Dilemma (sp?) here..

[CC]

K, in the big picture, it may not seem big at all.

BUT

For any of you that have been coming here for some time now know how much my Christopher LOVES Disney. Goodness its a daily discussion here LOL

Anywho Kodi Lee is going with her boyfriend and his Mom and Aunt this December for a week, the week college lets out before
Christmas Break.

We truly are a family that shares ALL here but this is one thing I cannot tell Chris. I will have to say when he asks, where Kodi is and he asks lots, I will have to say in school.

I know this probably sounds so silly BUT OMG there is absolutely NOOO way I can tell him she is at Disney and he is not

Honestly I HOPE this is the worst thing I have to deal with BUT no kidding it bugs me not to be able to tell him the truth, KWIM?

Guess I better start planning a trip to Disney for Chris for 2009 or Hmmm any chance anyone here is going and might want a guest? LOLOLOL

CC ~

[Googsmom aka Jennifer]

That is quite the stumper CC. Are you sure everyone involved will keep it hush hush? Forever. He will be so sad/mad if he ever found out. {{{{HUGS}}}} for you b/c this is a tuff one

[jelanismom]

I was just talking about Disney today...how ironic! anyway I told someone I want to take Jelani to Disneyland for his birthday next month and it'll be his first time ever...but that I dread driving there. I don't enjoy freeways much at all if I'm the one driving.
Well I had no idea a shuttle from LAX goes straight into the park for 10 bucks. I may do that. We'll maybe spend the night there too. But December is good also. Maybe let us know when you'll be going, k?!

I think really, for all intents and purposes, it's best to just tell him the truth. I would, cuz like Jenn said, can everyone keep it "hush"? Promise him a trip to Disney in Nov or Dec? This way it saves you the stress of having to lie. And the stress of someone "slipping" and him finding out later. Can you say it's just that Kodi can't give him all her attention if she's hugging her boyfriend? (Ok maybe not a good thing to say, but I'm trying. )
Sorry this is such a dilema, I feel for you!

[Emilysmom]

Doesn't sound silly at all to me! Of course I'm not in favor of lying for any reason, BUT........here is what I think I would do in this situation:

I would mark on the calendar the day Kodi will be arriving at home for her Christmas holiday, because Chris will surely be looking forward to her arrival. But, the day you mark on the calendar and talk about will actually be the day she returns home from Disney. Then, you can talk to him every day about how she'll be coming home that day, and never mention to him that she'll be going to Disney first. I mean, you don't tell him every single place Kodi goes while she is away at college normally, right? It seems like it would be much more difficult if she came home for the Christmas break and THEN left to go to Disney. He would have to ask where she was going in that case. I guess I'm assuming that she wasn't planning on coming home and THEN leaving for Florida. And LOL if she was, maybe you could convince her NOT to come home first??


Now, what to do about the photos of Kodi at Disney..........I'm not sure!!

On the other hand, you could just say that in college you get to do all sorts of cool things, and Kodi is getting to do one very cool thing.....going to Disney in December. Naw...........Just based on what I know about Chris, he would NOT be a happy camper with that info!!!

Susan

[Ericsmomma]

I agree with Susan....don't ask, don't tell!
I really like the calender idea...gets Chris focused on Kodi COMING HOME. That way you really aren't fibbing, you just aren't offering the information.

[Chris too]

Pictures tell.
I wish I could help with this one CC, but the thing is pictures tell the tale.
I'm sure that with the careful use of the calendar & talking about preparations for Kodi coming home (make it a bigger deal than usual) and for Christmas - maybe Colin could help Chris make a gift for Kodi for Christmas that week - anyway, I'm sure that with all that care, you could probably manage until the pictures show up. And you know that they will eventually.
And what if Kodi marries this man? You just know that they will always reminisce about their great week at Disney.

Point is: sometime, somewhere Chris is going to find out. Make sure you don't actually lie about it - try very, very hard to make it completely unnecessary for Chris to ask the questions at all. Keep ahead of him talking about Kodi coming home & stuff, redirect (right) - but only you can know for sure how Chris would respond to finding out that you'd lied to him. Be very careful.

[Renee']

Can you just say she is going to Florida with her boyfriend to spend fun time with his family. Have a countdown until she is home. Then you are not telling a lie. Then when Kodi comes home and/or the pictures come up she can say she went. I don't really know that it is really necessary to say exactly where she is going. There are times when my husband and I travel and we just say the state we are going to be in and not what we are going to do while there.

[CC]

THANKS Gals as always you have given me some good things to think about before we have to deal with.

I did mention to Kodi Lee, Please next time you go on a trip without your Bro, PLEASE go anywhere else other then Disney, LOLOL

CC ~

[Radonna]

I had a milder version play out for me this weekend when Jonathan went to a friends birthday party. Jonathan couldn't resist showing his excitment for the party and while he was gone I had Evan following me around crying the whole day, when Jonathan spent the night it was worse! If I could go back and just let Evan think Jonathan was at school or somewhere like that I would soooo do it. I nearly pulled my hair out that day.

[momofrussell]

You have to do what you feel is best for this situation. I don't know if I could do it myself but that doesn't make it right or wrong. I think there is SO much to cover up for me that I'd probably blow it! LOL Heck, I have a hard time with Santa Claus that I wish I could just tell Reece! LOL So, I think I'd have to just spill it

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[Chris too]

Awww a, we never lie about Santa Claus here, but that doesn't prevent their believing Silly kids. I say "You know that Santa Claus is just a character in a story right? He's not a real person." They all say "We know, Mom." and go right on talking about what Santa will bring We have lots of fun just pretending - they really do know that it's just pretend & don't mind one bit

I don't have any idea how Stevie will take all of this information, though...