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Post by jeannie on Oct 13, 2008 7:44:36 GMT -5
ok do any of you have older kids w/ds and have babies? I am 35 and i have a 15yr old daughter and a 7yr. old son w/ds and i am thinking about having another child. Am i crazy? yes, yes, yes!! I really am scared that AJ my son and this "new" child will be way to far apart. For example Aj keeps up with my daughter on rides at the parks, tubing behind the boat he is wild. I am scared if I start over again it will be really hard because AJ is so much older. However he still is very young on alot of things like listen and following directions:) I know you guys can't answer weather or not i should have another child but can you give me any stories about an older child w/ds vs. little ones? Does any of you have a big gap in the ages of your kids. I am so nervous it is crazy. My mom has been great but everyone else has been so crappy. My sister actually said to me "people with ds kids don't have more kids" can you believe that. I was sick to my stomach and cried for days. I have to do IVF to have another child so that in its self is hard enough. I just keep second guessing myself.  |
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Post by Jessie on Oct 13, 2008 8:51:52 GMT -5
Hi Jeannie,
Jason is 15 and we have two little ones - 3 yrs & 18 mos. It was really hard for him at first because he was the one and only for 12 years!! Your AJ already shares everything with his older sister, so maybe it wouldn't be as big of an adjustment for him as it was for Jason.
I can honestly say now though that with Ellie & Jake being more fun for Jason - he can tickle torcher them and they love it - I think having little siblings has been a great thing for him.
Brian never thought he would have more children, but that was part of the deal when he met me. Yes, lots and lots of people that have children with Ds go on to have more kids!!
Good luck with your decision!!!
Jessie
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Post by momofrussell on Oct 13, 2008 9:05:19 GMT -5
Slap you sis! LOL Just kidding....... kinda...... Does she REALLY think that "we" don't go and have more children??? That's the silliest thing I have EVER heard!!! LOL My kids are 15, 10 and 8 (well, 8 tomorrow  ) ...... I never gave it a second thought, I wanted 3 kids and we had 3 kids. Russell is my one w/DS and he is 10. Smack dab in the middle. And you'd be suprised on how the "baby" keeps up with the others... I am sure if you did have another that he/she would be JUST fine with WONDERFUL older siblings..... Just quit listening to your sister... listen to YOUR heart and what YOUR family needs...... A. |
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Post by coolmommy99 on Oct 13, 2008 13:13:14 GMT -5
I don't personally have any exp. with having an older child with Ds and then having a baby, but I know someone online whose 1st child had Ds, and she ended up having 4 more kids. Her kids range in age from 17-5. My daughter with Ds was just over 2 when we had our 3rd child. HTH!
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Post by Emilysmom on Oct 13, 2008 20:41:38 GMT -5
Are you crazy? No no no! I think there are LOTS of moms who have a child with Ds and gladly get pregnant again. I was one of them! We had 2 sons, then had a daughter with Ds and about a year later I found out I was pregnant. Ok, well.........I didn't exactly PLAN the pregnancy, but it was a GREAT experience. The baby turned out to be the best therapy Emily ever had! Of course, I was a bit nervous until the test results came back (And honestly, I think if we had it to do over again we might skip the testing and just wait and see). I say go for it!!! I was about to turn 37 when the youngest child was born. Don't listen to your sister.............she is mistaken.
Susan
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Post by advocate4myself on Oct 13, 2008 20:44:42 GMT -5
Jeannie, don't listen to youir sister. She doesn't know what she is talking about. You will come across many who are very ignorant. Best thing is to find literature about families who have more children after having a child with Down syndrome. I am the first born in my family and I have Down syndrome. I have a sister who is two years younger than me. So, alot she knows!  You might tell her about this website. Only she will have to make a step to get on and read the messages........Debbie |
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Post by sd112170 on Oct 13, 2008 20:45:04 GMT -5
John is my 3rd. I say follow your heart also. But I will say, having 1 in your mid 30's is alot harder on the body. Everything is just older. I definitely felt it. I was very glad when I finally went into labor. And think about it. AJ will be an older brother. He would be and probably take on the role of "big brother."
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Post by Pat on Oct 14, 2008 12:08:19 GMT -5
I didn't even start having children until I was 36.5. John-John was my last, but only because we agreed before he was born. (We don't do testing) He was my chance for a boy as I married a widower & there were 3 before our 3, born in less than 3 years Whew!
Okay, I would have had more (especially if they came out like John-John). One push, God bless that boy, he sure could have given lessons to his older sister. All to say, "Go for it."
I did tell each child, while preg with the next that they would always be my baby no matter how many others I had. It was there baby too. It seemed to work with mine. They were not threatened by a new one coming, they were there to help. Victoria at 2, almost 3 was at the birth & helped give John-John his first bath. She brought him a toy to play with too.
You're not crazy. If you need help with names when you get preg, this unomas crowd is full of suggestions!!!
Pat
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Post by faithhope on Oct 15, 2008 9:25:31 GMT -5
Hey Jeannie, I have to make this quick cause my boy is rolling around all over the place!!!! Well I can personally say that we do go on to have more. Our 1st child a boy named Noah has Ds. He is only 9 12 months old and we are already over halfway thru our second pregnancy!!!!!!!! Or at least I am ;D ;D
So Yes go and have that baby. We decided against any testing or ultrasounds at all. My husband feels that the womb is sacred and we need to trust that God is giving us what he wants for us. He is right, we didn't test with Noah and I am glad because who knows how I would have been, I may have even wanted to abort and I can't believe I am saying that becuase I always said I never would after having an abortion at 17. You know the fear that comes with Ds and the unknown. Well anyways I have to go for now, his PT is here. I would love to write more.
Please keep us updated.
God bless, Love,
Jess and Noah
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Post by jeannie on Oct 20, 2008 7:18:27 GMT -5
Thank you all so much! I am pushing forward and not worried about anything other than NOT getting pregnant! I will know 1st week in december.
THANK YOU all for the support.
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Post by sd112170 on Oct 20, 2008 20:38:32 GMT -5
{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}} Will be praying for you.
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) ...... I never gave it a second thought, I wanted 3 kids and we had 3 kids. Russell is my one w/DS and he is 10. Smack dab in the middle. 
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Susan, Proud mom of Michael (32), Justin (25) Emily (22ds), and Jordan (20).
You might tell her about this website. Only she will have to make a step to get on and read the messages........Debbie
