loren is making termendouse progress.anywho all the things she said after that were a blur due to the fact that i felt she did not care for this wonderfull,bright little boy she will be recieving but for the chore of diapering?i am feeling alot of anxiety because he is moving the safty net of a two yr. pre-school program.by the way i did not see a toilet station for changes and the b.r is not in the class(impotant stuff)at that age.
i hope you figure all this out for your sweet boy and for yor peace of mind
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Post by jelanismom on May 20, 2008 19:34:27 GMT -5
Yes A~, It's written in his IEP...I had an addendum mtg in March and haven't received one report.  Connie, I rememeber your thread...omg, it was funny, and NOT... so, what did you bring on the actual IEP day? Same recipe? You'll not believe this...I get an IEP invitaton, you know the one you sign and return to the school. So it says that the meeting is 5/22 and so I sign it and then invite Jelani's case wkr...anyway, I mention to Jelani's teacher that "I''ll see you on Thursday".... she says, "No Friday is the IEP," I then said, but my invitation says the 22nd"...and then I go home and fax her a copy I had made. Can you believe this? I could have shown up for his IEP and nobody would be there! (7:45a.m.) So just a misprint, but yet just another reason I'm NOT HAPPY with this placement, this school!!! grrrrrr....ok, I'll calm down. Thanks Maria, you're so sweet. You think I'm organized? Just one look at your kids, I could tell who has a mommy whose "with it". Goodluck too with Loren's placement... he's an amazing little guy and I look forward to seeing Kyle and him sometime soon! Meanwhile, Fridays D'day...and I'll update after...and thanks googs, the info is so helpful. |
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Post by victoriasdad on May 20, 2008 21:32:19 GMT -5
dont calm down, girl you need to get FIRED UP!! thats how my mom would handle the school principal when i was a kid,, you only had to climb over the principals desk and slap some sense into him one time, ahhh the good old days! right now you are reacting to what they are doing, you need to get on the offensive, lol u need to get a copy of "the art of war"
really good ideas on how to turn what your "enemies" do to your benifit................
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Post by faithhope on May 21, 2008 11:47:58 GMT -5
(((((HUGE HUGS)))))) to you and Jelani!!!! I am so sorry you are going through this. I hope you don't mind but I am going to start praying for you. I wish I had some good advice but I don't even know what I am doing with just a little baby! I think what A said about saying "We" alot and saying point blank the honest truth that you don't feel like a united team and that is what Jelani and you need and want.
How are you and Jelani doing at home? I hope that it is still lot's of fun and not just stress.
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Post by jelanismom on May 21, 2008 14:38:48 GMT -5
Ah thanks Jess....now after reading your post about the great news....Noah's toes, you're preggo, and your beautiful house w/pond...well, that makes me smile and all the stress sorta melts away. Thankyou sp much for your advice and prayers. That means the world to me...now I'm in tears and just so happy for you that I forget my probs...lol. Yes Jelani and I have fun...our little 2 person family ;D I still can't believe your awesome news Jess! I hope I'll have great news after Friday's meeting... Oh and I almost forgot...thanks CC I NEED positive thoughts my way! And Vic.dad: I AM fired up, lol...but I can't slap them just yet , you're so funny. Dawn |
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Post by Googsmom aka Jennifer on May 21, 2008 17:07:19 GMT -5
No hitting!!! "Charm" remember |
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That sucks. I'd be going around looking at some different alternatives if it were me. I don't know how many schools are around your area. Do you have to pay a "fee" to move him out of district to a school you are more happy with. Here, if we move the kids to an out of district school there is a fee to do so. Maybe thats not the case there. Man Dawn, I feel for you. Let's see how the IEP goes w/ the info I sent you. Do some homework 
Remember, you DO NOT have to sign that IEP paper until you are satisfied that it is what you want!!! Keep up the good work w/ your facts and laws and wants and needs. It will work out in the end i'm sure. (((((((((((((DAWN)))))))))))))
&&Mommy to Griffin (96), Gray (97) Collin (00) enhanced and Lauren (02) the little princess.
