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Post by Jodi on Sept 11, 2008 20:52:16 GMT -5
Just for the record, on a smaller scale I can attest to the fact that a woman can work full-time, have a solid career that is demanding, have a child with special needs (or two), and have a loving husband stay at home to do the "home stuff". It works, it's not perfect (but what is?), but it indeed works.
It has been 6 years since we decided to try this concept out, and obviously it has been the right thing to do by us. It was not what we had planned, but, as Lennon said, "life is what happens while you're busy making plans".
We have reaped many benefits from making this decision. I've often questioned whether such arrangement would negatively impact the kids. But you know what, either parent working will have its benefits and its drawbacks.
At Palin's level, there so much more to it - but I believe it is definately do-able. JMHO!
Jodi
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Post by Googsmom aka Jennifer on Sept 11, 2008 21:27:34 GMT -5
Well this is just my two cents here ok  I work more than full time (5/24's) have two kids with disabilities, a hubby that can't even pick up Brook but can play on the floor and read to her and feed her. I deal w/ the school almost everyday. Therapy once a week, every week a different one. The nurse that pops in to see Brook about once a month. A dog that always has to go pee. A neice in sports which I never miss a game. On my days off if I don't have a doc appt for one of the kids or hubby, i'm at the farm busting my butt to help my momma. A sister who always need something fixed on her car. I could go on and on I'm still alive and kickin'. Somedays I look like what sister's cat drags up on the porch but heck, Life is good |
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Post by Chris on Sept 11, 2008 21:31:09 GMT -5
When I was married to my older daughter's dad, I was the stay at home mom. I think we were pretty traditional and I was the primary parent. As a matter of fact, I did probably 90% of the parenting. At that time, I couldn't fathom that a dad could be an equal parent to a child. I would have argued that a child is better off having their mommy with them 24/7.
I have to say that with my second daughter, Sarah. We do an equal amount of parenting. For four years, my husband and I both worked part-time jobs to support the family. We were able to work our schedules where one of us was always available to be with Sarah. This arrangement worked very well for our family.
My older daughter is in college this year so my dh and I are both working full-time (sort of). I work full-time as an elementary music teacher and he works full-time teaching at a community college. Well, I actually teach a whole heck of a lot more hours than he does but we both are considered full-time.
If I could wave a magic wand, I would love to stay at home and take care of my family but that just isn't an option for our family. Many women have more earning potential or just love their jobs more than their husband.
If Sarah Palin is able to breastfeed her baby plus work full-time, more power to her! No way, no how would I want to leave my baby to go to work but I am sure Trig is in his daddy's loving arms while his mommy is away.
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Post by Jodi on Sept 11, 2008 21:39:02 GMT -5
Ahhh Googsmom... the list - I left out that I am going to school full-time, serve on a couple of boards, etc etc.
Are there still women who sit a watch soaps and eat bon-bons? LOL! Wait, that's my husband!! Ohhh - I'm only kidding (I think... where's that video camera?)!!
Jodi
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Post by Jessie on Sept 12, 2008 7:26:09 GMT -5
LOL Jodi!!!!!
We too have an unconventional arrangement (but by the sounds of it, becoming more and more common). I wouldn't say Brian is a stay at home dad necessarily, but with his business being home based he is the one that gets to rearrange his day if one of the kids needs to stay home. The two little ones do go to daycare. Our families I think have a harder time coping with the fact we send them to daycare than we do. I work from home too and so people think, why can't they keep their kids at home? Um, that would be because the company I work for doesn't pay me to have fun with my kids all day!!! LOL
Honestly, it really is because of Jason that at least one of us has to have a very flexible schedule and Brian has the opportunity to be more flexible than me. There's no way Jason can be left home alone all day in the summer and I wouldn't be able to keep an eye on him all day while on conference calls, etc.
We are just thankful every single day that we both are lucky enough to be able to have home-based incomes that allow us to be flexible with our schedules. Still doesn't mean I have any time to clean my house or do laundry though!
You single moms out there doing it all are amazing!!
Jessie
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I work more than full time (5/24's) have two kids with disabilities, a hubby that can't even pick up Brook but can play on the floor and read to her and feed her. I deal w/ the school almost everyday. Therapy once a week, every week a different one. The nurse that pops in to see Brook about once a month. A dog that always has to go pee. A neice in sports which I never miss a game. On my days off if I don't have a doc appt for one of the kids or hubby, i'm at the farm busting my butt to help my momma. A sister who always need something fixed on her car. I could go on and on 
